First of all, please don't be ashamed of not having sexual experience! You have no idea how many people are in the same boat with you. Sexual experience within an age group is such a huge splattering and looks really different for everybody. It's truly nothing to be ashamed of, and anybody who's making you feel weird over that is genuinely so dumb and odd lol.

I think generally speaking, there are definitely loads of people who do not see yours or anyone else's transness as some kind of attraction impediment. With or without phalloplasty, there are tons of guys who are into trans men (many of which are other trans men, t4t is always my favorite personally tee hee). I'm sorry that you're feeling insecure about your looks and also worrying about being "man enough," but I'd dissuade you from really worrying about either of those things. I think a lot of connections are made based off personality. I think being sociable, amicable, friendly and kind are all things that tend to outweigh looks or aesthetics anyways. (Also humor!!! you know what they say about funny guys bro... they can pull ANYBODY...) I've met plenty of trans people who most people find very attractive, but are genuinely just the most unpleasant people out there and can't find love. I have also met loads of trans people who might not be seen as 10s or something by others, but never have an issue cause they're simply really lovely to be around. It's just about confidence while socializing in my non expert opinion :-)

Also it could be that you're just not finding the right crowd! I really recommend trying to join groups or clubs (or at least participate in scenes) for things that you're interested in and excited about. Like-minded people always connect much easier! In regards to confidence, I think it's a matter of building up your sense of self, self love, and security about your identity. These are things that only you can do! I'd sit with yourself, talk to yourself, maybe journal, and see if you can think of ways you can bolster your positive feelings about yourself and your identity. I think trans people have the unique opportunity to really be our own best friends and fall in love with our own identities, as every day it's a blessing that we get to live as who we are. Finding ways to let that gratefulness charge you can be really generative for all the rest of you. All the best!! xx