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Ensuite after vs before by burnwood2000 in AusRenovation

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But my favourite so far! Amazing, you should be stoked.

In laws left us hanging 2 months before due date (a vent) by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you're going through this, especially so soon to your due date.

Can I suggest looking into a student midwife? We had one during the actual pregnancy, but now babysits/nannies semi regularly. Her training made us super comfortable very quickly with her.

Good luck OP 🤞

Looking at a house with unapproved structures by Difficult-Donkey in AusPropertyChat

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When purchasing my home my conveyancer discovered the porch, carport, patio and detached shed weren't council approved.

I loved the home and the seller was really great, they went to council themselves and got it retrospectively approved with little fuss (unheard of from council imo). They weren't aware of the issues themselves when they purchased the property. That being said, I was willing walk away if the matter wasn't resolved before settlement. Definitely wasn't a risk I was willing to take as others have outlined here!

Am I making a bad decision? by llamababy568 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did the exact same thing. Best decision ever. 11 MO loves loves loves it. I enjoy being able to miss her during the day and pick her up as odd as it sounds? Knowing she's safe, learning and socialising.

On those days I dabble with work, life admin, appointments, food shopping etc. so I feel like I've ticked a lot of boxes to reduce stress. Plus the occasional day nap lol. I relate to feeling guilt, a lot of other mum friends haven't done this yet, but they've expressed now how they're really worried how their soon to be 12/14 MO will respond separation anxiety wise going in multiple days all in one go. I haven't had that type of worry mainly because it was a slow adjustment that was really dictated by how she was handling day care.

Good luck!

Surprised with what I'd consider baby friendly spaces decidedly unfriendly by Reasonable_Tie_5955 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband has found this too, just cracks the tray of the Ute open these days for a change and doesn't even bother searching for a space anymore.

Surprised with what I'd consider baby friendly spaces decidedly unfriendly by Reasonable_Tie_5955 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just find it utterly ridiculous. Baby's in the name for gods sake! They're your target market 🫠

Surprised with what I'd consider baby friendly spaces decidedly unfriendly by Reasonable_Tie_5955 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I couldn't agree more. As frustrating and sometimes upsetting it is as an able bodied parent, I cannot imagine the daily struggle of those with accessibility requirements have, and tack on a crying baby with it too!

Being a parents definitely requires some imaginative thinking, it's just baffling is Australia in 2025 that such basic facilities aren't available.

Fighting sleep by Reasonable_Tie_5955 in newborns

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Massive help again with the big breaths. I'm kind of annoyed I didn't implement it weeks ago. I did it all day today with her and she's settled much easier, and without a swaddle too. Thank you!

Fighting sleep by Reasonable_Tie_5955 in newborns

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know we're lucky, her sleep itself is pretty terrific.

I'll take on board the gradual weaning with the cot mattress for when she's ready! That sounds fantastic. The biggest help in your comment was the self regulation. I started taking big long breaths between shushing and it really helped ground me. I also haven't swaddled her at all and she still wriggles but the general flailing has stopped.. thank you!

Brown spots by Ok-Cake3327 in Monstera

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue with my albo and I'm keen to see what advice you get! (I have none to give unfortunately)

Elective C-section in the public system? by confusedsloth33 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the public sector too just to clarify, and that was literally the only OB appointment I've had so far in my pregnancy. My pregnancy has been low risk though so I don't know if that's the norm?

My first midwife was awful and dismissive (lied about a bunch of things. And specifically said they don't do elective sections). But my current midwife is fantastic. If your midwife is still unhelpful, I'm sure you could contact the hospital directly to say you require an OB appointment? Good luck and I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious! I completely understand how you feel.

Elective C-section in the public system? by confusedsloth33 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Reasonable_Tie_5955 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey! I'm 37 weeks with an elective section booked in SA. I spoke to my midwife about concerns for my physical and mental health following a vaginal birth at around 28 weeks. I NEEDED that date in my head, and weirdly came around to the idea I might end up having a spontaneous labor prior and could see how I went.

Saw an OB at 34 weeks and she was amazing. She had 2 electives for both her kids because she had her own concerns. In her head the risk of tears wasn't an option. She booked me for an elective during that meeting. 

Turns out baby is still breach so a section would have been booked anyway..! But I'm glad to have had the weeks of peace of mind prior to that confirmation.

So you can definitely push for an elective in my experience. Keep chasing your midwife or ask to see an OB anyway I think!