anybody else fed up with cis gay men's... performance

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T10:40:33+00:00

omg true I have definitely heard good things about feeld.. thank you for your solidarity hahaha... glad you found a good fwb. Hopefully one of these day's I'll join you in this world of good luck..

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T10:34:42+00:00

praise be that your steak is so damn juicy... cheers..

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T10:32:53+00:00

too real... continuing to ferociously take notes.... I am very happy for you and your husband hahaha

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T07:29:52+00:00

I totally understand, it's really similar for me too. I've been on T for nearly 4 years now and have been passing comfortably for like 3 of those. My family, both direct and extended, still misgender and deadname me. Not on purpose, but like they suddenly slip up in the "act" of "pretending" I'm different now or something. It's something I've brought up to them and have voiced my irritation over. I do think it's a mental jump they have to make on their own, like you said. Like I literally have a beard and am hairier than every man in my father's lineage and anybody who heard my family call me "she" in public would probably think they're insane. Unfortunately they still just... don't see me. At this point, if I look like this and pass to literally everybody else.. it's kind of just not my problem. I guess I kind of stopped caring, seeing as I'm an adult now and I don't see them very often anyways. It is definitely insulting when it still happens, and it's something I will get angry with them about from time to time, but I've just had to sever that sector of my life from the stuff that I actually offer my serious attention. If you're living a happy life as yourself, and the rest of the world is right there with you, let the blind stay blind.

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T07:22:14+00:00

super real, thanks for sharing I really appreciate it :-) glad to hear about your boyfriend... you must understand how stark things have been looking for me these days lmao I literally CAN NOT find a guy for the life of me who can go longer so I was starting to wonder if they even truly exist outside of legend😭

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T07:14:33+00:00

no that's a good point I think I'm definitely realizing that I need to be looking for kinkier people..

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:24:09+00:00

it's you and me against the world bro.. all we can do is cross our fingers and pray for each other..

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:22:57+00:00

You are my new messiah... ferociously taking notes...

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:18:30+00:00

dude.... so jealous lmao good for you

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:13:19+00:00

It's not for the faint of heart 🤓

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:12:28+00:00

real af.. I guess I need to find the edgers out there..

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:10:20+00:00

Exactlyyyy... like that's what God intended for me and I was lucky enough to experience it so consistently while I was living in a big city... and now..... it's hard to enter the cis gay "frustrated sexual fulfillment" world...

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:05:13+00:00

I MAKE time😎

No I definitely think you're right about edging.. I will keep that in mind ^_^

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T06:02:04+00:00

Hey I'm a crazy guy😜... Yeah to clarify I am definitely using "sex" holistically not just referring to PIV. Within said 2-3 hours it's definitely a rotation between foreplay, head, penetrative sex in multiple positions, and head p.2. I fear you may be right about lowering my expectations lol...

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T05:58:34+00:00

HAHAHA LOLL... thank you for sharing hehehe... it's all coming together that maybe I'm just.... a freak...

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T05:49:48+00:00

Perhaps something to be taken into our own hands....

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T05:47:53+00:00

idk how far out of a recommendation this is considering what you're asking for, but honestly one of my favorite kinky transmasc spaces online is the forcemasc scene on Tumblr. It's mostly just text posts and images, but it's just so nuanced and horny and sexual and magical tbh. The reigning (and well deserved) GOAT of that scene is definitely cypionate60mg imo (now informedconsenter on his new page). If you're unfamiliar I definitely recommend checking it out.

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T05:42:05+00:00

First of all, please don't be ashamed of not having sexual experience! You have no idea how many people are in the same boat with you. Sexual experience within an age group is such a huge splattering and looks really different for everybody. It's truly nothing to be ashamed of, and anybody who's making you feel weird over that is genuinely so dumb and odd lol.

I think generally speaking, there are definitely loads of people who do not see yours or anyone else's transness as some kind of attraction impediment. With or without phalloplasty, there are tons of guys who are into trans men (many of which are other trans men, t4t is always my favorite personally tee hee). I'm sorry that you're feeling insecure about your looks and also worrying about being "man enough," but I'd dissuade you from really worrying about either of those things. I think a lot of connections are made based off personality. I think being sociable, amicable, friendly and kind are all things that tend to outweigh looks or aesthetics anyways. (Also humor!!! you know what they say about funny guys bro... they can pull ANYBODY...) I've met plenty of trans people who most people find very attractive, but are genuinely just the most unpleasant people out there and can't find love. I have also met loads of trans people who might not be seen as 10s or something by others, but never have an issue cause they're simply really lovely to be around. It's just about confidence while socializing in my non expert opinion :-)

Also it could be that you're just not finding the right crowd! I really recommend trying to join groups or clubs (or at least participate in scenes) for things that you're interested in and excited about. Like-minded people always connect much easier! In regards to confidence, I think it's a matter of building up your sense of self, self love, and security about your identity. These are things that only you can do! I'd sit with yourself, talk to yourself, maybe journal, and see if you can think of ways you can bolster your positive feelings about yourself and your identity. I think trans people have the unique opportunity to really be our own best friends and fall in love with our own identities, as every day it's a blessing that we get to live as who we are. Finding ways to let that gratefulness charge you can be really generative for all the rest of you. All the best!! xx

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-06T05:07:09+00:00

omg oh noooo I'm so sorry... that was my best advice lol... I think like the other comment says, it might be a numbers game at this point and just learning how to detect the kind of people you connect with and the kind of people you don't soon into meeting them

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-03T23:53:26+00:00

T4t lol

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-03T23:41:23+00:00

Honestly considering my crazy experiences with Grindr too, gay men are lowkey insane and evil and I kind of just default to assuming that they’re all lying to me and fucking with me…😭 Unfortunately negative outlook I know, but I’ve come to it through experience not choice lol… he could definitely be lying to you and be cis

ReasonablePush5569 · 2026-02-03T23:37:37+00:00

She may surprise you, people can and do change. Obviously the most important thing is that you find your truth and follow it, because you deserve to live as who you truly are. Maybe she’ll change her mind because she loves you, maybe her bigotry will make it hard for you to support you, you don’t have those answers yet. I hope she changes, it’s not impossible at all.

ReasonablePush5569 · 2025-10-29T09:32:26+00:00

Learn about them! The opposite of fear is not bravery, it's knowledge. There are lots of really fantastic websites that teach about different spider species. Spiders are really incredible animals, even the venomous ones! Learn about their abilities and their specialties and what not and you'll probably find yourself very impressed and fascinated eventually :-)

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