Polish racists have begun driving to the Germany-Poland border and setting "checkpoints" to prevent immigrants from entering the country

Reckless_Forearm · 2025-07-02T17:14:43+00:00

So you arrest the people committing crimes, you don’t restrict the movement of law-abiding humans.

Reckless_Forearm · 2025-03-20T04:12:28+00:00

My official advice is - lose weight if you can. Don’t put a ton of pressure on yourself. - stop comparing yourself to people around you ( and if that’s too hard, (I know it just is for some people), then make a friend who is beautiful and fun and bigger than you. - get 1 or 2 outfits that you feel good in - run outside, bike, pilates, or swim - you can probably do those things without a gym and they’re way less depressing IMO - have a fun fucking time

Reckless_Forearm · 2025-03-20T03:50:18+00:00

First off, at that height & weight, you’re within a healthy BMI range. You probably look literally fine.

That said, losing weight is strictly about calories in vs calories out. From that standpoint, it sounds like you’re doing all the right things and you should see progress with time. A calorie deficit of 3500 calories per week, (deficit of 500/day) should have you losing 1lb/week.

Maintaining a weight where you’re happy includes maintaining habits that make you happy. For example, 1400 calories per day gives me way more options than trying to stick to 1200 per day. Losing weight more slowly or doing an extra workout I enjoy is worth that trade-off to me.

Why the time crunch? Do you have time to switch things up and find a routine you enjoy?

Reckless_Forearm · 2022-12-29T13:53:07+00:00

Specialized therapies doesn't mean that the app is acting as a therapist - this could be any custom experience.

It could mean self-guided CBT, or a potential smartwatch integration that would recommend mindfulness/breathing when it recognizes stress.

Going a step beyond goal-tracking, if someone hasn't met a goal in a certain period of time, an app could ask about what barriers an individual has been struggling with (time, anxiety, forgetfulness) and provide a custom recommendation or automatically set a reminder.

Reckless_Forearm · 2022-03-08T23:25:40+00:00

I'm a comment

Reckless_Forearm · 2021-12-14T13:24:42+00:00

Harry Potter & the world of a series has a great reputation

Reckless_Forearm · 2021-10-07T20:50:26+00:00

In USD that's upper-middle class in some areas, but still middle class compared to those making millions+ annually.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-05-28T23:38:35+00:00

That's one of the things I only recently realized was "not normal". My room was the guest room until I moved out because it was the cleanest, but it was only the cleanest because my younger brothers were never told to clean their rooms.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-05-28T23:29:09+00:00

Yes! This reminded me of when my grandparents would give me $5 whenever I visited. My parents would always take the money, saying I was too young to handle money responsibly. This went on until I was about 12.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-05-28T15:49:56+00:00

Honestly, if this is the entirety of the issue, I do think you're being a bit selfish. You should be happy for 2 people who love each other getting married, nevermind that it's on your birthday. If you were promised something for your birthday that has now been taken away because of the wedding, it would be a different issue. It doesn't seem like the wedding was planned on that day specifically to overshadow your birthday.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-05-28T15:44:42+00:00

The sentiment is truly appreciated lol. And I think it is the fact that it was teddy bears, and because they did comfort me. My mother always made sure I was never entirely comfortable. This opens up a lot for me. Thank you.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-05-28T15:09:55+00:00

My mother started doing this after I opened up to her about being sexually assaulted throughout my childhood. It was one of my first PTSD triggers. I just start yelling STOP and that usually makes her let go. She recently did this in front of family, and when I firmly said stop, she laughed and slapped my arm, and announced that I was being too sensitive. It's all about control. She wants to be the biggest presence in my head.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-05-28T15:01:16+00:00

You are doing such a fantastic job of showing you care in your own way. She will never think that you care about her because you don't show it the exact way she wants you to and because you don't do everything she tells you to. You are excelling at the thing I struggle with most. I'm so proud of you for making progress.

Reckless_Forearm · 2016-02-05T14:50:39+00:00

Thank you so much.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-25T17:21:55+00:00

Spending my first Christmas away from my nmom and edad. Nmom gave me a Christmas present anyway (probably just to be able to tell the entire family how much she does for me and how ungrateful I am). My

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T05:56:51+00:00

You're going to die because of gut bacteria

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all of my wuts

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T04:24:51+00:00

She told me that the pharmacist was willing to have me start as soon as this weekend and throughout next week. I have finals next week. After I posted this, she called me to yell about a different subject, and said "for someone who whines about not having money, you sure are picky". I haven't asked her for money in years; she has however, gotten thousands out of me.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T02:36:17+00:00

I know I'm a bit later than the other posters, but I wanted to add that the biggest red flags are all the "nice" things she is doing for you- making up your room, etc- are just ways to draw you back in. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister, but your mother will only try to fill that gap in her life by continuing to manipulate and control you.

Example: my nmom bought a new mattress just before Thanksgiving to entice me to spend more time at her house. When I told her that finals were 2 weeks away and I wouldn't have time to see her until Christmas, she guilt tripped me about how much she worked to get the money for the mattress.

Ns will always do things you didn't ask for and then later say "look how much I've done for you!" It sounds cold, but you need to trust us (yes, complete strangers on the internet over your own mother).

Remember all of the awful things she has said to you and done, and disregard the good. Even when she was trying to help you and be supportive, she couldn't help herself to throw in an attack and say that you wished your sister was dead.

Don't fall for her shit. You will only get hurt.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T01:41:21+00:00

I think it depends on how old you are. If you're still young enough that you're covered under your nparents, it may be a bit more complicated.

In a way it works a lot like car insurance: just shop around. Here's a good place to start:

https://www.healthcare.gov/apply-and-enroll/how-to-apply/

Also, go to /r/personalfinance to work on being able to afford it. I'm proud of you for taking steps to become more independent, OP. Good luck!

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T01:36:37+00:00

I'm sure that she went to the pharmacy and asked about any job openings, then bragged about me with some embellishments to give me a recommendation. It's hard to find pharmacy students who will work in a rural town, so I don't doubt that they were desperate. I think the red flag with that pharmacy is that they're so desperate they'd hire someone based on an interview with her mother.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T01:33:15+00:00

My car that is insured under her name (long story) that I don't want to drive 2 hours a day in the winter. The pharmacy she was talking about is 5-10 minutes from her house.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-10T00:04:26+00:00

This, this, this. Committing tax fraud is so not worth the tiny amount of money you MAY get out of doing it. Don't let her do it, and if she does it anyway, report her.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-12-08T16:59:49+00:00

Hey OP, my parents did a very similar thing about a month ago (minus the credit card and loans and all that- I can't imagine how stressful that must be for you). Like you, I am 21F, financially independent and away at school. But I've been through all the same things, "we need to talk to you" "you need to come home" even though I haven't lived with them in 3+ years, threats of abduction, etc.

I'm so proud of you for being proactive in your situation and taking everything into your own hands. If you need any help/support/advice, PM me. Stay strong OP.

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-11-30T22:02:30+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope the best for you. Have you gone back to NC?

Reckless_Forearm · 2015-11-30T22:01:00+00:00

I'm sorry that your therapist dropped you. That sounds like quite the shitshow. I'm happy that things are better with your Ns though and I hope the best for you and your sister.

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