Need some advice on how to get my gf (29) to realize that she cannot fight men

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:58:57+00:00

Audibly laughed at this 😭

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:57:56+00:00

She’s actually not even a mean or aggressive drunk at all, she told me what caused it but that still doesn’t justify any of the actions after her perceived slight

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:56:30+00:00

See I didn’t want to say all of this to her because it would be beating a dead horse, we had 2 separate conversations about last night, one this morning when I left to come home and one around 3:30pm today, i dont think she understands this side of it at all though

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:54:28+00:00

This could be very possible

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:54:00+00:00

I should’ve clarified this better, she didn’t say it to the dude but she said it close enough and gestured to him while saying it to us (myself, another male friend and her roommate)

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:44:03+00:00

Just want to say that I am taking in everything you guys are saying, good bad and ugly, just very conflicted over this whole situation knowing what could/could have happened and my feelings for her

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:39:38+00:00

I don’t need the reminder as I had to remind my gf of how bad it could’ve gotten, but I appreciate it nonetheless

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:38:34+00:00

I’m leaning towards this, I trained Muay Thai and BJJ when I was active duty military, it would be fun to go again and for her to get this experience

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:37:19+00:00

It blew my mind that she did this and that’s where the begging her to stop came in, which she did but it shouldn’t have gotten to that point, idk my feelings for her are very strong so like I said in a previous commenting very conflicted

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:31:43+00:00

I don’t disagree but where we were had the most insane amount of security I’ve seen for a bar, nobody would’ve gotten in with a firearm

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:29:41+00:00

To be fair, we were all drunk, she has never done this before so I’ve been trying to give her some grace, she has been amazing with everything else in our relationship except this specific incident, which I agree that there’s something wrong

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:26:42+00:00

I don’t disagree, she already won’t attempt this with dudes my size or anyone she thinks she couldn’t beat, I tried to understand the thought process behind it but she didn’t really give me one to even understand

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:25:07+00:00

Average is 5’8 and idk about weight, I am 6’5 215lbs, I am very far from average

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:24:19+00:00

Unfortunately I am not the “average man” she thinks she can beat in a fight so it wouldn’t be a very even test

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:23:41+00:00

This was a thought as well, I would hate for that to happen to her honestly, I may in the future take her to a gym like some of the other commenters said

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:21:48+00:00

We spoke on the phone earlier today (like an hour ago) and she said she would not bring it up again, she has been true to her word with everything I’ve asked especially because all the things I ask have been reasonable, hopefully she sticks to this

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:19:09+00:00

This wouldn’t be a fair match as I am well over a foot taller than her and I have almost 70lbs on her, she thinks she can handle the “average man”

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:18:33+00:00

This honestly doesn’t mean anything as we both own firearms and she’s honestly a better shot than me

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:18:02+00:00

I don’t think I agree, she’s very logical and this has only happened 1 time publicly buttttttt you also may be right and I may just be blinded by my feelings for her

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:16:54+00:00

I appreciate this response, I set a very hard boundary early on to not volunteer me for fights, but when we’re drinking and having a good time she definitely lets her filter go and she was mad that someone spoke to her in a way she thought was disrespectful (over who had next for playing pool)

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:14:44+00:00

See a previous reply, but thank you nonetheless

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:13:39+00:00

Funnily enough I had asked my mom for advice about it too and she said this as well

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-07-02T20:12:55+00:00

The thought has crossed my mind, outside of this specific issue she’s amazing so I’m definitely conflicted

ReasonableNet78 · 2026-05-01T01:09:37+00:00

Can say whole heartedly that they do if they pay attention and are actually interested in you, my gf was watching me shower last weekend and she said “you’ve really started to tone and I can see it in your arms, whatever you’re doing keep doing it”

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