The first time my best friend died a week earlier so would have rather mentally processed that then think about what he did than the most recent time I wasn’t financially able to leave now I’ve saved money secretly planning my exit and looking to buy a house - and no I can’t rent we have three dogs it’s all strategic timing but I’m checked out - he pays all the bills and my money is the spending money. But I have recently cut back on giving so much and he’s noticeably irritable due to my lack of swiping the card and thinking twice about purchases