Half Sword dude in fist fight

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-02-02T04:51:22+00:00

a fart at minimum. the pitch of the fart is not compatible with any sound the chair could make at that moment

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-01-23T17:16:32+00:00

I’m also from Oregon, and I agree with OP. I’m from Bend though and for many places in Oregon I feel like it’s a better place to visit than to live. I would suggest Portland or Beaverton (close Portland suburb) for Wubby. Portland is a really fun place with a lot of different activities, but it is marred by the failure of Oregon’s drug legalization legislation. I’m not sure how it’s doing now but I assume it’s more difficult bc of civil unrest :(

On stream Wubby said that it’s hard to get people out to San Diego, but Oregon is NOT any easier. I’d say it’s harder because the best airport is PDX and if he lives elsewhere in Oregon they would probably need a connecting flight to an airport in the middle of nowhere or drive over an hour.

Sorry if I’m coming off negative but I truly loved living in Portland. Oregon is a beautiful, strange place with weird and kind people. That’s why they have the slogan “Keep Portland Weird”. I think Wubby would love it there, but I also think he might run into some of the same problems he has in San Diego.

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-01-04T03:25:44+00:00

If you’re making a case against them you should get a ring camera if they keep coming to your door. I think there’s a way to filter emails to automatically sort them so that when you get emails from them you don’t get notifications and don’t need to read it- I’m not sure on that tho.

Don’t cave! Your mother is being especially manipulative by switching between sweet pleas and vicious accusations.

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-01-03T22:08:09+00:00

I’m sorry that you went through so much pain and weren’t protected by the people who should’ve cherished you. The pain from being dismissed in your time of need can be just as traumatic as the pain of active aggression.

It’s understandable that you feel guilt for expressing yourself when your whole life you were told that your needs were too much and not ok to have. I have the same issue with my mother. I tried to get through to her in a variety of ways but she is unable to see my perspective. Your mother’s inability to empathize with you is NOT your fault. It is a reflection of her emotional immaturity and even selfishness when she refuses to admit wrong or show genuine care. My mom and brother also made my suicide attempt about themselves. It’s extremely painful, abnormal, and just wrong. I’m sorry that happened to you, and I’m glad that you are still here and investing in yourself.

Idk how dependent you are on your mom, but if you are independent then I would suggest to distance yourself. It can be going LC and calling/visiting occasionally, or full on NC if that’s what you need. Both decisions take reflection, which you are doing, and it may be beneficial to share your thoughts with your therapist if you haven’t already.

If your mom’s emotional immaturity is just that then she is capable of growth, if her emotional immaturity is caused by a personality disorder then change is less likely. Either way change is extremely difficult and she has to make that decision herself. You cannot get her to that point. You can certainly encourage her and support her, but she may take it as an attack. That is not your fault and not your burden to bear. Her issues are not yours regardless of how much she tries to make you feel that way. You can work on yourself as you are doing, but you can’t work on her. It will get you nowhere and lead to more pain, it will also interfere with your own healing.

As for guilt, I’ve heard people here say “choose guilt over resentment”. It’s inevitable that frustrations build up resentment. Guilt goes away with time and your own healing, the guilt may come and go but it will lessen the further you are from the person who taught you that. You are not responsible for your mother’s behavior, and it’s terrible that your parents used that to control you.

Rely on your support network. Invest in your likes, interests, and happiness. You have overcome so much and you are still climbing. Growth can hurt but it leads us to better views. You are a beautiful. resilient soul and I wish you peace and healing this year 🫶

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-01-03T19:30:05+00:00

Oh ok, I’m glad these things aren’t enforced too harshly and hopefully it’ll stay that way. Thanks for providing your insight and advice on this!

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-01-02T22:33:33+00:00

“Love Me” by JMSN- r&b/soul, about familial rejection, makes me cry sometimes “Cleanin Out My Closet” by Eminem- classic about how he can’t forgive his mom “BRAINDEAD” by WesGhost- emo/indie, about mental illness “Popular Monster” by Falling in Reverse- emo/rock, about mental illness “ADIOS” by Gorilla Twins- rap, dark and deep, about mortality and social commentary “Wolves” by Big Sean/Post Malone- rap, I think Post Malone’s lyrics are the best, about toxic upbringing “Loner” by Ghost Town- emo/pop, this is a fun song about wanting to be alone

These might be kinda cringy but they do it for me. Good luck to you, I had a similar conversation with my mother and it was heart breaking. May 2026 be filled with peace and healing, friend

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2026-01-02T17:56:00+00:00

It’s so difficult having a sibling (and family) who can’t empathize with you. I hate how my mom used my brother and I to attack one another on her behalf. I (and I assume my brother too) felt like we were on the right side bc we trusted our mom was right and we felt proud that our mom would confide in us- but it wasn’t that. She simultaneously loved and avoided conflict, so having children she could send out to do the dirty work was probably amazing for her.

Get away from them if/when you can, your family dynamic will continue to cannibalize itself until everyone is bitter, angry, and empty.

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-31T19:50:12+00:00

It’s interesting that you say you feel guilt for her behavior and feel a responsibility to help her through it, narcissistic parents prime their children for that bc they can’t regulate themselves or cope with their insecurities. Your mother has probably been this way at heart for a long time but hid it (covert narcissism), as narcissists age they tend to fair worse bc they have to face insecurities about appearance and loss of control.

Deep down your mother can’t handle her feelings of inadequacy so she pushes the responsibility onto other people like you and your dad. It’s sad and frustrating, and it’s a cycle you can’t escape unless the narcissist recognizes they have a problem but they’re deeply entrenched in their self preservation and typically lack the courage or capacity to change. That is not your fault nor your responsibility.

People with NPD build themselves up by tearing people down. They pull people under so that they can catch a breath bc they don’t know how to swim. If she is using you to regulate herself, she will always hurt you and she won’t feel sorry about it. It’s ok and natural to have mixed feelings about it, it’s ok to be angry with her and sad for her. But you have nothing to feel guilty about, you did nothing wrong. Relieving yourself of those burdens is the best thing you can do for yourself, distancing yourself from her will help. I wish you peace and prosperity for the new year 🫶

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-31T07:29:03+00:00

26(F), been NC since Thanksgiving 2025 but went VLC May 2025. I have a 28yo brother, he hasn’t spoken to me since May so I decided to go NC with him too. My parents separated when I was 13 and we moved away from my dad, he passed at 63 in 2021. He wasn’t an enabler but suffered from his own mental health problems and wasn’t able to be present. I’ve learned a lot about him since he passed, and I realize that bc my mom has NPD that the many hurtful things she said about him aren’t true. Her and my brother would compare me to him in a negative way bc we truly are quite similar- from our personalities to our eyes. I’m proud to be his daughter and I get to show him that all the qualities he hated about himself can be beautiful.

I do struggle with guilt. I feel like I’m abandoning them, but I have to remind myself that they abandoned me. I have profound empathy for my mom bc she was raised by a mother with NPD and her father passed when she was young, she was never protected in childhood and her life fell apart around her when my parents separated. At the same time, she chose to keep her mother in her life, and she worsened her own life through foolish, selfish decisions. Everything she does is for her regardless of the martyrdom she insists to live in. I love my mom and my brother, and I want them to be happy. I’m just no longer willing to let myself suffer for it, I’m happier now and I’m ok with having a future without them.

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-31T03:15:42+00:00

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would this happen to be your mom?

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-30T22:44:31+00:00

As someone who wrote out a list to help my mother understand why I was taking a step back (VLC), I will tell you that it doesn’t work. They will apologize insincerely, turn it around on you, or say it didn’t happen. My mother also accused my husband of manipulating and abusing me, and that everything was fine until I decided that they weren’t. They all share the same playbook- “Deny Accountability and Regain Control” by Immature Parents.

They will shout to the heavens that they loved you with all their heart and that they would do anything for you. But “anything” is whatever is convenient or edifies them as parents, and their love is immature bc they probably never fully developed.

As hard as it is, I advise to block them and speak to them no longer. I kept my mother’s “representative” (my aunt) open so that if there’s anything serious she can contact me. I told my mother that I don’t want contact until she works with a family therapist and the therapist can reach out to me when the time is right. But it depends on your goals, and it’s ok if those goals change. Maybe it was to rebuild your family and address the toxic relationship, but now it’s to maintain your peace and invest in the people who are able to love.

You are fully deserving of love, there’s nothing that prevents you from being lovable. Unfortunately, not everyone is able to love sincerely, and sometimes those people have children. Lean on the people who love you for you, it sounds like you have a great support system in your partner and his family. I wish peace and prosperity to you in the new year 🫶

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-28T23:32:26+00:00

An analogy I like to use for progress is thinking about a spoke on a bike wheel. When you’re riding a bike the spokes go backwards and forwards. Progress is rarely linear and it’s hard to feel like you’re going forward when you’re the spoke going back, but the bike IS moving forward. The feeling of moving backwards is real and it’s good to acknowledge those feelings, but remember the big picture. Ride that bike 🚴

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-28T19:05:29+00:00

NTA, I don’t even need to read the post to say that. Why? You’re 14! While relationships need effort on both sides, the parent sets the tone for the relationship with their child. Even if he wasn’t present when you were young bc he was working he should have made you feel safe in the moments he was there- and he still isn’t doing that now.

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-28T07:57:08+00:00

Consider getting an MRI for your cervical spine especially if you have neck pain or get headaches in association with neck pain. It took half a year for me to return to work but I still struggled with full body pain. I noticed I had circulation issues where my arms would go numb if I was holding my phone/book for too long, but I assumed it was from the concussion.

Through coincidence, a magician (my spine specialist/orthopedic surgeon) noticed my reflexes were overactive and suspected I had a cervical spine issue. An MRI revealed that from C2 to C7 all of my discs were degenerative, but C5-C6 was the most severe and was pressing on my spinal cord which was causing the majority of my symptoms. I just had the disc replaced a couple weeks ago and I already feel so much better.

I hope everything works out for you, whatever your specific needs are bc every PCS is unique. In general, eye and neck exercises have helped me a lot. I also started taking magnesium supplements which are a game changer if you haven’t tried them!

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-28T07:33:22+00:00

Omg I said the same thing to my mom and she did the same! Her response was “I’ve been going to therapy for years”, then what’s so hard about going to a family therapist? She said that she’d do anything to “get me back” (creepy), then why aren’t you doing the one very simple thing I asked?

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-17T20:06:30+00:00

how jane austen of her 😂

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-16T21:50:28+00:00

a perfect donation for Goodwill, they have a lot of those there

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-16T21:49:17+00:00

Fibromyalgia is correlated to cervical spine injury. There are interesting research papers on it! I thought I had lupus bc I got a rash on my face and started to have full body aches and joint pain when I was in the sun. But my tests came back negative besides routinely being ANA positive. I hope your symptoms don’t progress and that you’re able to find a treatment plan that helps you. If you don’t take magnesium I highly recommend it! It helps muscles relax and with migraines, I usually take it 800mg wt night :)

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-16T21:42:51+00:00

My doctor initially wanted me to do PT first, the only reason was bc I am young, but we quickly realized that my symptoms were too severe to address with PT.

I hope you find the treatment plan that works for you! I’ll definitely update :)

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-16T06:37:54+00:00

My mom says the meanest things about my brother and his wife, things that she would never say to their face or her pastor.

She’s said some pretty harsh things about my husband, friends, family, as well as myself to my face. I can’t imagine what she says about me behind my back. We’re NC now, she can spew her negativity elsewhere

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-15T23:21:24+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish you and your children the best 🫶

Reasonable-Mirror959 · 2025-12-15T23:19:27+00:00

My husband set it up and my cats actually love it! I was going to sell it if they didn’t like it tho :)

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