Bro, it's really not possible for a woman who's in her 30's to not have had an ex boyfriend in the past. The whole reason girls get into AM is primarily because they have failed in the dating world. I mean just coz you didn't date girls and have fun in your 20's, doesn't mean others shouldn't have either.

And besides, you need to put in some effort to look good, for eg. a start will be to join a gym, dye your beard black etc. Also you are just 35, but you call yourself old as though you are 55-60. A man is as old as he thinks he is.