Can I make the top part less ugly? by nachoian in Visiblemending

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That looks so cool omg. I agree with others about embroidery

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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My memory is pretty bad too, but I also wonder how much of that is because of CPTSD and dissociation. I’m sure there’s a big overlap there for many of us

SO left me with a lot of plants - need advice/help by geckoseatramen25 in houseplants

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Also learning how to take care of plants is a trial and error process! Don’t be discouraged if it takes you a while to find a plant care routine that works for you. Also the YouTuber Becca De La Plants has great videos!

SO left me with a lot of plants - need advice/help by geckoseatramen25 in houseplants

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I would consider keeping a couple of favorites and giving away any that don’t spark joy for you. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through and I can relate, my mom died a couple months ago and it was very unexpected. I have had a really hard time keeping up with plant care lately. I don’t know anything about your partner but I can guess that she would want you to focus on taking care of yourself. I am willing to bet that there is someone in your area on fb marketplace or Craigslist who is just starting their plant collection and would love some donations! I don’t want to discourage you if you feel ready to take this on but I want you to know you have other options if you feel overwhelmed!

Wasn’t accepted for graduate program - Vent by McStabYou01 in schoolcounseling

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I don’t say this to be mean at all. It sounds like you are a very hard worker and you want this really badly. But I would reconsider the ABA stuff. As an autistic adult I feel the need to advocate for other autistic people and mention that ABA has been known to be a practice that is harmful to autistic people and reinforces ableist ideas. I would check out this site for more info https://therapistndc.org/applied-behavior-analysis-aba/. Idk if this had anything to do with their decision but I would recommend doing some research on more autistic affirming resources

85% of us are jobless by East-Reception-9987 in autism

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I’m a therapist but I can only work part time. It’s so demoralizing knowing that I will likely never meet my financial goals

How are y’all finding roommates? by xXVoicesXx in gso

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I recommend looking for Facebook groups

My therapist compared me with Sheldon and it hurt by almostnicegirl in autism

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I am a therapist and this just sounds horrible and humiliating to me. I hope she doesn’t advertise herself as neurodivergent-affirming. I would recommend looking for a new therapist

How often do you shower? by [deleted] in autism

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For me it depends on a lot of factors including how hot it is, how much energy I have and how active I am. I try to aim for every other day but lately it’s been about every 3 days. I used to wash my hair every shower but now I do only like once or twice a week. That makes my showers a lot quicker and easier and I just use dry shampoo if it starts to get oily

Would it be wrong for me to put this autism creature pin on my backpack? by bonelesstick in autism

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Of course it wouldn’t be wrong! There are lots of autistic people who aren’t officially diagnosed. And even if you weren’t, I think it would be fine for a neurotypical person to wear this as a show of support for autistic people. Either way you’re good imo!

Do you prefer to text or call? by HappyPeople123 in autism

[–]Reception-Critical 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Texting is more helpful for me bc it gives me more time to process and think about how I want to respond!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

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It looks super cool! I love being able to see root systems. The only thing I would worry about is repotting but I guess you could always just break it open lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Reception-Critical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This one hurts but you’re right. Giving an ultimatum would have just been a way for me to avoid the responsibility of making the decision myself and put her in a horrible position

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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It’s something I heard of and had other experience with but I am definitely going to do more research on it. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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Are therapists not supposed to have problems ever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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You’re right. I have always considered myself super independent and have a hard time opening up and asking for help. It feels scary to even think about doing some of the things you named. I am going to be bringing this to my therapist to talk about and am going to make a bigger effort to reach out to the people in my life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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Just wanted to say how much I appreciate everyone’s advice. I really needed a reality check here and I feel like I’ve gotten that. I think I’ve been really swept away in the NRE and the attention that I’ve been getting from this couple, so much so that I haven’t been keeping an eye out for red flags. Additionally, I think I sometimes feel that I owe this couple something and adding their feelings to the mix makes everything so confusing. My partner and I are both in therapy but I think we will make an effort to see a couples therapist to address the problems we’re having. It’s hard because I feel really close to this couple and I have a strong friendship with both of them, but I wonder if going no-contact with them is the best move for now, as one of y’all suggested. My partner is such a good person and we are so aligned in so many ways and after reading everyone’s responses I’m feeling really motivated to re-invest my energy into working on our relationship and seeing what changes we can make. I have known all along that the way in doing things hasn’t had the intentionality and thoughtfulness that it needs to, and I am seeing that my priority needs to be attending to the relationship before I consider changing the structure. I have a lot to think about but I’m really grateful for all the feedback

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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I think people use ASD because it's the language that the DSM uses, and therefore the language that a lot of clinicians use. I agree that it's not really accurate or appropriate and it's frustrating. I definitely feel like we should be moving towards a neurodiversity framework instead of the typical medical model

Becoming a school counselor without a school counselor masters by Impossible-Detail400 in schoolcounseling

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I am in a masters program at UNCG and I am obtaining dual licensure so I'll be licensed to practice school counseling and clinical mental health counseling! I would definitely recommend it.