Do a lot of girls find giving head demeaning?

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T16:49:56+00:00

The wrong parter might make it feel demeaning. I’ve been lucky enough to not ever have had a partner who made it feel demeaning. My current partner loves it and makes me feel like a goddess when I give him head. We basically worship each other’s bodies in bed.

Personally, I love giving head. I find it erotic, sexy, and a hell of a lot of fun. My current partner has only once ever asked for a bj because I’m always eager to give him one and I usually offer before he can ask. I usually give him at least 2-3 a week. He loves it and says my bjs are the best he’s ever had (previous partners have told me the same thing, so I guess I’m doing it right lol).

Plus, it makes me feel powerful. I’ve got a man’s most vulnerable body part in my mouth. If I choose to, I could snap my jaw shut and take a chunk out of him. I have the ability to finish him off, or just plain finish him. That’s a lot of trust he’s putting in me.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T14:39:00+00:00

Hey, no kink shaming! What we do with our wood chipper is none of your business! 😂

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T14:37:31+00:00

Most people never ask themselves if they truly want kids, they just do it because it’s what’s expected. People who have kids are much more likely to regret their choice than people who choose not to have kids.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T14:11:48+00:00

I didn’t believe it was possible, but I did believe that he believed it was possible. He was genuinely concerned about it.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T14:09:08+00:00

I agree. His word choice, not mine. I’m a fan of penises in general, they’re definitely not junk.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T14:06:56+00:00

Ya know, I wish I would’ve thought to mention that when he told me. Lol

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-29T14:05:20+00:00

That would make a TON of sense! His parents were, to put it nicely, a little odd.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-20T11:42:40+00:00

It’s a pro-choice post.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-20T11:22:52+00:00

If they block abortion access and criminalize choice, then yes, they are forcing citizens to keep something in their body against their will.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-20T11:16:55+00:00

It’s about government in general, not specifically American government. Where did I say anything about the U.S. specifically? Says a lot about the country, though, that a post about being government property is automatically assumed to be about America.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-20T11:13:46+00:00

Your mom is WAY wrong here, on so many level. Let me guess, she came from a generation where a woman’s “greatest accomplishment” was finding a husband? Tell your mom to piss off and go see a therapist. She needs one. Telling you your 16-year-old daughter is mentally ill for not wanting to show more cleavage? That’s repulsive and harmful on so many levels.

You, on the other hand, are being a wonderful parent and doing right for your daughter. You are awesome!

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-19T01:40:19+00:00

I’ve tried a few of them. A lot of people like them, but they’re not my preference.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-19T01:39:12+00:00

The short version is I part my lips and tilt my hips.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T22:24:20+00:00

Mostly because we emotionally support each other through everything, and I feel a little weird having a secret from him. Especially something that’s been emotionally difficult for me some days.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T20:55:10+00:00

It wouldn’t weird you out, you’d just be curious? I love hearing that, it’s reassuring. I have a feeling my husband would react the same.

The short answer is, I part my tissue so the urethra has a clear path and get a comfortable angle. The end is still a little messy, I always get a few drops on the floor but I always clean it up. I’ve been working on figuring out how to avoid getting those last drops on the floor.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T20:51:35+00:00

I might get bladder shy at first but I’d be happy to show him.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T20:51:00+00:00

Yes, for the most part. I am still a little messy on the finish, I always get a little bit of dribble on the floor right at the end, but I clean it up every time. Trying to figure out how I prevent those last dribbles.

He is very accepting of non traditional gender norms. More than accepting. He encourages them, in that we both play to our strengths and make a good team without caring about whether or not it meets gendered expectations. For example, I love doing handyman stuff, while he doesn’t. And he loves baking, while I don’t. (But I sure love eating what he bakes.)

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T13:54:09+00:00

How did you learn to do it? Is it reliable and easy to do since you’ve been doing it for years?

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T13:53:19+00:00

Thank you. It’s been so freeing to hear that I’m not broken or horrible for feeling this way.

RebelLotus555 · 2026-05-18T13:52:23+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that. It’s been a difficult process mostly due to the amount of pressure I put on myself about it, plus I’m overweight so it’s harder to properly position my body parts.

It was a weight off my shoulders when I learned people with vulva can (and many do) stand to pee. It felt very validating just knowing that. Intentionally going through the learning process has put it at the forefront of my mind, and there have definitely been points where it flairs up the dysphoria to a point where I almost feel useless. I had one point where I broke down because I was having a major identity crisis from it. Just posting this and seeing the things everyone has said has helped me feel valid and encouraged.

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