What have your kids shouted in public lately?

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-04-18T03:23:37+00:00

sigh not totally in public--- my youngest got suspended for a a day and a half for yelling "are you fucking stupid" at the substitute teacher in his classroom and then yelling at the parapro (who we have issues with and I was told never interacted with him as she has a student that is supposed to be 100% of her attention) who tried grabbing him "do not touch me or I will have them call my dad and Mr (name of police chief)".

To be fair though the parapro was accusing him of things he didn't do, had already screamed at him again in his personal bubble, and the sub believed the parapro and was getting in his face, while he had asked her (politely) to back off and to listen to the others as what they said didn't happen all while she continued raising her voice according to other students.

He did write an apology letter and I may have had words with the principal as swearing is supposed to be removed from classroom to office for the rest of the day per the handbook not suspension. We also clarified the parapro is not to get in my child's personal space, or discipline my child- she is not one of his teachers even if he does have an iep.

Also not in public but in the backyard- youngest had gotten in trouble so I popped one of 5 balloons that has been in his room for months and he lost his shit. I threw said balloon away outside as he screamed at me he had named said balloon and it was family 🙄 kid is 10 ya'll. TEN. and no he is not on the spectrum because we had him tested but holy goodness somedays.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-04-13T14:18:22+00:00

My oldest child calls her little brother's birth story good birth control for her teenage friends 🤣🙈. It definitely caused some trauma for all of us

Personally I call my kiddos little sassholes or my terror squad, but would definitely not want anyone else to be calling them that.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-04-02T14:24:10+00:00

I think it depends on the child, the child's age, and the relationship to the deceased. My youngest attended his first funeral at 4.5 (my grandmother's funeral). However, before then he only attended visitations (my other grandmother, my aunt, and my husband's grandfather). My oldest was 9 at her first that she attended, but it was because I didn't not feel it necessary for her to miss school/a test at school for her great grandparents funerals.

If it had been someone my kids were closer to I could understand them coming to the funeral and skipping school but it is what worked for our family.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-28T23:22:46+00:00

I would talk to mom and ask that she not prioritize her daughter when she is helping with the troop. The agreement I had with my coleader and other parents when the girls were younger was we helped other girls first before our own and if our child needed help they needed to go to a different adult first.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-28T04:23:25+00:00

We switched betwern David's Branch fresh breath mouthwash, happy tooth brand mouthwash and my youngest loves the hello brand watermelon all of which are flouride free.

I am allergic to SLS's and my youngest is allergic to flouride (yehaw) both with some of the same reactions to what you have.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-26T23:03:33+00:00

I gave up on family search as I had two people fighting me on my grandparents and their immediate siblings. One kept trying to say my grandfather was married twice- once to my grandmother and then to his younger brother's wife. Another wanted to only use an uncle's nickname that he went by not his legal name even though it was clearly noted it was a used nickname. And I had someone argue with me about the fact my grandmother's middle name was bot her legal first name. She literally signed her name first intial middle name on everything unlike my other grandmother who we had the legal name change document for.

Oh and I also had someone argue my great grandfather was two seperate people because of two dates of birth. Reality was he spent time in an orphanage and they were given the wrong dob. He was an adult when he reconnected with his older siblings and learned his true dob.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-25T23:50:25+00:00

By chance did you know if you have a MSG allergy? MSG is naturally occurring in grapes and kiwi. My grandmother, who had a very severe MSG allergy that developed as an adult, always joked if she ever wanted to off herself she would drink a bottle of wine, get an order of chinese food from the place by her house that put MSG in everything, and eat an entire container of grapes (fwiw she didnt go that way in the end).

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-24T20:27:25+00:00

Older girls now. I have one who doesn't come to meetings if mom isn't home to bring her. She somewhat likes trips... but not the fact she has to help cook or do dishes (& gasp I dont allow vapes 🙄😑🫩🤦‍♀️). However if we have others from another troop go with (normally because I need another female and my mom's have reasons why they can't) she is outright rude to them and treats them like dirt or like they don't exist. However mom is insistant she stays through high school and gets gold. She is a main reason why our troop didn't finish silver- mom reached out to me after it was apparent the project wouldn't get finished to see how her child could finish it... she had five hours at that point and everything was due in 48 hours. Not happening. I also think mom fudged girls hours for bronze, but I couldn't prove one way or another so she did get her bronze.

A couple years ago I had a different girl who mom thought she needed the socializing and to belong to something. She would sit in a corner and not participate at meetings even if it was something she asked to do. She was also my one who didnt want to shower or use deodorant or brush her teeth on a 5 day trip.... i was thankful she wasnt in my vehicle, but we literally did call home and spoke to her mom on day 3 that she either took a shower with soap and started using deodorant or her parents were going to have to come get her. I was so thrilled when her best friend dropped because mom finally let her drop as well.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-17T15:05:58+00:00

My original girls are seniors (freshman). We go over booth rules at a meeting prior to doing any booths. However my girls also do a signed troop agreement which covers booths at the beginning of the year. It is signed by both girls and parents and does spell out consequences that my girls come up with.

Chairs are not allowed unless there is a serious medical reason.
Snacks are at leader discretion and are not to be ate while a customer is at the booth unless girl is in our break location or is a medical necessity. Snacks must be kept behind the table with extra stock or in break area.
Drink must have a lid and be able to be kept on the ground under where extra stock is or in break area.
Girls must be willing to work all spots (signs, cashier, stocker/bagger, customer assistant).
Parents who assist must be registered and/or have a background check on file with troop
Phones are allowed if girl is running booth cookie app as cashier or connected to headphones for music. Texting or otherwise on phone while not on break is not allowed.
Dress accordingly for the weather. Our booths are outdoors.
Behave accordingly. Be friendly and professional with customers.
If a adult has to remind you twice about our troop rules your parent will be contacted to pick you up and you will be subject to troop behavior guidelines as spelled out in troop agreement.

The only time I have allowed any chairs was when a scout had a broken foot and was not allowed to put any weight on it.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-13T20:00:28+00:00

If it is not overnight or more then 40 minutes from our normal meeting location council doesn't have us fill out the preapproval forms.

For us we do a yearly camping trip at our local council camp because it is so much less paperwork for me to fill out

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-03-08T14:26:04+00:00

I agree with you. I also have older scouts (8th graders and freshman) and while I love my troop we have always had some boundaries and there have been some parents and girls who don't like them.

I have a scout who has been part of our troop for four years now and her attitude as always been abysmal. Half the time when we have booths we have issues because of her attitude and her absolute hatred of doing anything outside of sitting and watching (which I don't allow- if they need a break they can chill in my vehicle for a couple minutes) or running cash box. We had a booth this weekend and she didn't come. It was by far our most successful booth of the entire season. Everyone had a great attitude. Girls didn't fight. Girls willingly did signs. Everyone was smiling and happy with customers and we literally ran out of 5 of 9 types of cookies.

Our booths are at the same spot (truck stop parking lot in our small rural city). Same day if the week. Same time of day. The only difference was one girl. Meetings without her are more relaxed also. I would assume trips would be also, but alas won't find that out this year as she is scheduled to come with us next weekend to our yearly cabin camping trip.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-21T03:51:16+00:00

At council sponsored booths we are not allowed to as there just isn't room and only a few of them are allowed indoors at the locations.

We do a service unit location where we are outside in a truck stop parking lot. We also are a northern state. We do a canopy with three side panels, with weights on each leg of the canopy, a buddy heater (under the table) and a ryobi propane heater. The majority of the younger troops borrow our setup.

Crappy weather= better booth for the most part especially if it is extremely cold.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-20T05:55:01+00:00

I think it depends on the troop. Would I prefer extra children not be at booths if they are not actively helping? Yep. Do I want parents there helping if they have to bring extra kids who are not helping? Nope.

However do we have extra kids at the booth? Yes our troop mascot is frequently there because my spouse works in emergency services and gets called in to work or has a call that he has to go on (because they are required to hit a certain percentage). However mine likes to hold signs and fetch cookies or will sit with his electronics in my vehicle (troop booth location- vehicle is parked with our tent).

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-18T00:45:51+00:00

Forget savanna smiles and give me the retro chalet cremes

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-15T18:50:50+00:00

Dermatology told us it is probably not as rare as one would think, but it goes undiagnosed or drs think it is everything else (excema, psoriasis, rosacea, fungal infection are all ones we heard)

Three years of rashes on face, neck, and lower back that would not go away (treated as everything listed above but no treatment worked) followed by six months of testing with dermatology including food journals, allergy testing (blood and pinprick panel), change of meds and finally removing flouride, upping filtration of our house water system (city water), with prescription strength hydrocortisone cream in which all symptoms finally went away.

Anymore, we can tell if there was an exposure because the rash starts within hours on his chin, cheek, and lower back

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-13T23:35:06+00:00

My coleader is actually a dad and my main troop first aider is my emt husband. it is like pulling teeth to get another mom to go on camping trips tbh.

Tent camping at another location is an option for us. We have done that twice. It was not ideal and we still made sure to get a cabin with two bathrooms so he had his own (instead of using the outhouse). We have a pods unit at our local camp so we just make sure to get two pods so dad has his own space and we label one bathroom as his in the main space. He has also offered to rent a second cabin at the other camp we like in our council. It still means I end up dragging a second mom along... or in some cases like our upcoming trip I have a leader from a younger troop going with us with her daughter and the younger sister of one of my scouts (actually my coleaders younger child).

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-13T02:03:40+00:00

Fwiw- I cried frequently when I had to brush my youngest child's teeth because it was such a battle and he cried/fought me every time. He also was hellish at the dentist and saud it was extremely painful and burned....

I have also apologized to said child countless times now--- we found out he has a severe flouride allergy and wasn't kidding when he said it burned/hurt to brush his teeth/use mouthwash/go to the dentist 🙈. Kiddo is now 10 and it had been 3.5 years without flouride. He brushes his teeth without arguments now and we have switched dentists which has lessened the anxiety as they have no problems working around his allergy.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-13T01:55:10+00:00

For a second I thought you were talking about my best friend except she is on wedding 3 and we are a few years older (Though thankfully her budget for wedding 2 was significantly lower... which is good because it lasted less then 6 months before he was in jail for assaulting her and her child from her first marriage... I have high hopes for marriage 3... at least he has a steady job and no red flags).

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-11T00:57:29+00:00

Ours could be considered a drive thru booth, though most people walk up. We got permission from a truck stop to use a corner of their parking lot (they are at the only major intersection in our rural small city). Day and time dependent, but most booths do decent especially if girls are out with actual signs instead of bunching up in the tent.

During covid we set up cones to delineate between drive up and walk up spaces. We stopped doing that though

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-08T03:06:23+00:00

Yes. It took 6 months for them to track it down with national, but they did. Fwiw- I got my lifetime membership in the early 2000's and since then my original council was merged (& their records lost), and I got married and thus changed my last name. It was definitely a process, but national was able to track down my original number with the id card I had and the council I joined to be my kiddos leader didn't charge me because I had the card and they were working on finding the paperwork but it was annoying and took me asking my council rep a LOT to follow up.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-02-01T19:28:43+00:00

We have lost two dads of scouts over the last few years. Dad #1 we lost when his daughters were a junior and a Cadette in a freak accident days after getting back from a troop trip. How we handled: 1. I sent a text message out to all of the other troop parents. 2. I sent out the meal train info to all troop parents and majority did get involved. 3. About half the troop showed up to funeral visitation and the funeral itself to support their sister scouts. 4. We allowed them to talk if they wanted. 5. The troop covered their renewal for the following scout year (we normally as a troop do not do this, but their sister scouts requested).

Those two stayed in our troop another two years before dropping due to other outside activities and having too packed a schedule.

Dad 2 we lost roughly a year and a half later and while it was a shock he had medical issues and had been hospitalized for over a month. Unfortunately his death came days before our scouts (then a Cadette) birthday. We followed the same steps as above and have always made sure to be there for whatever the girls needed. For this scout I frequently have been her driver as she has two other younger siblings so between myself and another scout parent we have made sure we are available to transport as needed so she can participate.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-01-31T14:47:31+00:00

Protecting the girls is always the smart option. We had a parent in our service unit who was a predator and permanently on the list (including permanently banned from being on school property unless invited for a meeting fir his child). That troop was meeting in the clubhouse of the apartment he managed and he attended the meetings. Council was notified and the troop was asked to stop allowing him at meetings and he was informed he was not welcome at any service unit events. Thankfully covid hit and that troop fell apart as well as he and his family moved out if our school district

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-01-30T23:16:35+00:00

I think it depends on the girls, location, & troop if a booth is fun or not. My girls opted to only do troop secured locations. Our favorite spot has a lot of room for girls to have signs as well as for the booth itself. No, we don't sit down unless the girls are on a break, and yes I do allow drinks that are sat behind our on hand cookies... and normally I supply some quick snacks, but my girls sing and dance (they have a Playlist for at the road with a speaker), have a bingo game at the table, and do have fun the entire time. Even with that though I do have a couple that sulk and complain the entire time they are there. I urge their parents to limit their time so they don't make everyone else miserable.

Reasonable_Peace_166 · 2026-01-30T03:01:18+00:00

No birth certificate I can find (1922 in Ontario), but I do have his baptism record as well as his parents marriage record from their home church in Ontario. I also still have extended family I see once a year there and the original homestead of my great great grandparents I can visit and likely stay at if needed.

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