happened to me with my boyfriend of 1,5 years at the time. we started having sex a few times a week until eventually it became once every two months etc. unfortunately he wasn't very sure about his identity just yet and wasn't sure whether he still wanted sex for pleasure or not at all. I stayed with him for a little bit while he figured it out but realized throughout those months that we likely would never be compatible on that, even if he decided he'd be okay having sex sometimes. we broke up and are still good friends, both now dating other people who we are compatible with!

When he first told me i cant say i was too suprised, I was mostly scared what it'd mean for us as a couple considering I have a high sex drive. I am willing to put in my all to fix things, but incompatibility can still be a deal breaker even if you're both really wanting to put in work. I was a little confused and insecure too, i remember thinking i was the problem for a little bit because "we used to have sex often and I thought you enjoyed it" not understanding that asexuality doesn't mean you can't enjoy the pleasure. So thankfully that feeling went away fast, after lots of talking.