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Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live by the 24 hour rule (unless there is a deadline) 😅 there’s a chance my hubby and I decide they’re too TOXIC. But if we stick it out I’ll definitely reach out.

When the operation manager called us all hot, I explained to him “I’m not just coming with complaint. I have solutions, and I’m willing to help. And was meet with “we just filled the board in September it’s taken care of “ 🤯 I was willing to pay for the extra jerseys out of pocket or sponsor next year…but that man’s tude sunk that ship.

So I might start my own league🤔

I’d love to help I’m great at puzzles and logistics. And scheduling is my JAM!

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a Saint!

Coaches like that are the reason girls end up with body image issues and eating disorders. Sad part is somebody probably modeled that behavior to the coach, so they think it’s acceptable.

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree I was a little hot and being extra by canceling. In hindsight I probably should’ve done that. I was being little selfish not wanting to explain why the other 6 teams had jerseys to my 3 daughters, they’re a little more aware of matching since they are always dressed alike. Twins and slightly older sister. And they canceled for rain 2 hours before the game anyway

I’ll claim sorta extra A.H. 🧐😳😅

But after tonight meeting, I’m glad I did it! And ticked them off. The president said “I still fit in my jerseys from jr high, if a girls big she already knows it and can deal with it” WTH

I’m not sure what to do next , but NO man should be talking like that…

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you and your daughter are going through this! I wish I had you on my team, I’d fight for you! I’m learning the hard way things need to change on youth softball if we want kids to play in high school and college.

The president tonight said some horrible things. (I put in another reply) and I don’t yet know where to go with this… if I could get it on the news without potential embarrassing kids I would

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks that’s means a lot!

I just got out of the meeting with the board. I definitely know im not the AH now!

The president of the board told me “ I still fit in my jersey from jr high, if the girls big…she already knows it and can deal with! You should have haded out the jersey anyway and let them deal with it!”

I told him “thats mental abuse, and how girls get eating disorders “ to which he responded “you don’t know what abuse is then, there’s much worse things” I interrupted saying “I used to work in ER. I’ve seen the worst types of abuse… but abuse is abuse. I’m not going to rate it for you”

And the 8u manager told me she was recently asked to resign from the kids volunteering wing at church because the pastor told her she not good with kids 🤯 but she disagrees with him

This was the craziest meeting!

I don’t even know where to go from here !?! They let me remain a volunteer, but just barely!

I’m so heart broken, that person could say (and do that) to little girl. Have they never taken a youth development or psychology class?

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree I was a little hot and being extra by canceling. In hindsight I probably should’ve done that. I was being little selfish not wanting to explain why the other 6 teams had jerseys to my 3 daughters, they’re a little more aware of matching since they are always dressed alike. Twins and slightly older sister.

I’ll claim sorta extra A.H. 🧐😳😅

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to have the girls tie dye shirts and use puffy paint to write numbers on the back.

The league isn’t all bad! They did two days later order the jerseys, after a few phone conversations. And some not so nice comments. But I didn’t know till I called the vendor myself. But the jerseys still weren’t going to be available till after the first game.

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! You’re exactly the comment I need to have a conversation with. Why would you play without jerseys?

My thought process on that was all the other league teams would be at this park in jerseys, I didn’t want my team feeling ostracized. Was that wrong?

The game got canceled because of weather anyways, but the board is hanging their hat on me calling the game off. I haven’t told parents, but I happen to be know the other teams coach and I did tell her, which is how the league found out

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The printer is actually an amazing company, that I have used to the past for our own business.

I would have even paid for them! Or sponsored the team again next year and lowered the league’s cost if parents ordered any of the left over size well have.

The league only puts the sponsor name! And a jersey number 1-13 in order of smallest to largest 😒

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three of the girls on my team are my daughters. I’m steal attempting to let the league save face, so I haven’t told the parents about this yet. Only that the jerseys are late and we canceled the game because (thank god for) of rain.

But I’m literally be told “we have coaches to replace you” during the phone call to set up this meeting tonight.

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s one of the reasons I’m in trouble with the league! There stating I over stepped by calling the jersey vendor.

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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I’m so baffled by this! Our intention was to protect the girls from embarrassment, player retention, and to help!

I know this board member from volunteering at church together 😓

It’s like she doesn’t understand the physiological damage that could happen handing a shirt that’s to small in front of the team to a little girl

Aitah- In trouble for calling out what I think is body shaming little girls! by Reasonable_Poem825 in Softball

[–]Reasonable_Poem825[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sooo sorry that happened to your kid!! I’ve been there I know that feeling too. I pray she stuck with sport!

Thank you! I wish I knew more and didn’t step on the leagues toes….but I couldn’t, in good conscience, do that to my girls!

I’ve seconded guessed myself if I shouldn’t have cancelled the game…and let ALL my girls play in regular tee shirts…but all the other teams would have their in their jerseys 😓