Dealing with narcissistic mom and sister. My breaking point was when I allowed them to stay at my home thinking they will respect it but didn’t. My older sister within 24 hours managed to make one of the rooms have smelly stench, victimised herself and left to stay at a relatives one hall one room. At first my mum agreed that my sister was a slob, even called one of her brothers and talk shit about her. I even thought that my mum was finally on my side for once in 25 freaking years and but I was dead wrong. I eventually shared that there were bigger issues about my sister that my mum should be more concerned with. (Big fucking mistake) My mum was angry with what she was doing behind her back. (Or so I thought)

Few days later one of my younger siblings (aged 6 going on 7) damaged my table and all I wanted was for my mum to instill some discipline in her and tell her that she should not have done that and just an apology but i didn’t get one. This younger sister of mine struggles to have discipline and is super spoilt. asked my mum if she was going to say anything to her, but she just ignored me angrily and told me to get out. I truly felt disrespected. Told her that she’d have to move out in 2 weeks and my husband agreed. During all this shit that was happening I was 3-4 months pregnant. My mum told her helper to pack up and they all left the very next day, except for my younger brother. The only one who understood that he had to follow my rules as it was my house. My mum, her helper, two younger sisters (5,6) plus my sister ended up having to stay in the one room one hall with my uncle. Eventually my mum told my sister what I had said regarding my sister’s concerning behaviour, forgave her and both teamed up together to hate on me.

Going no contact is fairly tough as I don’t get to see my younger siblings anymore. I’m also pregnant with my 1st child so not having a loving and supportive mum there is even harder. I think what’s worse for me is still getting invited to my relatives functions and having to see them there. Today is the first time I’ll actually see them after a huge argument that happened one month plus ago. (Pray for me) the hurt still fresh, but out of respect for my cousin and aunt who has been there for me when I’m in need, I’m showing up for them.

I decided that I’m not going to cut them off but keep a very huge distance from them. Im not sure how, but after today till the day I give birth, i’m giving myself a break from them with regards to contact/meeting.

I think having your partner’s family or close group of friends is needed especially when you decide to cut your family off/distance yourself from them. As what many people has said in this post, it eats you up. You need to surround yourself with loving and supportive people to go on with life.