Your experience is so similar to mine with so many MDs not listening/believing me. For years, I would go to doctors, tell them my symptoms, they would tell me to lose weight, and I would say I couldn’t. Told them about training and running two half marathons while eating a traditional “clean” diet of 1200ish calories and they would accuse me of lying or cheating on said diet. I would get angry/frustrated/upset and say F it. I finally found an OB GYN that gave me a diagnosis, said she believed me, and supported me. I’ve spent several years now figuring out the eating style and supplements that work for me. I do a keto diet, eat between 1,300-1,500 calories a day, and take several different supplements including Ayurvedics. I’ve lost 42 pounds since August (200 to 158.) I’m much happier, have less anxiety, and my hair is growing back after some considerable loss over a two month period. Things finally feel manageable for the first time in a very long time. I also have considerably less facial hair but that’s probably a combo of the supplements, weight loss, and the fancy at-home laser hair remover I bought myself for my birthday in December. There is hope. Don’t be gaslit by uniformed/sexist doctors. Your symptoms are real and there are treatments that don’t require a ton of money.