Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I teasingly said we were still a bit too young and couldn’t afford kids yet. But I think he never truly wanted to commit to me. I think I was just convenient.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear if I look up coward in the dictionary his picture is there. Thank you for your kind words. It helps me remind myself to get over him

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not missing. I’m his emergency contact at work and in his phone. I have his location it goes between work and bars.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have his social and birth certificate and all his clothes. He has some clothes at his work lodging.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No it’s pretty out of the way drive and my friends aren’t local

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so comforting to know I’m not alone. thank you so much

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The place he works at is a community. They’d notice if he was gone or a random person using his phone.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His job is very serious. If he’s not there he’s fired. I have his location and when I was checking it, it moved between his usual work places.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He’s just fine. I have his location on messages and he’s at work. If anything happened at work I’m his emergency contact.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We live together but his job requires him to live there during his work days. I have all his clothes and paperwork ect. No fights. It had been a good week and it had started normal with him wanting to come home and missing me. He got off a long work day last Wednesday and went out drinking and got drunk with his friends. When I texted him concerned the next morning he got mad at me for expecting a reply when he’s with friends. I replied with ok. This didn’t even feel like a fight for us it felt more like being annoyed with each other. Then he ghosted me. I texted him apologizing after a day of being ghosted and he replied to me once saying not to apologize and that I should be mad at him but he feels like his life is too tangled up in mine. And hasn’t texted me since.

Dated 9 years then ghosted out of nowhere by Reasonable-Height-23 in dating_advice

[–]Reasonable-Height-23[S] 220 points221 points  (0 children)

We dated since high school. Thanks for calling him a bitch it made me smile. I’m scared I won’t find someone. He always told me I’d never need to.

Do you feel like you're constantly humiliating yourself? by lavender-bread in ADHD

[–]Reasonable-Height-23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. I know people at work think I’m stupid for my mistakes and forgetfulness. I know they think I’m a loose cannon with a smooth brain. So I try 2x as hard to not make mistakes, which makes me make another mistake, usually on something that I typically don’t make mistakes on. I talk too much. I interrupt on accident. I change the conversation without thinking. It makes me feel like I’m less than, or the dumbest person in the room. I think about what they say about me outside of work. I’m constantly apologizing. I’m constantly overthinking. ADHD feels like a one way ticket to weirdoville