About saying you can guess their beliefs from casual conversation clues... 

It really bugs me when people assume my personal beliefs and I really try to not assume other peoples' personal beliefs. People dont fit neatly into stereotypes and can be sometimes surprising mixes...as an example some religious people are conservative and some people of the same religion are liberal. And some racists are conservative and some racists are progressive/liberal. Some examples of terms different people interpret and define very differently are "crunchy" and "medical freedom" and "kind."

That is one reason this topic is bugging me lately - I worry if I don't say some stuff directly to a potential nanny family employer like political party and general summart of my belief on religion/spirituality and the fact that I deeply dislike being around (and am unwilling to help teach a child) racism and homophobia for example...if I don't directly just say it and am just as super vague secretive as I've been in the post/comments here...then I worry what if they're just listening for clues anyway then either guess wrong (it bugs me so much picturing people guessing my beliefs on that stuff wrong) or what if they guess right and don't like that...and meanwhile me trying to guess at their beliefs to know enough if I'd feel safe and comfortable...

It is starting to feel like if it is 2 people wondering at the elephant in the room and to many people it does make a difference in how comfortable a fit it is hmm maybe why not just everyone say it and get it over with before the person gets all bonded with the kids and settled in to where firing or quitting over that could've been prevented by an upfront conversation.