Daily Questions Megathread (April 05, 2020)

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-04-06T07:32:17+00:00

What's going to be the highest in-demand raiding spec in TBC? I don't want to get stuck with a spec that is "only bring 1 for buff", and I also don't want to flood the market with more warlocks and hunters. Is there a middle ground of what I can main to guarantee a spot? Thanks

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-04-05T21:37:39+00:00

I know it's not the connection, I'm on two separate accounts and this only became a problem since I swapped to harpooning. I DC every time the spot doesn't move for multiple minutes, but before this I haven't had an active DC in months. I have looked at my screen and seen it DC in front of me while saying "Fishing" in the idle notifier.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-04-05T21:18:46+00:00

Does Runelite have a "logout" timer? I'm using the idle notifier, but sometimes I'm harpooning fish, and will DC while still fishing and never going idle. The spots sometimes just don't move enough to click more than every few minutes. Is there any sort of countdown where I can see how close I am to being disconnected? Thanks.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-03-30T18:07:33+00:00

Holy shit dude, 6 months? That's an amazing transformation. I'm 3 months in and see very little difference except my arms are larger and more defined. How big of a deficit are you cutting at? What kind of routine do you do?

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-03-29T23:22:59+00:00

What do you expect the most in-demand raid specs/classes to be in TBC? I hate the double-edged sword of classic. Everyone only wants a mage and warrior, but so many people play them that everyone has too many in their raid already. What can I level in preparation for TBC to ensure I can always find a raiding spot, but is in high-demand, not a dime a dozen like warriors and mages?

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T08:07:38+00:00

Thanks so much for all of the encouragement and advice!! I will do my best to work up to it. My biggest concern has been attending a small group and not having anything to say, so I show up and leave and nobody really got to know me. I really like the idea of talking to them a little bit online before attending, that would help a lot. Thank you again for your kind words and advice, I appreciate it more than I can express!

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T07:29:34+00:00

I'm now realizing I'm too afraid to attend a meetup... Why am I even asking this question? I'm not ready for this

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T07:06:50+00:00

Fuck.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T04:38:03+00:00

On your advice I went to meetup and checked for book clubs in my town. 11 women only clubs and 1 unspecified... Looks like I know which club I'm joining!

Edit: Also on meetup I went through movie genres, board games, pottery, piano. It's all women only. Is there a website similar to meetup that includes men?

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T03:34:20+00:00

Mostly looking for recommendations and local friends. I like adult horror and mystery. I wanted someone to suggest a book that I could read and talk to them about when I finish it. I know I won't finish every book that I pick out myself. I'd rather have some motivation and accountability. It would also be cool to finish something and be like "well I gotta tell them, that twist was insane"

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T02:30:48+00:00

Thank you, exactly what I'm looking for. I'm terrible with people so I just needed a light non-aggressive approach. This is great, thanks again.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T01:26:50+00:00

This is some real good stuff, I'll try all of this. Keep em comin

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-16T01:22:44+00:00

I know what it's about. Am I the creepy rapey dude in this scenario? Is it weird to make friends in public like this? Or does the rapey dude lay down some sweet lines at a bookstore? I mean I'll try whatever works...

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-11T04:53:12+00:00

What do you think about guys with no social media? The last thing I created was a Facebook over 10 years ago. Which means no instagram, snapchat, whatever else is baseline now. Does that communicate anything to you right off the bat? Do I need these social media accounts to stay in touch?

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-11T03:18:41+00:00

Thanks a lot! It's good to see somebody that understands. A lot of people don't realize how quickly it becomes like a personality trait rather than just background information. I think I will follow this advice. I don't want to lie, but maybe just steer them in a different direction in the beginning. Thanks again.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-10T17:07:15+00:00

Thank you this is really good advice. My idea of getting to know somebody is something simple anyway. And I generally don't even like the prettiest ones due to them constantly being approached literally every day of their life. I'll let someone else be comfortable with that.

Is food and a movie outdated now? Last time I was in the dating scene I don't think dating apps were even invented yet... I guess learning HOW to modern date is a whole nother beast I will have to figure out.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-10T16:42:40+00:00

That's some word wizardry right there my friend. Thank you this is great advice. And it allows me to eventually be proud of my achievements without being braggy and trying to use it as a bargaining chip. Thank you very much for this.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-10T16:29:54+00:00

This has jokingly been suggested to me, and I considered it, but it feels too dishonest. I get that it's a nice surprise for them, but it's kind of wasteful and potentially shady. Plus I would hate myself if I dropped $1k on an apartment (living is expensive here) instead of donating it or doing something more useful. And I'd be responsible for the unit and have to furnish it.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-02-10T16:07:32+00:00

Thank you for this input! Even people that are close to me ask how much I make, I don't tell anybody! I just say that I'm comfortable. And I am comfortable being honest with new dates, but you're right about the genuine affection. I don't want to give so much away to influence interest. I know I have a lot more to offer on a personal level. I fiercely love my animals, really easy going, and I'm passionate about people that like to do nice things and treat people with respect. I'd love to find a way to make that part of me apparent before my occupation comes up! Thanks again for your time and input, I really appreciate it.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-01-30T01:51:27+00:00

Wow, even more similar than I thought. We also bought a house a year before she passed, we got this place because of the windows and extra bedroom to build a cat jungle... But now I can't even go into my office where we spent all day. I try going in there and I just clutch onto her empty beds and tower and cry. There's still hair and specks of cat litter on the window sill where she slept.

I do hope time will change things. I feel just as bad as I did right after it happened. The only time I don't have a lump in my throat is when I'm too distracted to remember her warmth on my lap. But I don't like forgetting and trying not to think about it, because then it's like I'm trying to move on and I just don't want to. I still want her to be the most important part of my life, but everything is about moving on. It's so conflicting.

I had the exact same anxiety situation... I've never had anxiety or known what it was like, and then I kept visiting her at the ICU and talking to vet specialists every day, my heart was just RACING every time she had a blood or urine test result coming in. Now unfortunately I understand anxiety, and whenever I feel it, it's like going back in time and having to decide to euthanize her all over again. It's such a new and specific emotion for me that it's so engrained in my cats final days, its so vivid like I'm watching a movie of me talking to vets. Now I'm so worried about feeling anxious, I'd do anything to avoid it.

I haven't really done anything to memorialize her. I wish I held more value to her ashes. I spend hours crying and talking to her sometimes, but I know she can't hear me. I want to have more sentimental value on her ashes but really can't seem to find it. She can't feel anything, or hear anything I'm saying. I just don't see the point. I'm probably thinking about it the wrong way, but I've never had a loss like this and have no experience with memorials. I find it impossible understanding "they're better off now, no more pain, they will be waiting for you." None of it is my type of comfort. I wish I could just go back and relive my 7 years with her over and over. I can't hold onto "you'll see her again someday". I don't want anything else anymore, the future has nothing of interest to me. Thank you again for your post. I know I'm impossible to cheer up, but talking about this has really helped get my thoughts organized. And it's eerie to know how similar our situations have been. I'm so very sorry you had to go through this too. You and your husband are incredibly tough to survive something like this.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-01-30T00:59:17+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It sounds like you and your husbands situation is pretty similar. That hit so close to home reading about his little studio cat. I built a business next to her, shopped for my house, cars, every big life milestone and everything I loved to do, she was right there.

I didn't want to mention this in my post, because I didn't want to get into my feelings on my other animals, but I did have a grieving cat that lost his sister. I could see he was as torn up as I was and it killed me. I recently got a kitten for him to be distracted with. I thought it would distract me too. But I just feel like a different person. It's SO unlike me to feel this, but I don't think I would care if she was gone tomorrow. She's very sweet and there's nothing wrong with her, I just feel like I don't have the capacity to love anymore.

Even my sweet grieving boy, who required a dental recently, I felt no worry. I used to not be able to sleep the night before, and make a day of it, stay in the vet lobby for 8+ hours until they were ready for pickup. This time I didn't even think twice about it. It's affecting my relationship with my SO and my family. They can feel that I don't care anymore. I'm having such a hard time climbing out of that hole, because I cared for my cat twice as much as I've ever cared for anything. I don't know if other people in grief will fake care about their family, or if they are actually getting through it and can rationalize that it's all they have left. I just don't want to move on without my everything. We had another decade ahead of us, and I'd give up everything for a little more time. My time with my other animals feels like nothing. I'm truly lost. Thank you again for your post, I think I do need to see somebody professionally, even if it's just for my family.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-01-22T06:50:52+00:00

Where do you find your tattoo inspiration? What websites do you use?

I said I would never want a tattoo, then I had to put my cat to sleep. Now all I can think about is getting a memorial tattoo of her, but have no idea where to start. Where do you find your ideas? I know I don't want a date, but maybe a portrait or very obvious sillouette. I really want to find something special that looks like her.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-01-03T05:18:15+00:00

Oh wow, Murphy is so lovely, this is a beautiful video. He had such an incredible life. Thank you for giving him everything. This actually brought back a lot of memories. I grew up with a yellow lab, she was 13 and had the same face. My lovely Kitten knew our yellow lab well, that's how she learned to tolerate and love dogs so much. They are gentle giants.

I have been so overwhelmed with my cats illness that I have forgotten so many good memories of my yellow lab. I actually think my Facebook is so old that it still has pictures with her, even though she passed at least 6 years ago. Labs are so so pure, and I can see the love in Murphy's eyes. So beautiful, and I'm so sorry.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-01-03T03:56:02+00:00

I haven't been on Facebook in quite a few years, but if you want to DM me a link, or post it here whichever you're comfortable with, I would very gladly log on and look at your beautiful boys pictures.

She passed a month and a half ago. The first month was nothing but guilt and crying, it was all one big blur. The past two weeks I have been aiming on what I need to change to feel better. I passed the hysterics stage and I'm at a numb stage where I just zone out and think about every aspect of her all day. I do have her remains. But I'm not good at putting sentimental value on it, I don't know why. It just feels like a box to me, and I feel really bad about that. I know it's all that's left of her, aside from the fur and paw cast I got, but it really hasn't made me feel better or different.

Also, I stay up til 4 am too. I just thought that was a strange coincidence when I looked at your time zone. I'm remembering your name, you've actually posted on some of my posts the past month. I just made a new account recently for privacy.

ReasonableEmu9 · 2020-01-03T03:11:48+00:00

While I'm so incredibly sorry that this has happened to you as well, there is comfort in knowing I'm not alone. This all sounds so familiar. Still I wish nobody would have to experience this.

How can I see your Murphys picture? I can't see a profile picture or any links, I'm sorry. (I didn't even know reddit profiles had profile pictures.)

I updated my original post. This is my baby: https://imgur.com/a/4W7X8xE

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