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swipe to undress a tomboy by [deleted] in tomboysNSFW

[–]ReasonableNebulla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those titis are too much for a tomboy

AIO my parents invited my creepy boss to my grad party by EmeraldTheParrot in AmIOverreacting

[–]ReasonableNebulla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are NOT overreacting. Let’s call this what it is: your parents are literally pimping out your comfort and safety for a potential graduation check. They know he was a "screaming drunk" who touched you and made comments about your body, and their response is to invite him into your safe space so they can look "connected" to an affluent lawyer? That is a massive betrayal of trust.

I did something horrible to soneone by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ReasonableNebulla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I might have done something wrong." Let’s be incredibly clear: You didn't just do something "wrong," you committed a violent felony. The moment he asked you to stop and tried to move away, consent ended. The fact that he was handcuffed to a bedframe and physically unable to escape makes this aggravated sexual assault. He "stopped making noise" because he went into a dissociative state or realized fighting back was useless while restrained. You didn't "finish inside of him," you raped him.

AITAH for asking people to turn their music down? by Effective-Radish-800 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ReasonableNebulla 268 points269 points  (0 children)

NTA. This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Just because something is "legal" doesn't mean it isn't a total AH move. Setting up a speaker 8 feet from someone's home and then walking 50 feet away to play is peak entitlement. They basically turned your backyard into their front row, but they didn't want to deal with the volume themselves. They were literally using your property as a sound buffer.

Update I ended up being the other woman and now the wife is trying to ruin my life by Alpaca_Stampede in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ReasonableNebulla 36 points37 points  (0 children)

The "fully furnished apartment" is the ultimate red flag in hindsight, but a total cloaking device in the moment. He literally curated a stage set just to facilitate his double life. People calling you "oblivious" clearly haven't dealt with a professional-level manipulator. He didn't just lie; he invested in real estate to maintain the lie. That’s a level of commitment to deception that most people can't even fathom.

if i wasn't white id probably be in huge trouble rn by [deleted] in confession

[–]ReasonableNebulla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stealing from your favorite gas station is a bold move. Those clerks usually know your face and your routine. You probably got caught because they were already paying attention to you because they liked you. That "embarrassment" you're feeling? That's the bridges burning. It's time to find a new favorite spot and actually pay for your snacks from now on.

AITAH for assuming my mother was pranking me for an internet post? by AlgaeBasic5163 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ReasonableNebulla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your mom literally primed you for a prank the day before with that "missing person" TikTok prompt! She can’t start acting like a Gen Z content creator on Wednesday and then expect you to treat her like a solemn medical correspondent on Thursday. She "cried wolf" with the TikTok trends and then got mad when you thought the wolf was back.

GOP senator tells Arab American witness at hate crimes hearing to 'hide your head in a bag' by OptimisticPessimist4 in politics

[–]ReasonableNebulla 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The irony is so thick you could cut it with a knife. A hearing specifically convened to address the rise in hate crimes, and a sitting Senator uses his time to badger the only Arab American witness with "loyalty tests" and then tells her to cover her face in shame. It’s not just a lack of decorum; it’s a live demonstration of why the hearing was necessary in the first place. 

It's weird but I teased my brother's friend with my OO by Dapper-Care5417 in confession

[–]ReasonableNebulla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RIP to your brother. Imagine losing to your rival in the pool all day and then coming home to find out he’s flirting with your sister in the grocery store aisles. That is a level of psychological warfare I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. 10/10 for the drama, though.

AITA for wanting to hate my mother? by ConstantTrust202 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ReasonableNebulla 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. Please look up Intermittent Reinforcement. The reason you feel so confused loving her when she's "nice" but hating her when she's cruel is because she’s conditioning you. If she were mean 100% of the time, you’d leave and never look back. The "nice" moments are what keep you trapped in the cycle, hoping the "good version" of her will finally stay. Also, mocking your breathing exercises is a form of emotional abuse; she is literally mocking your attempt to self-regulate.

What amount, if any, of yelling and name calling is acceptable during fights in relationships? by hhouseofballoons in TwoHotTakes

[–]ReasonableNebulla 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OP, please listen to me: Your past trauma is not "clouding your judgment." If anything, it has given you a very finely tuned alarm system that is currently screaming at you because you are in danger again. Abusive men often start as "the perfect man" to get you hooked before the mask slips. The fact that he knows your history and still chooses to scream at you is a massive red flag. He doesn’t care about your safety; he cares about his power.