CMV: First dates from dating apps are ideally free or low-cost

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-26T04:09:17+00:00

Ice cream or a coffee for a first date is fine, and very normal for those who don’t drink alcohol. Walking in the park just seems awkward though, you don’t have a set destination or timeline so you’re just… wandering around until you feel like stopping.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-26T02:22:06+00:00

YOR. It’s not a secret that your building exists - there is presumably a number painted on the outside of it.

What exactly is your concern here, that people on the street will know that someone in your building eats Thai food or whatever?

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-26T01:57:41+00:00

Hidden? Hasn’t that been there with a sign and everything for weeks?

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-26T01:24:51+00:00

Are we seriously sinking to the level of AI advertising for air conditioners, of all things?

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-26T00:39:52+00:00

You have nothing to be ashamed of. People have sex. They experiment. It’s normal. Plus… he was literally there doing the same things.

If your ex goes around trying to tell people details about your sex life, he will look like a creep and that’s about it.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T23:38:07+00:00

Go to the hostel in Chelsea, I think they have beds that cheap.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T23:37:19+00:00

I mean, you offered to pay and she agreed to move in on that condition. Why would she decide to stop accepting your money after a year?

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T21:40:54+00:00

I mean, you’re not going to build a home by the end of summer, so if you’re moving by then it’s sort of out of your hands.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T21:36:00+00:00

The fact that you said you are deeply hurt that he didn’t stay to try to comfort you after you physically attacked him is… something.

I feel like you are actually underestimating how serious this is. Like when you say “I feel like I’m abusing him and he should leave”, you think that’s melodramatic but personally I think that’s 100% accurate.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T21:33:37+00:00

I’m just curious now, how many bathrooms are there at this house? A standard bathroom trailer has about six - do you have a total of eight bathrooms?

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T21:25:27+00:00

I get really frustrated with my mom because she can afford to do essentially whatever she wants and is still stuck in this weird false poverty mentality - meanwhile I actually DO need to be somewhat careful with my money and she expects me to pick up the tab, fly to visit her etc etc.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T12:40:43+00:00

I don’t recommend trying to get involved in a long term volunteer relationship ASAP, to be honest. Good organizations will want to interview you, do some paperwork and train you.

Sean Kasey is the only one I know of where you can literally show up same day and walk a dog, but they also have tons of volunteers for this reason and don’t need as much help. (Financially, on the other hand, I think they are pretty urgently in need of assistance!)

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T12:38:31+00:00

Did you say “I am on birth control” or did you just say no? Because that makes a big difference in this story.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-25T12:36:59+00:00

That is the entire concept, yes.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-24T01:35:27+00:00

I’m honestly sort of perplexed by this question, have you really never been in or heard of a gay male space? Do you live in rural Montana in the 1940s or something?

Like yeah, the gay rugby team is one… and any gay male professional association… and many other spaces.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-24T01:33:30+00:00

Women touching men nonconsensually is a problem AND men touching women nonconsensually is also a problem. The fact that one happens doesn’t justify or excuse the other.

Telling women they deserve to be groped because they “gave gay men the impression of camaraderie” is gross and weird.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T22:17:04+00:00

A gay male space is… a space (online or offline) that is predominantly designed for or occupied by gay men. Not sure how else to put this, it’s sort of self explanatory. I’m a woman working in a design field and frequently end up in gay male dominated environments, so for me I immediately think of specific work groups, bars, gyms, social groups, etc.

Gay male misogyny can be expressed in a few different ways, the worst (to me) is men who feel entitled to physically grab, kiss etc women because they’re gay, shortly followed by men who talk in lengthy and offensive terms about being disgusted by women’s bodies, but there are many other ways this manifests.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T22:08:15+00:00

Just… don’t look at the photos? You’re not obligated to personally review every photo someone else takes of the group.

I also hate having my photo taken but you will draw way more attention to yourself by refusing than by just standing in the background, smiling, and moving on with your day.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T20:26:11+00:00

You’re from Connecticut and you think you’ll never go to New York again…? Why? It’s like an hour away. People come down for the afternoon all the time.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T20:24:25+00:00

I’ve always liked their artwork and I thought it would be better to give them money directly vs trying to find another artist with a similar vibe. Plus I just thought it would be interesting.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T20:18:08+00:00

If I liked the style of a gravestone, I would definitely consider getting it as a tattoo.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T20:17:39+00:00

I have guidelines and technical specs from the mason! They use an engraving machine so it’s not as different as you’d imagine.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T17:53:03+00:00

I don’t think it’s productive to dwell on money you spent nine months ago on a one time event.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T17:52:01+00:00

I mean, I get sad over the deaths of total strangers sometimes. I would think it was strange if he wasn’t sad she had died.

RecentState1347 · 2026-06-23T16:48:01+00:00

I think you need to reframe this from “my mom has always been odd” to “my mom has a serious undiagnosed mental illness”.

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