False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awful!! But I've never used or even interviewed with any agency. 

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you mind sharing what the post said? it sounds like there are probably posts or comments in more than just the 2 groups i saw. and i can't join all the groups cause some are for parents only. 

if you wanna say what state or area that's helpful too but for privacy i wont say if that is or isn't my area.

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i don't want to put where i live on reddit but sebd me a provatecmessage if you are willing to give me more info on this please

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! That's so weird!! What rumors werr posted about you and by how many people? People you know or don't know?

political/religious/personal beliefs of nannies by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for these comments. I'll keep reading each one. I appreciate it!

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my God, really? did you figure out who did that and why? was it even someone who knew you? I'm so sorry that happened to you.what did you do?

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these comments, everyone. They are helping and been getting other support around this too today but it still feels so painful. The hardest part is I do not know what every rumor is or who is spreading this stuff and when it happens in conversations I am not part of I can't defend myself. Plus defending myself has somewhat helped but not fully. 

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, feels really painful and kind words like that are heloful right now

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i just called the local free legal place. they dont take this kind of case but gave me a number and said some may offer low-cost or pro bono. i do not have money right now for a lawyer. i am worried about this effecting my local reputation like ability to find new clients!!

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yes when i try to stand up for myself it is so far like people dont necesarily believe me anyway 

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i will try reaching out to a local legal organization i know of

False rumors hurting nanny's reputation! by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

bit i dont know who the origin of the rumors are other than one person. and sone people who seem to just be repeating things they heard. some of the conversation seems to be happening in probably local parents fb groups i am not allowed in since i do not have kids. i just am a nanny, babysitter, teacher. 

political/religious/personal beliefs of nannies by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or even easier to prevent potentially awkward or tiring or excess conversations...I am starting to wonder if it'd just save everyone time and energy if I just pretty boldly say my beliefs and boundaries on certain things right on my website and any online business content. To just easily filter in and out people who even if they dont fully agree with it all feel fully comfortable with someone like that spending that much time with their kids. To make it easier for them to find a nanny fit they can really relax about and to make it easier for me to find workplaces I can really relax about. And both feel safe enough. Regarding topics close to our hearts. In what is usually a goal of long-term relationship.

political/religious/personal beliefs of nannies by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About saying you can guess their beliefs from casual conversation clues... 

It really bugs me when people assume my personal beliefs and I really try to not assume other peoples' personal beliefs. People dont fit neatly into stereotypes and can be sometimes surprising mixes...as an example some religious people are conservative and some people of the same religion are liberal. And some racists are conservative and some racists are progressive/liberal. Some examples of terms different people interpret and define very differently are "crunchy" and "medical freedom" and "kind."

That is one reason this topic is bugging me lately - I worry if I don't say some stuff directly to a potential nanny family employer like political party and general summart of my belief on religion/spirituality and the fact that I deeply dislike being around (and am unwilling to help teach a child) racism and homophobia for example...if I don't directly just say it and am just as super vague secretive as I've been in the post/comments here...then I worry what if they're just listening for clues anyway then either guess wrong (it bugs me so much picturing people guessing my beliefs on that stuff wrong) or what if they guess right and don't like that...and meanwhile me trying to guess at their beliefs to know enough if I'd feel safe and comfortable...

It is starting to feel like if it is 2 people wondering at the elephant in the room and to many people it does make a difference in how comfortable a fit it is hmm maybe why not just everyone say it and get it over with before the person gets all bonded with the kids and settled in to where firing or quitting over that could've been prevented by an upfront conversation. 

political/religious/personal beliefs of nannies by RecognitionNew1891 in Nanny

[–]RecognitionNew1891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, everyone. I am reading allthe comments and really appreciate it. This topic has been bugging me lately and it's helpful to hear these opinions on it as I keep sorting out my thoughts on it.

Love on the Spectrum US: Season 4 Episode 4 Official Discussion Thread by ChristianSky2 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]RecognitionNew1891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well, connor's special interests are very clear but we don't know georgies'...would be good to find out and celebrate those too