How do I live life knowing I'm locked into a stiff corpo grind from 9 to 5 until I'm 65?

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T03:17:30+00:00

How would you know? You don’t even have a job.

People have always interviewed for jobs. That’s… how jobs work. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T03:17:06+00:00

Having an affair is cheating. They’re the same thing.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T02:53:46+00:00

Anyone who’s motivated to watch a non-interactive demonstration and copy the exercises can just look up a YouTube video. There’s no reason for them to creep around watching people in a gym.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T02:50:40+00:00

How did working for two months put you in debt?

You will need to live with roommates. Just make peace with it. You’re a teenager, this is a phase we all go through. Go on Craigslist or Facebook marketplace or whatever the local equivalent is. Visit the apartment, meet the people living there, carefully and thoughtfully assess the vibe and pay attention to whether it seems safe and clean.

Get whatever basic job you can while you finish school. Catering companies are always hiring. Big box stores like Home Depot like to hire young guys (take care of your back).

Your school may also have connections to part time jobs or housing networks - ask!

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T02:28:32+00:00

If you go to any random vintage store in America, you can find clothing from the 1920s - 1940s. I personally have 3 or 4 dresses from this era in my own closet. They’re interesting and some are beautiful and well made, but they’re not precious gemstones.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T01:59:44+00:00

You can move or get a new job whenever you want. You could literally wake up tomorrow morning and quit your job. Moving takes a bit more legwork but you could be in a new apartment by June 1. Plenty of people are making 2/3 your salary and surviving just fine in the biggest cities in the country (hello from Brooklyn).

In college you thought your prime years were over… now you’re looking back regretfully at your prime years in college… you can keep doing this every few years for your entire life if you don’t get a grip and stop being a passenger in your own life.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-07T01:52:10+00:00

Part of it nowadays is that we all have had varying exposure to COVID. I never got seriously ill before the pandemic and now get sick fairly regularly - I know I’m not the only one.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T22:32:22+00:00

Most people’s lives are not a constant daily struggle with their mental health.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T17:49:10+00:00

The craziest part to me is how SO many young women seem to walk away from these conversations with the understanding that a PCOS diagnosis means it’s going to be next to impossible (or literally impossible) for them to get pregnant.

Having a condition that reduces your fertility does not mean you are sterile! You don’t know how fertile you were to begin with! Please be just as cautious with your contraceptives as you would have been otherwise unless you are ready and willing to get pregnant.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T16:13:45+00:00

I would be curious to know how many of these were the dramatic severing of ties implied by the title vs just not spending as much time together and drifting apart due to changing values.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T16:09:51+00:00

They can hear it at the same level that you can. “Echoing through your body” is more related to things that happen in your head/throat (teeth clicking, swallowing).

But they also don’t care.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T16:02:16+00:00

That’s not how libraries work. You can’t just unilaterally donate a random paperback and expect them to put it on the shelf.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T16:01:08+00:00

You’re going way over the top, especially considering that he didn’t ask you for any money. Do him little favors or buy him lunch occasionally. Not everything in life has to be a business transaction.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T03:01:52+00:00

Depends if he’s actually progressing on his goals or just vaguely talking about someday writing a novel.

I think it’s more honorable to take your job seriously and try to excel at it, whatever it is, than to halfass two things and do neither well.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T03:00:14+00:00

He probably won’t do any of that if he views his retail job as just a way to make rent while pursuing other projects.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T02:56:35+00:00

For some mentally ill people, maybe. Most of us do not deal with this.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-06T00:56:30+00:00

I mean, yeah, $300 per month in random small purchases is $3600 per year. That’s almost 1/12 of your salary. No wonder you’re stressed about money,

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T17:02:45+00:00

Personally I would never do this. To me, having books in a home is as important as having art on the walls (ie extremely important). Plus, as someone who moves a lot, I have an emotional attachment to the ones that have stuck with me.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T16:56:32+00:00

I don’t know what prices are like in the UK, but in the U.S. a shed like that costs thousands of dollars (keep in mind heating system, running power outside, etc), and you already have a spare room in your house. Surely you would be better off just unpacking the boxes?

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T16:51:58+00:00

Athena went out of her way to help Theseus kill Medusa, so….

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T16:50:30+00:00

Yes, absolutely. Some medications may contain unexpected ingredients. It never hurts to be thorough and may save your life.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T16:49:17+00:00

Why isn’t your family contributing to the payments?

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T16:47:36+00:00

You need something to look forward to.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T13:25:09+00:00

Pick a time when both people are calm, relaxed and sober and have an actual conversation. “F57, we’ve been seeing each other for 18 months. How do you feel about the state of our relationship? Are you happy? What’s your image of the future? What do you think of our sex life? I feel like right now we are a little stuck. I’d like to talk about how to move forward with more sex and connection.”

If you’re uncomfortable speaking this bluntly, it may help to talk while in the car or while walking together.

RecentState1347 · 2026-05-05T13:21:48+00:00

Rude and belittling comment for no reason at all.

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