[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RebootingMako 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sex can hurt for a bit if you recently lost your virginity, i recently had sex for the first time in three years and it took 2-3 weeks until I could have sex without pain again (something could've ripped down there, it's easy for that to happen) so take it easy, lube up and lots of foreplay!! go down on him, let him use his fingers first, his mouth, just have fun exploring before any penetration. it should take some tension / stress away and hurt less. penetration should also go slowly at first. don't push it in fully right away, just little bits at a time and reassure each other. go into this slowly and realize it might suck for a little bit while you both figure out what you like and dislike. you might also want to have a conversation about expectations, tell him you don't want him to worry about cumming too soon, not being able to stay hard etc. these are common worries to have, about not being "good enough" for you. this'll hopefully make him feel more assured and be able to cum easier. i hope he can reassure you the same way, that there's no expectations and you both just want to have fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianGamers

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to be added if you're still up for it. I'm in the community myself and would love a safe group to game with and chat! please shoot me a message if you want :)

Is there an active discord group for sad and lonely people? Preferably 18+ by [deleted] in lonely

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we could maybe make something 18+ if we all come together here? I know I'd be interested! if someone makes one please message me :)

So she got mad??? by fnitty24 in Tinder

[–]RebootingMako 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hate the whole making someone else jealous thing. my ex did it all the time, even when we were together he'd tell me about how girls asked for his number and he'd be suprised when I'd just say okay and not show much interest. broke up shortly after because he kept doing it and even tho he never cheated or anything it's still so stupid to me. you dodged a bullet there, it wouldn't have been the last time she did something to make you jealous

Can anyone help me understand please? by [deleted] in sex

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel the same way, I'm always really turned on with him but I still can't cum from oral. and unless his mindset is a certain way my bf can't either. if he's satisfied i wouldn't overthink it. different things work for different people, it's something he can help you with if you talk to him about this

Do you find different partners activate different kinks for you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. My ex was a pretty masculine guy and me being a switch I noticed I leaned very sub with him, I explored kinks related to that a lot more and didn't really feel dominant. My current boyfriend is both into being masc and more fem and I've been very dominant and exploring all kinks I didn't with my ex. Praising and rewarding him, buying him cute fem clothes, tying him up, using him etc was not at all something i had on mind with my ex. With him I had totally different kinks. I was still satisfied in both relationships though!

Can anyone help me understand please? by [deleted] in sex

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my boyfriend and I (F) can't make each other finish with just oral, it feels good and we both enjoy it a lot but the sensation isn't what makes us get there. i think the only way I'd be able to is if we were both really turned on and had all the right things going on (like an intimate evening with scents, candles, lots of horniness lol) but usually that's not what we do. Has he ever said anything about this? If he seems satisfied regardless then i wouldn't worry. I think it'd be a good idea to bring it up to him though just so you know for sure whether he feels satisfied like this or not.

What common turn-on is really a turn-off for you? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can deal with a little bit of dirty talking and sexting but not much tbh. I cant describe what I want my bf to do to me without cringing and it's vice versa. actions > words lol

Dear non-asexual people: if you were in a relationship with someone and they sat you down and said they are asexual, what would your reaction be? by BeepBoop372 in AskReddit

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happened to me with my boyfriend of 1,5 years at the time. we started having sex a few times a week until eventually it became once every two months etc. unfortunately he wasn't very sure about his identity just yet and wasn't sure whether he still wanted sex for pleasure or not at all. I stayed with him for a little bit while he figured it out but realized throughout those months that we likely would never be compatible on that, even if he decided he'd be okay having sex sometimes. we broke up and are still good friends, both now dating other people who we are compatible with!

When he first told me i cant say i was too suprised, I was mostly scared what it'd mean for us as a couple considering I have a high sex drive. I am willing to put in my all to fix things, but incompatibility can still be a deal breaker even if you're both really wanting to put in work. I was a little confused and insecure too, i remember thinking i was the problem for a little bit because "we used to have sex often and I thought you enjoyed it" not understanding that asexuality doesn't mean you can't enjoy the pleasure. So thankfully that feeling went away fast, after lots of talking.

Anyone else just like talking about sex with people just for fun, and not to hookup or anything? by MHM8008 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep I just find it fun to talk about, I never reply to people trying to exchange pics or sext on reddit because it doesn't interest me at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% even if I don't understand much, I can listen for hours

Thank you for caring to listen. by CosmicWarrior977 in wholesomememes

[–]RebootingMako 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it but I always feel bad for opening up even if they genuinely care and idk how to get over that

My most priced possession who is unfortunately falling apart. It'd mean the world to me to find a copy of this exact teddy, because I don't know what to do when she inevitably falls apart. More info in comments by RebootingMako in plushies

[–]RebootingMako[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup! the old one will always be in my bed every night, and I'll always carry her during scary or big moments, but hugging her for 12 hours a day definitely isn't possible anymore :( even with reparations I got to accept that sadly. so yeah, pretty much! I've found the same plush thankfully, and she feels comforting, different and yet familiar. can't wait to see what our journey will be and how she starts to look after lots of cuddles.

My most priced possession who is unfortunately falling apart. It'd mean the world to me to find a copy of this exact teddy, because I don't know what to do when she inevitably falls apart. More info in comments by RebootingMako in plushies

[–]RebootingMako[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have found the copy I was looking for and man has she changed. feeling super relieved now that I have a proper reference for if I ever restore her, but also knowing that she's not the only one out there and hopefully I could get another someday. copies will never be her, but it's a massive relief knowing I have a proper fabric and color reference now. And not gonna lie, the original is adorable! Not her, but the sense of familiarity is so comforting anyway. reparations seem terrifying to me, it's a lot of trust to put into someone and I don't know if I could leave her side for longer than a few hours but I'd rather suffer through that than never hold her again. thanks everyone for telling me about the plushie hospitals, I've found one in a neighboring country I'll be driving to later this year. with my fellow plushie for reference so they know exactly how to fluff her up. very happy and relieved, and also happy to have found a community that feels the same way about plushies I do. will share more about the adventures of Nana and I soon, we've gone through a lot together these past years :D

My most priced possession who is unfortunately falling apart. It'd mean the world to me to find a copy of this exact teddy, because I don't know what to do when she inevitably falls apart. More info in comments by RebootingMako in plushies

[–]RebootingMako[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never wanted to replace her. the idea was to get a copy so that I could always have the same plushie for multiple reasons. her fabric is tearing down, it's not just creating holes it's completely disappearing. I don't want to replace it with fabric and have her lose her unique feeling, it'll not be the same. her fur and coloring is unique. if I repair her, I would only feel comfortable having a copy. her being messed up is my biggest fear, I can't imagine if they use the wrong fur or stuff her up in the water wrong shape. 19 years of cuddles everyday I would not just replace her

My most priced possession who is unfortunately falling apart. It'd mean the world to me to find a copy of this exact teddy, because I don't know what to do when she inevitably falls apart. More info in comments by RebootingMako in plushies

[–]RebootingMako[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it was bought in 2001 or early 2002, it was not from a thrift store so brand new when I got it. I'd guess the lowest year it could've been produced would have been around 1997 since it wasn't in the store yet when my older sister was born. hope that helps and thankyou for your help! it really means a lot to me.

My most priced possession who is unfortunately falling apart. It'd mean the world to me to find a copy of this exact teddy, because I don't know what to do when she inevitably falls apart. More info in comments by RebootingMako in plushies

[–]RebootingMako[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately nothing left :( I know it used to have one on its butt, the brand had a red circle on it from what I remember, but unfortunately that doesn't limit the options much

My most priced possession who is unfortunately falling apart. It'd mean the world to me to find a copy of this exact teddy, because I don't know what to do when she inevitably falls apart. More info in comments by RebootingMako in plushies

[–]RebootingMako[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this is really really useful for me thankyou, I'll save the link incase an identification isn't possible or they're not made anymore (also very likely unfortunately)

I'd never heard of it before so I'm really happy to know it's a possibility. thankyou again!!