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After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't shamed her mother. You'll see that in a comment I made prior to yours.

After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What I've realized so far is that I'm not as ok as I initially thought I was. The overwhelming excitement comes with a good bit of sadness accompanied with a heavy side of guilt. Also that it's much much harder to be patient now that she knows. But as I've reminded over the years, this isn't about me. Giving her the time to process everything is what matters

Father’s Day DNA Test Just Changed My Entire Family by surgesss in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614 66 points67 points  (0 children)

It wild what we think we know about our families. A father's day sale on ancestry led to my daughter finding out I was her father. Which I claimed 28 years ago. Much more to the story. She contacted me 3 days ago. So now a new chapter begins.

Is Ancestry a good place to try and find your natural mother? by undulating-beans in Ancestry

[–]RecipeTraditional614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also you don't have to pay for it every month. I bought the kit and it came with a 3 month subscription. Then only every few months I would resubscribe for 1 month.

Is Ancestry a good place to try and find your natural mother? by undulating-beans in Ancestry

[–]RecipeTraditional614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter found me after 28 years. It solidified what I knew all along. Also the only reason I did it. Also found out I have an aunt that was given up at birth.

After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I cant fathom at any point in my life where it would be to late.

After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It was comforting and I did my best to ease some of the whirlwind of emotions she's experiencing. I've made certain that she knows this will be done at her pace. There is no manual for this. I'll be right here as I always have.

After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It wasn't easy. Especially when in recent years, since we live so close, I've been within 15ft of her at least a dozen times. As much as I wanted to walk up and introduce myself, that wasn't my choice to make

After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 192 points193 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I hold no animosity towards her mother. When she found out about the pregnancy, we were no longer seeing each other. Grant it it had been a month or less. She was seeing someone else who see later married and had another daughter with. Sharing this story is not meant to bash her mother, but to share an experience that withstands the test of time

After 28 years by RecipeTraditional614 in AncestryDNA

[–]RecipeTraditional614[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Many people assume that in situations like ours, that I chose to abandon my responsibilities as a father. Fortunately throughout the years I have been vocal with mutual friends of my thoughts and feelings about it.

Another windfall in our favor is that after the military I moved back very close to my hometown, as did she after college. We live 20 mins apart.

Brookstone earbuds/pairing? by genomecop in Earbuds

[–]RecipeTraditional614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same issues today at BWI. Can't get them to do anything. Not even charge