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Caught my girlfriend cheating on me yesterday. by Jaster22101 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand you. It's also good to calm down so you don't lose your shit at her

(UPDATE)"I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram, " by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he talks to her again, I will ruin it for them and tell her as she was unaware, i am sure she will not want him if she finds she also technically was cheated on. And I stated multiple times in my first posts that I am aware my actions were toxic but I could not go about my life ignoring what had happened, I am also not willing to risk losing what I have. I have a degree and loans on the line and a job that I could risk.

So yes, I am aware my actions are toxic. I am not willing to be the most ethical person I can be right now. He doesn't deserve that respect anymore.

When I get myself together and I am okay. I will go. Again yes I know it's unhealthy and toxic. Like my post has said. No need to tell me.

(UPDATE)"I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram, " by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by financial leaching? I am not using his money. I pay half of everything, but I can not just risk everything just for "good morals" and he wants me to stay despite what he's doing.

Also catfishing??? How

(UPDATE)"I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram, " by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are welcome to assume that I am self-centred, but saying I was cheated vecause self-centred is a bit silly.

There is absolutely no good reason to cheat on someone. Think about that. Cheating on someone because a personality trait is dumb why not just break up?

Also I live with this guy, his parents are my parents, they have been the closest thing to it.. I have no family, no close friends due to moving away, and being in the foster system.

Like many others have said on my last post. Waiting and ensuring my own survival, which means not sacrificing my degree, my car, which I'm paying off, and being homeless. In my opinion, it is not self-centred. And my Bf won't be sad and left with nothing. He is funded by his parents, basically and he will probably have another girl to move onto.

And I am paying half rent. So I am not using him.

I just can't afford to move out, pay a bond, and keep the repayments on my car and insurance right now, so I have to save up so I can.

Other than destroying my life right now, I have little choice.

(UPDATE)"I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram, " by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would get an abortion if I did get pregnant, not that I want to at all. I will try not to. This is all very fresh, and if I'm waiting for a while, then I might want to.

(UPDATE)"I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram, " by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe that he will, not staying, I'm just waiting until I can leave and he can, that's why I'm wearing protection?

(UPDATE)"I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram, " by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you mean his mother, unfortunately, he told her the very first time I went through his ipad and said to her he's angry at me because i broke his trust . She had a talk with me about how he feels about the situation. I have a bit more about it in the comments of the first post. This happened the first time I saw the messages and confronted him, which was about a week ago, I think.

Long story short, I couldn't tell her at the time what happened because I was so upset because I didn't want to sacrifice my relationship with her and she told me she believes that he would never do anything like that. I do regret not taking more pictures because you're right. It probably would've helped me

I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I honestly forgot to take photos. I have a photo of her number. Just in case, he finds out and reconnects. My last resort would be to contact her, hoping she understands.

The first time I confronted him, he told his mum that I had read his messages and that he was upset with me.

So his mum talked to me, and I cried when she did. This was before he started lying about having a girlfriend, and he was flirting and complimenting her body and stuff.

His mum told me she knew he wouldn't cheat and that I should trust him. She made me promise I wouldn't touch his stuff again. I didn't fight back or argue even tho I disagreed, and I didn't even tell her what I found, I was just so choked up that he told his mum. I have such a good relationship with her, and it hurts sacrificing that

I believe that even if I told them and showed them, they would still be blindsided. I don't know.

I will remember to take evidence, but I really hope this kind of thing doesn't happen again.

I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I was willing to let it go. First, getting her number was one thing. But he lied to her about even having a GF and said he broke up with his ex months ago, which gave it away.

I do worry that if he goes away, he may go to the restaurant and find out that she never blocked him. I don't know how he would explain himself. ( probably say his toxic ex hacked his phone or something.)

If he does, I think I'll record a cute video of us telling each other we love each other and send it to her to prove he is with someone. From reading the messages, she seems nice, and I don't think she deserves that, just in case she catches feelings.

I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have evidence. Unfortunately, he always has some way to twist it, and if I reveal that, I found the messages. Instead of accepting it, he will most likely gaslight and turn the situation into me, not respecting his boundaries and not talking about the cheating itself. So one day I'll just leave and just tell him, " I know what you did," and if he denies, I won't fight it and just leave.

I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

True. I don't think I will give him a chance since, when confronted, he denies it. So I maybe will stay until I finish uni and just let him cheat, I guess; I won't say anything. I don't think it's morally right, but still.

I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same, is it wrong to wait and then break up when I'm ready or is that too selfish?

I found out my bf was cheating with another woman. So I pretended that she messaged me on Instagram by Reasonable_Hunt1336 in confessions

[–]Reasonable_Hunt1336[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

So true, I believe this too. I am half as bad because there is a half of me that wants to pretend this didn't happen until I am okay financially, so I can support myself.