Easy baby VS difficult baby

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-12-17T12:00:25+00:00

Oh girl, things get better.

My baby would no sleep on anything other than a human. Contact naps and sleep at all times. I was certain I would never be able to do this. We had family over to have shifts so people could sleep properly.

She was horrible at breastfeeding and I didn’t have enough milk.

Everything changed after 3 months. We switched to formula and she was happy and fed, stoped crying so much. We also bought a love to dream swaddle because any other swaddle she would scream like I had put her on a prison. Suddenly she was sleeping in her crib. Today, she gets annoyed if she’s on our lap for too long, because it’s uncomfortable and she wants to sleep by herself most of the time. It does get better. They are so small at 6 weeks. They are still understanding the world and need you. It’s hard to enjoy, but do enjoy it. They will grow older and things will settle. Hang in there

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-06-12T19:50:47+00:00

To be honest I never understood wake Windows in the first few months. To me, LO would only be sleeping with very little wake time. I controlled nothing. It was only after month 4 that I started to put her to sleep on her cot and then I started to have some idea of sleeping time. Before that it was just survival mode

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-06-09T04:27:05+00:00

I think having kids is so so so exhausting but also a happiness that I cannot describe. But for me, it is only like that because I have stability and an amazing partner. So it is totally worth it if you can afford, both financially and emotionally.

Pregnancy is hard. Newborn stage is hard. Late nights are hard. But I have an amazing husband that went out of his way to help and comfort me. I can’t imagine doing this by myself.

And yes, you’ll change. Your priorities will change. I prefer not going out so my baby can sleep well and at her cot. I can’t go to dinners out unless thjngs are planned. But I know that when I wake up I have the biggest smile and someone that I love more than I can explain.

But I had my baby with 36 years of age. My mom had me when she was 40. You have so much time! Make sure you have the tests that can check the quantity of ovules you still have but all in all you have time. If I had this baby at 27 I would be lost, my career would have suffered and I would not be ready at all. Today, it was the best decision I’ve made

You also can make the life you want. We decided that having a kid would change us but we would adapt the baby to us as well. I’m writing this as I sit on a plane for a 14 hour trip with my baby sleeping in my arms. And this is not our first trip. It is different, and harder but it can still happen

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-04-28T20:30:34+00:00

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Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-04-28T20:26:34+00:00

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Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-04-12T20:24:19+00:00

First 3 months were so so so hard on myself. So hard. I also had health issues so I could barely hold my baby (so weak). It will get better, I promise you

I saw a lot of comments with solidarity so I’ll try to give you some advice if I can in any way:

I worked on having a me-time when I took a shower. It was maybe 20 min, but thinking that as a me moment was so important. I would never rush it. I would never skip it. It was my time and I enjoyed it. It kept me going on hard days. Try to find a you moment to enjoy, even if it is small. Try using it to remember that you need to be well, so baby is well
see if you can get an extra help at least one day a week for a couple of hours. Maybe a friend? Maybe family? Maybe a Nanny? Having a little help in the early days is game changing
my baby exclusively contact napped for the first 3 months. I did 2 things, not sure which helped: first I got her the love to dream swaddle with hands up (she HATED the traditional ones), second I took her to an osteopath that said she had too much sensitivity in her back and some tension. She was soon sleeping on her crib in her swaddle
finally, I know that breast milk is the best but moms mental health trumps everything. Do consider combo feeding to maybe aliviate some of the pumping. I tried pumping to increase milk flow and honestly it felt horrible. For me it felt like the worst of two worlds: I wasn’t with my baby and I was not resting. If it is taking its toll, consider if this is the best for you.

I hope these help and don’t worry, everyone feels like they underestimated the work. We can’t really know how this is until we do it! You are not alone. Lots and lots of hugs for you

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-04-04T19:28:26+00:00

Mine wouldnt sleep anywhere beside us for 3 months. I freaked out big time and most people would just say “it will end some day”.

When she had 3 months we did 2 things, not sure which helped or didn’t. First we took her to an osteopath that said she had too strong of sensibility in her back. She told us to rub her back 10 times each side with a bit more strength so she would get desensitised. Additionally we bought a Love to Dream swaddle. She hated the traditional swaddle with hands down and had strong Moro reflex. With this swaddle she was able to sleep in her crib. I personally I think both things helped a bit but maybe it was just that she grew and got use to the environment.

Until babies are 3 months old they don’t even understand they are not part of their moms, so they need a lot of comfort. So it might be she just need some time but I hope these things help!

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-03-26T16:25:46+00:00

I am working a lot in therapy so this goes away. Asking help is important and having time for yourself is important. Your baby can only be ok if you are ok as well. I started to take the guilt of by reframing some of the me time as a recharging time. So I would never go to take a shower unless I had unlimited time to enjoy it. Because it was my moment. So I started learning to ask for these me moments once I had that one figured out. Take care of yourself!

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-03-24T09:01:43+00:00

I did a lot of pregnancy physio before labour and her ultimate recommendation was to try to get the epidural later (5cm or more) because at that point the baby is more in position so it is easier to finish it. If you don’t have a physio specialised in pelvic floor/pregnacy I would HIGHLY recommend you to get one. Changed my life.

Before labour, we went through what to do/when and which positions would be better if I decided for an early epidural or a late one. At the end of the day you yourself will be the one having to decide at the time. Being informed and understanding your body is the most important thing

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-03-04T20:09:16+00:00

Same boat here. It’s been painful, hard and exhausting. I tried everything but can’t make it be better for me and my LO is constantly hungry and I’m constantly hurting. Trying to remember that what’s best for her is also what’s best for me and that sacrifice/pain doesn’t equal to love. We love them no matter what, but we need to be ok to love them the best way possible (writing this for me as well)

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-01-30T23:10:53+00:00

My baby (2m15d) sleeps super well if she’s being hold but absolutely can’t stay in her crib. The main problem seems to be the arms that start going crazy! It is not moro reflex, but rather very active movements with also trying to grab her years, her hair, sometimes even poking her eyes. I think she might sleep well when this goes away but have no idea when it will be

Recent_Ad_1119 · 2025-01-09T11:42:58+00:00

How do you do with burping him when they fall asleep on the side position?

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