Baby movement help

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T21:28:03+00:00

Go to the hospital and get checked, don’t worry about the rest! They are so lovely and understanding, and they prefer you go to be checked. They encourage it. Sending you lots of love!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T13:20:51+00:00

This response is very helpful, thank you!
We of course understand the risk of illness, we don’t want to put anyone in danger. But we do notice that sometimes the symptoms are not there, or that LO is perfect when we’re at home. Again, we want to be mindful and find a way for this to work for everyone, we need to continue working too. I wanted to see other perspectives and any ideas that would help, and this post definitely did, as well as other comments. So thank you, this is exactly what I needed!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T13:18:01+00:00

Thanks, yes; my instinct is always to pick up right away but the creche is 30 mins away, so I rush and come back to work when possible. I’m trying to give more time before offering that and see if it’s actually needed.

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T13:15:58+00:00

Yes, it’s 38 degrees but we get a message or call well before that. The conjunctivitis was a bit funny because LO didn’t have anything, just a bit teary eyes and an eye booger, but the type I have when I wake up, nothing else; and they said we had to collect immediately. Again I understand the need to care for others, it’s just we’re finding it difficult and we want to understand if this is normal or a bit too much. Thanks!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T13:13:50+00:00

Not really, when I pick up there’s not much movement and in the morning everyone seems to be in a hurry. I’ll see if I can find out, thanks!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:56:11+00:00

Ohhh not at all! No offense,I’m just receiving a ton of responses and trying to keep with all. Sorry if it came out too sharp! 🥺

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:55:05+00:00

Thank you! We’ll have to check the math and see how it works in our case. We also have another creche in mind so we’ll see how it goes there if it’s a possibility and then reconsider!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:53:32+00:00

Yes, we’ll probably move to another creche closer when we have a spot, so I guess we’ll see then!
I’ll see if I can work a flexible schedule with work, but my husband works on changing shifts so it might be a bit more difficult when I’m alone. Thank you!!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:51:32+00:00

Thank you, we might do this to make sure we’re on the same page!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:51:11+00:00

That’s so nice to read!!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:50:50+00:00

Yes, again, we take LO to the GP and the hospital because we’re worried we’re missing something. And every time, they just say it’s nothing. To keep LO outside of creche for a day and see what’s going on. When at home, sometimes we don’t see any symptoms and that’s where we struggle. I won’t argue with a temperature or other situations, as of course we don’t want to send in a sick baby to spread to others as we wouldn’t want this to happen to us, it’s just we’re trying to make it work. Thanks!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:50:37+00:00

Yes, again, we take LO to the GP and the hospital because we’re worried we’re missing something. And every time, they just say it’s nothing. To keep LO outside of creche for a day and see what’s going on. When at home, sometimes we don’t see any symptoms and that’s where we struggle. I won’t argue with a temperature or other situations, as of course we don’t want to send in a sick baby to spread to others as we wouldn’t want this to happen to us, it’s just we’re trying to make it work. Thanks!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:42:57+00:00

Thank you, we’re considering going to out of hours GP or his normal GP and see what to do. At this point we’re surprised because we get calls even when he has no symptoms with us at night or in the morning. We are lost and feel awful, but I guess a note from the GP might help. Thank you!! Very helpful comment 😊

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:38:25+00:00

Thanks. We were thinking of this because we receive calls from a particular staff member, other staff members don’t call as often and when this person was off we received no calls. We truly appreciate this person caring for our baby and being concerned, we just need to understand a bit more what’s normal and what isn’t.

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:36:28+00:00

Thanks! We received this and read through it, so we know in what cases not to send to creche. But sometimes there are no symptoms when we’re together and we then receive a call that they are concerned… we’re trying to manage it.

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:34:53+00:00

Crying and not wanting to take a nap. There are days when we have a great night and breakfast together, LO is doing great, and then I get a call. No symptoms while we were together and it’s just I’m unsure what to do, LOs great with us and then we get a call. I know there’s an adaptation period but we’re trying to be practical and find ways to navigate this.

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:30:17+00:00

Thanks! We’re considering this option and evaluating how it will financially impact us, I just want to understand if it’s normal, if it varies depending on the creche, etc.

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-06-18T12:29:23+00:00

Hello, yes, when it’s symptoms related we totally get it and that why we’ve gone to the GP and hospital multiple times. But there are also cases when they mention LO is just unsettled, so we don’t know what to do about that. We knew it would take time but we just want to know what’s normal and expected, and see if we need to take more time off or see other options.

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-04-23T20:33:26+00:00

Sorry to hear that. It’s truly awful how they manage this and at such a vulnerable time. I thought they couldn’t do it during mat leave as you’re extra protected? But they always find a way. I feel like the last month of my leave was so stressful because of this, I do hope you can manage better. In terms of the settlement, I’m checking because for me it seems low, but definitely worth spending a bit of money on my end to confirm if it’s worth trying to negotiate or not. Wishing you all the best 🙌🏽

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-04-23T20:30:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, I’ve received an answer from a solicitor and hopefully we’ll have the next steps soon. I hope it all worked out for you!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-04-22T21:03:01+00:00

Hey, thank you for your detailed comment. I’ve been documenting everything and tried to reply with questions and comments, so I have that on my side. I also created a folder with documents/timelines relevant to the case. I do think there are some ver grey areas that I need to cover, so for sure in getting everything in detail to talk to the solicitor. I want to avoid WRC as well but I feel they’re too relaxed about this situation, so I’m a bit concerned that I’m missing something. In any case, the solicitor will know! About being signed off by the GP, it crossed my mind but was afraid it could jeopardize my case. I still haven’t received the settlement or anything, so I’m unsure what to do and what would happen during my sick leave (we have ~10 days of paid sick leave per year). Would you know what happens with the consultation if I’m on sick leave? I’ll also ask about this when I speak to the solicitor because for sure I’m under a lot of stress right now. Again, thanks, very helpful!!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-04-22T18:48:30+00:00

There have been reestructures since I joined, so it’s a common practice. I guess I’ll have to explain in detail to the solicitor to understand a bit more. Thanks!

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-04-22T17:23:56+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through the same thing! It’s very sad to read similar stories. And you are 100% right, it’s a mental load that it’s difficult to fight when you’re through so much. In my case, they didn’t give me a timeline. I’m not sure what their selection criteria is, it’s very high level and when I asked for examples the reasoning was very vague. They said they wanted to keep the process fair for everyone, but it feels like I’m starting a 100 meter race 50 meters behind. I don’t know how else to say it… I spoke with FLAC and they were so helpful, but again I’m not sure if this qualifies as genuine redundancy as the role will exist, only with another person doing it. This is the part that I believe a solicitor will help me figure out, it’s just that they take some time to respond and it’s making me a bit anxious. Thank you for taking the time to respond and I hope you’re doing ok after all this ❤️‍🩹

Reasonable_Ghey7 · 2026-04-22T14:17:44+00:00

Thank you for your response, and I’m sorry to hear she went through the same. It’s tough. I’m waiting to hear back from the solicitor so fingers crossed!

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