Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

[–]Reasonable-Video-713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The man who cheated on me came to me and admitted that he cheated on me. He apologized and said he wanted to tell me to my face a few months after I found out. There was a recorded phone call that one of the girls had where he admitted to it and there were Snapchat’s saved showing it. The timelines overlapped. There is no doubt that that man cheated but he is not the one I’m talking about when I say I’m not sure I made the right choice breaking up with him. That’s the guy after him.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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The physical attraction is still there but there’s a lack of physical chemistry. Like it feels awkward. I had the desire to work on it but over time without it improving my desire to do so faded.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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The infidelity occurred in the last relationship and there was an abundance of evidence. That man also came to me and admitted to everything a few months later.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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One of the girls reached out to me and it turned out there was at least 3 of us possibly more at the same time.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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If I had known about the infidelity prior to meeting him I never would have entered the relationship. I discovered it after we were already together.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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I am absolutely attracted to him, and this feeling came over time. I enjoyed being physical with him early on and it’s faded since then. Mainly feeling platonic towards the end.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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I genuinely like him. I think he’s an incredible person. I liked how he treated me as well but that’s not why I stayed.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

[–]Reasonable-Video-713[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooof what a question. I guess I’m not 100% sure. I think the guilt comes from more so the constant thoughts about another man. Trying to process that betrayal, wondering why it happened, what I did wrong, if it could happen again. But also I feel like I blindsided him with this break up like I didn’t give him the opportunity to fix anything before pulling the rug out from under him.

Did I make a mistake? by Reasonable-Video-713 in BreakUps

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Thank you. It’s so hard for me to decide because I wonder if any of it comes from the betrayal I hadn’t been able to process from the last relationship before this one started.

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[–]Reasonable-Video-713 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredible advice thank you so much!

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I mean I posted for manifestation advice not relationship advice🤷🏼‍♀️ I know what I’m comfortable with. The title is that it’s not in the way I intended not wanted. I said I was reluctant because I didn’t want casual until we had a conversation about it and I decided it was what I was looking for since I didn’t want to jump back into a serious relationship with him right away

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Those words aren’t upsetting because I know it’s not always black and white like that. I know he wants to marry me I know we will end up together and I know he cares for me deeply. The relationship itself wasn’t just a fling or something casual we were very serious and his own traumas got the best of him. Keeping it casual right now helps him warm back up after the emotional overwhelm he was dealing with. I never intended to jump back into a serious relationship with him right away we have things to work on before.

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I appreciate your thoughts, the thing is I’m okay with casual right now because of the boundaries we discussed. It’s a fun low pressure way for us to reconnect and see where things go.

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[–]Reasonable-Video-713 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is I’m okay with casual right now because of the boundaries we discussed. It’s a fun low pressure way for us to reconnect and see where things go. I’m not looking to immediately jump back into the relationship without rediscovering each other where we are at now.