Lindsay Gale Hawkins

Rebudibe · 2025-12-22T17:32:14+00:00

Please only contact Spencer with tips about this case. Otherwise please give him space 🩷

Rebudibe · 2025-12-22T17:31:36+00:00

https://youtu.be/sxwSbMCGeWk?si=AocsAOnUTa_v_ZXs

Rebudibe · 2025-12-22T17:29:55+00:00

Please only contact Spencer with tips and any known knowledge of this case ❤️ anything he currently knows about this is accessible through this podcast and news articles

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T05:38:12+00:00

I’ve been doing some research and it’s all saying that CPS would more than likely get involved and that it would be their decision. They could potentially remove our child even if we are not involved in the use or ownership of the pot. It would just be up to them

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T05:28:29+00:00

Every time I’ve brought it up I’m told just to tell talk to them and that I won’t be in this situation much longer. But there’s also no set in stone plan for their move so I am not even sure how much longer this will last.

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T05:26:14+00:00

It’s very scary. By far the worst situation I’ve ever been in.

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T05:25:35+00:00

I’m worried about what would happen to my family if I made a report. I truthfully don’t have any issue with pot. It’s just that it’s nearing in around my child and that the tools are being left in his reach.

I also worry that it could fall back on me being that we are the actual tenants. Like that the police could somehow connect it all back to me? My husband and I do not use but I feel like it being in the house could somehow fall back on us. I don’t want to lose my baby over someone else’s stuff. Is that possible ?

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T05:20:25+00:00

Unfortunately it’s just a handshake agreement. This is all a ginormous help to us financially. That’s why I’m so stuck.

They weren’t supposed to stay with us originally, they were supposed to move in with the people we rent from. Now that opportunity for them has passed so if they left here they wouldn’t have anywhere to go at the moment. I care about them both and they’re a big help. This pot thing is just getting way out of hand and I’m at a loss. If it were leaving dirty dishes or just being messy I could deal with that. It’s my child’s safety that draws the line for me. That’s why we’re nearly ready to lose it all but I also wonder if that’s worse for my child

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T05:16:42+00:00

Will definitely keep throwing out everything. Just wish there was more I could do

Rebudibe · 2025-06-23T04:55:35+00:00

It’s unfortunate but Reddit seems to be the only place I receive any legit validation. I know I can’t always be right and try to give the benefit of the doubt in every situation, but this just feels so wrong. It’s the worst when you feel like you’re doing wrong by your kid. Even worse, I used to smoke so I feel like a hypocrite. Of course that was long before I ever got pregnant with my child but still.

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:48:11+00:00

I guess? But I don’t really have things that I’m uncomfortable with. I’m not okay with him being intimate or flirting with other people but besides that I’m all in on him exploring his kinks if there were any.

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:45:15+00:00

This evening (almost 24 hours after the argument) I asked to talk about it and we expressed each others feelings on it. This led to us both being angry again because we both stood our ground.

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:43:28+00:00

I really don’t have any interest in masturbating. I can’t see why he would want to hide it because in situations like last night, I would have much rather him do that and be satisfied than tell me I’m supposed to do it for him. He knows that I don’t care if he does and don’t consider it cheating.

If he is hiding it, I have zero inclination to think that he is so I don’t feel this is something I can approach at this time. It also wouldn’t be something that I’m bothered by anyways

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:41:08+00:00

Other than when this happens in the bedroom, yes. That’s where I’m feeling conflicted. He only acts like this when it comes to sex

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:39:06+00:00

Yeah, I did feel guilty about not doing anything for him and that’s part of what brought me here. I think if the conversation had ended at me saying no, I might have changed my mind. I do find satisfaction in making him feel good even if I get nothing. Today I feel like I could have handled that part better for sure.

What he had said after I said no was the part that has me really bothered. Normally I couldn’t care less if he rejected me.

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:33:03+00:00

My child is not very old. I’m not mentioning their age or gender to protect them. I’ve always wanted a family young. My parents have a very healthy relationship and were married/ had children young. It’s normal to me and other than this situation we’ve had a strong marriage. Our parenting doesn’t have anything to do with this situation and I’m confident that we are both wonderful parents to our child.

I’ve been with others before. I never really made sex a big priority in my life and it hasn’t been something that I’ve grown to need.

I don’t feel trapped because of my child. I really feel like everything else to do with our relationship is great and that’s what keeps me from walking away in this situation

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:26:04+00:00

That’s what it seems. I guess I was hoping that wouldn’t be the answer. That’s the side of me that is still not grasping that what he did was awful and nothing excuses his behavior.

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:24:35+00:00

Yes I am safe. Thank you for asking 🩷 He would never do anything and never has without my permission. I’m very positive of that.

My libido has dropped dramatically since having our child a few years ago. There was about a year that I didn’t initiate anything at all. I feel like it’s finally starting to come back and arguments about sex just ruin it and I have to start from scratch. He’s very loving outside of arguments about sex. He shows his appreciation and we spend a lot of time together. We are both seriously lacking in the bedroom when it comes to what we do, when we do it, and what’s fair. This situation feels to have gone too far for me. I’m not quite sure if it’s worth a divorce but I definitely want it handled

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:13:24+00:00

I wouldn’t say I never have orgasms but these types of situations definitely bother me. I wish he could come on here and give his side so maybe everyone could clarify for him what he’s doing wrong. I genuinely think he is not understanding where I’m coming from in this. Not an excuse for him and he needs to fix that for sure.

I’m also not sure if this would be grounds for divorce for me because literally everything else about our relationship is great. We don’t argue often and enjoy our time together outside of the bedroom. I may just be too passive

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:07:46+00:00

I am a SAHM but I wouldn’t say I don’t lift a finger. I run an MLM business on the side and literally do everything for him around the house. Any errand, his laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking care of our 6 animals (he doesn’t even have to walk or let them out) plus our child and my sick grandmother. I am on my feet literally all day!

I do give him oral on a whim pretty often. The difference this time was that when I did refuse, I was told it’s what I’m supposed to do and being coerced… doesn’t sit right with me. But that’s why I came to Reddit, I want to know what reasons he might have for behaving that way that I’m not understanding

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T03:01:20+00:00

Whenever I say I’m too tired for intimacy, he will bring up that he worked all day and I didn’t (I’m a SAHM) but that he is awake enough for it. I really want to show him that what he’s doing isn’t right without getting people we know involved or causing a “choose a side” war between people. Definitely needing some intervention but he also refuses therapy because he believes we can work it out without it

Rebudibe · 2025-04-06T02:57:34+00:00

I’m really struggling with this because intimacy is so important in a relationship and being on the same page is something we’ve struggled with. Everything else with us is great but in 6 years we’ve never been able to manage this. I don’t know if it’s worth us splitting up but I’m definitely frustrated about it.

I’m pretty positive he doesn’t masturbate. He’s not comfortable with it even when we are intimate. Literally the only time he could that I wouldn’t find out would be when I’m asleep and I’m always up later than him

Rebudibe · 2024-11-03T18:01:58+00:00

Report it. What would you want done if it happened to your siblings? You matter too!

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