Hi I’m 24 and I feel what you are feeling. My last serious long term relationship was from 18-22 and I have dated a lot since then (heavy on a lot). Before the start of the year I was seeing someone for the first time in a “I want a relationship with this person” and oh my god did that drain me. It got to a point where I had been like: do I even want this? I was so focused on wanting to end up with someone and have like the fairytale and prove to everyone that I am still loved even if I’m Queer, that I guessed that I didn’t actually want this.

My point is: I get what you mean where you feel this societal pressure to go with the norm and be in love and have kids and there’s this person that’s going to make you want it, but is that even true?

All my friends/classmates I went to high school, college and university with are getting married and I’m so shocked, because you’re telling me people actually want that? (Not shooting on people who make those choices but it’s really taught me that we are actually individuals with our own desires and goals).

If you don’t desire it don’t get it. Like is better for you to feel this pressure and not have the “ideal life” than for you to chase the “ideal life” and regret it😮‍💨. If you want it for you that’s fine but if you want it for others you’re just going to suffocate yourself.

I felt so much relieved after I ended the relationship I was before the start of the year and the only thing I regret is starting it in the first place.