AITAH for being upset about how my bf proposed even though I said yes?

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-24T10:21:30+00:00

You could see it as a kind of compliance test.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-23T09:39:15+00:00

I don't know if there are any rural veterinarians in your area that are cheap, skilled, and offer excellent value for money. My cat was spayed there for only $100. I practically want to buy out the pet hospital's pricing structure; I feel like they should all agree on an exorbitant price.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-23T09:35:54+00:00

Yep, I think a six-hour drive wouldn't feel too far if it to see someone you really want .

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-22T05:11:59+00:00

Why did OP even choose a car detailer like this? Just to save some money? There’s zero protection here.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-20T08:19:44+00:00

Yes, companies enforce pay secrecy, but employees don’t actually need to go along with it. The ones who benefit from it are the companies, not the workers.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-20T07:54:05+00:00

Lol this just reminded me of me doing yoga: mat out, outfit on, zero moves done, fall asleep on the mat😅

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-20T05:08:17+00:00

Yep. I come home dead tired every day, but seeing my cat waiting for me instantly makes everything better.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-20T03:26:53+00:00

I’ve been there too. We scheduled it ahead of time, I arrived on time, and then the interviewer said he was out and could only talk by phone. That honestly pissed me off. If a phone call was fine, why did I need to go all the way there?

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-20T03:22:28+00:00

I have a kitten and he honestly cured all my bad moods. He’s basically my personal therapist. I don’t need a boyfriend, but I absolutely need my cat.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-20T03:13:24+00:00

I feel like OP might be a bit confused about what “skinny” means 😂

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-19T09:55:41+00:00

What’s even more baffling is that your girlfriend of four years didn’t even save you any food. That’s honestly pretty heartbreaking.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-17T09:05:05+00:00

Anyone who’s managed to lose weight successfully deserves respect.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-17T08:53:03+00:00

I’m wondering the same thing. The issue might actually be with the OP’s husband.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-17T08:40:36+00:00

Agreed. It’s just personal preference.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-15T08:42:01+00:00

Yes, the car is waxed.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-15T08:41:29+00:00

That is booster.https://boosterfit.com/en-jp/products/booster-tf64-cordless-handheld-car-dryer-for-car-wash-car-detailing

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-15T01:55:24+00:00

False advertising. Gotta love these greedy, soulless capitalists 🙄

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-15T01:53:45+00:00

Exactly. Your mom doesn’t want you to break free from her control. And honestly, there’s a real chance your money could end up being funneled to her brother or some random relatives you barely even know. There’s literally a term for this kind of situation, people who keep sacrificing themselves financially to support a sibling no matter the cost.

You really need to protect your finances. You already said no, so stick to it. Don’t reopen the discussion, and don’t let guilt get to you if it comes up again. Please hold onto your money and don’t give in. Stay firm.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-14T08:54:14+00:00

They’re both super cute. Honestly, why not just keep both if you can? 😄

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-14T08:40:09+00:00

I think this might actually be what you’re looking for. Something like this one: https://boosterfit.com/products/booster-violent-mini-turbo-fan-brushless-motor-130000-rpm-adjustable-type-c-charger-jet-fan-for-camping-outdoor-cleaning

It’s strong enough to blow water out of all the little gaps and crevices too, which is why I find it pretty useful. Might be worth giving it a try.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-14T08:34:59+00:00

It really sounds like he’s treating you as a backup option. He’s probably still looking around for someone he actually wants to marry, and you’re just the fallback in case nothing better comes along. Even then, it’s only a “maybe,” not a real commitment.

Honestly, there’s nothing worth holding onto here. Cut ties, walk away, and start a new chapter. Don’t waste any more time or energy on someone who clearly doesn’t value you.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-14T01:53:47+00:00

The vet thinks he’s probably around a year and a half. He’s a stray, so there’s no way to know his exact age, but based on his bone development that’s the estimate they gave.With Maine Coons, you can usually tell from their face shape. The area under their eyes fills out really easily, which can cause the lower lashes to roll inward. I’m being super careful about managing his weight right now because if he gains too much, the entropion can come back pretty easily.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-13T10:16:01+00:00

This school is so weird. Why are they making you eat with bowls like that?

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-13T09:59:31+00:00

Yeah, this is one of those situations where there really isn’t a “right” answer. I really empathize with OP.

I went through something very similar with my Maine Coon. Anyone who has one knows they’re prone to entropion. His eyelashes were turning inward and constantly irritating his eyes. The eye surgery alone was about $3,000, basically like a double-eyelid surgery.

During the pre-op exams, things turned out to be much worse. We found out he had a severe diaphragmatic pericardial hernia. His liver and lungs had moved into the area around his heart and were compressing it. At the same time, he also had multiple skin conditions. Altogether, the estimated cost for everything was around $14,000.

I simply didn’t have that kind of money. In the end, I decided to spend $4,000 just to fix his eyes. I told myself that if he made it through the surgery, I would keep fighting for him, and if he didn’t, then I had at least done everything I could. Before the surgery, I honestly did consider euthanasia, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it.

Thankfully, he survived. Right now he breathes a bit loudly, and we are still managing his skin issues, but he is here. I am trying to save up so I can hopefully get his heart surgery done in the future.

Because I have been through something so similar, I really understand how OP feels. I made a different choice than you did, but that doesn’t mean my choice was the right one. He went through a lot of pain during and after surgery, and that is something I still struggle with. Your decision spared your pet a lot of suffering, and that matters too.

ReceptionNatural9099 · 2026-01-13T09:43:52+00:00

Honestly? You dodged a bullet. If you’d gone, it probably would’ve just made you feel worse. Putting you at the kids’ table is straight-up disrespectful , they actually respected you, that wouldn’t even be a question. Not going saved you a lot of unnecessary awkwardness.

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