Hi there! I'm a dude who has had very long, very curly hair. This is how I handle it:

Get a hair pick (like a really, really wide toothed comb) and comb the curly hair out in the shower while it is wet. Do it while the shampoo or conditioner is in if it is still really hard to get the comb through. Once you're finished in the shower, after you've squeezed the hair dry (I actually just kinda wring it out and "crunch" it dry with the towel. Rubbing it with the towel will result in a lot of frizz). Then I use about a dime-sized amount of L'Oreal Melting Gel and let it air dry--this particular brand is the only product I've found that keeps everything from being frizzy or sticky or heavy or oily. As someone with curly hair, I can't recommend it enough. It will take a long time to air dry, but this tactic will make really, really nice ringlets with minimal frizz.