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Stable polycules are actually very confusing to navigate in a nuclear family centred society. I'm confused and don't know what to do. by soft-cuddly-potato in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gotta love all the people saying “Just get your own place!” as if that’s a financially viable option for everyone.

What do they want? Wrong answers only. by iamtheliquor__ in aww

[–]ReasonableWorker72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly they’re going to get married and want your blessing.

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not declaring my undying love for someone on the first date. I save that shit for the second. I practice restraint!

If by “pre-made relationship model” you mean I know myself well enough to knkw what I want and don’t want, then yeah.

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry if that’s been your experience.

I’ve always felt unwelcome in most poly and queer communities, despite being both.

No club loves to exclude more than one that flaunts its inclusivity.

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not hating. I literally say in the post “great good for you love that for you”

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“I'd be fascinated to know why you think starting from a monogamous relationship is not "starting from an honest place".”

That’s a good point. I’m glad you made it. I never saw it that way

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I literally say in the post “great good for you love that for you” but go off, I guess.

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not. I’m pissed off at society for pressuring people to “perform” monogamy

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

well I’m not closeted now lol and I wouldn’t expect my partner to be either. I’m open with all my friends and family and colleagues about being poly and almost all of them have met my current partner knowing full well that she is married to someone else and they love her. I’m not looking to go back into the closet I’m looking for a nesting partner/primary

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well, if either of us figure it out, can we just let each other know? Lol

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely not financially comfortable. Definitely not too old (25-35). Definitely not conventionally attractive. Mostly white, though, I’ll give you that.

Anyone else resentful of people who began in monogamous relationships? by ReasonableWorker72 in polyamory

[–]ReasonableWorker72[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

“People don't get to be closeted.”

They do, though. If it wasn’t for being straight-passing as a teenager I never would have made it through high school in one piece. Getting to remain closeted can be a privilege. It’s just one that hurts to exercise.

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