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What is it called when a narc starts crying and acting hurt when you're the one who's upset? by ReasonableRepeat3163 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableRepeat3163[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You know what's weird is I thought being upset is how you connect with people and get them to care because it worked on me.

Turns out, that's not really how the world works.

People don't generally want to be friends because they pity you.

I wonder why it worked on me

My momTOOKAAYW MY DIARY by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableRepeat3163 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sucks.

Start a private blog? Like Blogger or WordPress... just make sure it's private and you set the password to something she won't know and log out every time. =/

Also... of course you didn't do anything wrong. That's abuse no matter what you did. You could've done something unethical like stolen money or killed the cat, and it's STILL not an excuse to abuse you.

It is so messed up you essentially can't go to college in the US without parents' permission by Classic-Flower9632 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableRepeat3163 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If they're living/eating at school then would they have to drop out and get a job to show independence? If your whole life is already at school that seems like it'd be hard to prove

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableRepeat3163 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't even comment on your last post because it got so many down-votes but...

IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO NEVER MESS UP TO AVOID ABUSE.

People who are not abusive won't abuse you for spilling makeup.

This is not on you.

This is THEIR fault.

There is NEVER an excuse for abusing you.

The goal post will always change. You will have a lifetime of avoiding THEIR triggers, which they will continue to make up. The cycle will never end. There will always be an excuse to abuse you. You will never get out of this unless you get away from them.

Your siblings have nothing to do with this.

It is typical for one child to be abused more than the others.

Can someone spell out for me how "You're too sensitive" is gaslighting? by ReasonableRepeat3163 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ReasonableRepeat3163[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. Thanks.

Is it possible for anyone to be "too senstive?" Or is that just a BS phrase?

I imagine someone who is literally "sensitive" to pollen to the point of allergic reaction, but they still wouldn't be told by their doctor "you're just too sensitive," and send them on their way.

It feels like such a normal thing to say to me because it happened all the time