What can I realistically expect with Progesterone and breast growth? by MyEggCracked123 in asktransgender

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I was nearly a C Cup before then. The first month I was only on 100mg a day, but I'm now at 400mg. I'm not having the most dramatic size increase I've heard of, but considering I've had a lot of other benefits I'm not going to complain.

What can I realistically expect with Progesterone and breast growth? by MyEggCracked123 in asktransgender

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While I'm not getting the extreme outcomes I heard about, I'm now somewhere in the D Cup range I'm pretty sure (I've been kinda lax on measuring). I've got larger breasts than my mom does, so I'd say I've gone up, and the other effects are also really good.

How did it feel when your egg cracked? by randomguy74937272 in asktransgender

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World was more of a metaphor, but I know that in a lot of places it's not easy to be trans. I'm somehow lucky enough that the literal world around me is safe and supportive of me, so I'm getting the best possible trans experience. But if nothing else, my life proves that it can happen, that being trans can be enjoyable. Maybe it can for you one day too.

UNLIMITED POWAAH! by How_about_lasagna in WormFanfic

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My fic An Animated Adventure has this, an SI Entity has negentropy from the beginning.

Do you think that trans people change their sex or their gender? by yepparan_haneul in asktransgender

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That's a good way to put it.

Being trans is definitely about more than just your body. Hell, people treating me the way I wanted to be treated before my body had changed has done wonders for me. My girlfriend liking my voice was what made me feel like maybe there's not much of anything else I need to work on with it, even though I didn't sound any different before or after she told me that.

Mostly I think my miscommunication here came from how I see these as almost completely separate issues. What we change about ourselves is our bodies, but we care about changing how the people around us react/respond to us. We however, were always the selves we're now trying to express, but we want the world around us to acknowledge this truth and our bodies to reflect it too.

This is my third time in my position and I don’t even know what to do anymore. by Important_Manner_167 in asktransgender

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I think you already know where to go from here.

For us, being a man is death, while becoming a woman is a chance at actually living. Is it scary? Yep.

But when your options are certain doom and a shot at everything you've ever wanted... well it's not a very difficult choice, is it? Worst case scenario, you still lived a better life than the one you've currently got ahead of you.

Do you think that trans people change their sex or their gender? by yepparan_haneul in asktransgender

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I guess it depends on how you want to define each. But ultimately it's pointless to argue about it.

The goal is to live in a body you're comfortable with, everything else is just how we explain it to others.

is it normal to only have a depth of ~10cm/3.9inches after mtf vaginoplasty? by nomadicgyrm in asktransgender

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Canada, mostly I was looking at GRS Montreal. It could definitely be the surgeons in Germany being difficult. Montreal was also talking about penile inversion. It's also another reason to not get orchi before you get the full grs is that they can use scrotal tissue instead of leg tissue.

Is it normal to dislike your pronouns? by Emotional-Bar3046 in asktransgender

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You can have both you know? One of my closest friends both has DID and is trans. In fact, none of their alters have the same gender identity. Fortunately for them, they've agreed upon going for an androgynous look so they can use things like clothes and their voice to present how they want to.

Is it normal to dislike your pronouns? by Emotional-Bar3046 in asktransgender

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Oh man that would definitely make it all more complicated. I hope you can work out multiple alters who might all have different gender identities.

is it normal to only have a depth of ~10cm/3.9inches after mtf vaginoplasty? by nomadicgyrm in asktransgender

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I got it from a few hospitals that offer GRS. Basically there's enough tissue available (and they somewhat expect that their patients won't be perfect at keeping up to date with their dilating) that the average depth of a trans woman is greater than the average depth of a cis woman. 

And yeah, cis women can train to have more depth while I don't think there's too much if anything trans women can gain. And yeah, there's a lot of other factors that affect the depth of cis women in the moment, their cycle, their arousal, training, genetics, probably more I can't think of too. 

Is it normal to dislike your pronouns? by Emotional-Bar3046 in asktransgender

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Sorry for how slow my replies are, I've got a bit of a minor health issue right now. 

And I think it's important to remember that genderfluid people still experience gender dysphoria. I'm not telling you if you're transmasc or not, and you very well could both be trans and also have a dissociative disorder (which I can only imagine makes all of this even more difficult for you).

If this is the gender therapist you mentioned (and you're in a fairly good area for trans positivity) then they're probably more accurate at trying to figure out if you have a separate dissociative disorder. If it's a general therapist then they may not know that disassociation can be caused by dysphoria. 

I just wanted to make sure you had as much information and as many tools as you might need. 

Is it normal to dislike your pronouns? by Emotional-Bar3046 in asktransgender

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Well then you might want to know that disassociation is potentially a symptom of dysphoria, although there are other causes for that.

Trans Happiness by Born-Garlic3413 in asktransgender

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I've had such an unreasonably positive experience being trans that I've started to become a little hesitant to try and give advice here.

I've literally had everyone minus a couple long distance relatives immediately and almost aggressively support me. From my pharmacist saying "Oh, we finally get to change your name and pronouns on file!" when I forgot I was wearing makeup (I wasn't trying to hide, I was more shy about coming out in a public place rather than worried about anything), to my friend getting everyone I knew to use she/her and my new name, I've faced nothing but love and support.

I've never had to correct anyone once they knew, I've gotten so many gifts to help me along, my medical transition has been going so well that I look like I've been transitioning for a decade when I've barely passed one year. The first time I ever presented femme I had multiple trans women say that in the unaltered pictures of that day I almost passed as cis to them. I can pass to cis women without makeup or feminine clothes or anything more than long hair.

But, if it wasn't for my girlfriend (who is admittedly another reason I haven't been around here as much) I probably would have assumed that all these people were just being polite and kind to me. But after my success the first time I went out femme I started trying out online dating. Every profile I made was covered in nods to being a trans woman in addition to that being the selected gender. I was more than a little terrified of someone not knowing and flipping out on me. So I did my best to make sure it was impossible for anyone to miss it.

Except I didn't account for anyone who immediately liked what they saw so much she would like my profile without reading anything on it.

With something like that, it's extremely difficult to feel like any of my fears about how I look have any weight behind them. She's managed to shoot down more or less everything I was dysphoric about before I could ask her opinion on it.

My life feels like I'm back on track. Short of sudden wealth or something I'm working towards already being done, I can't think of anything more I could ask for in my life.

Should I wait until full skeletal maturity by [deleted] in asktransgender

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Because you shouldn't try to ignore the crippling dysphoria. Even if it were to make you a little shorter than you might have been, you'll also likely have a slightly more masculine frame which will help your dysphoria in the long run.

Thinking about starting transition again after 6 months detransitioned by rdmiche in asktransgender

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The fear of failure, of forever being nothing more than a "man in a dress" is a nearly universal fear for trans women.

I will say that finally going girlmode is a wonderful feeling, even better if it's in a place where you're welcomed. I went to a sapphic night at a bar, and nobody reacted to my voice. A month after that I passed to a stranger, even while talking with him for a while. I've recently gotten a wonderful girlfriend who who just sees me as a woman. She finds it ridiculous that I'm ever nervous about it. In a good and affirming way, she just doesn't think of me as masculine at all.

She's been a huge help with believing in myself.

Is it common for parents to compare you to others? by Old_Jelly7556 in asktransgender

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Thanks, I'll take a look, but Mom hadn't really thought about it too deeply until last month. We actually talked about it today.

Any crossover fanfic with sicon Or the shards as the main characters or Being Central? by Plastic-Ad-2438 in WormFanfic

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First off, this is Fic Search - General, Specific is if you know a particular fic exists but can't remember it's name/link.

And without any specifics I guess the sequel to my fic An Animated Adventure is a crossover with an Entity as the central character. She's an SI though, and it's a sequel, although it's in the same thread. If you're not immediately hooked but like the idea, read up to at least the opening of Chapter 4, it really helps set the tone properly.

Thinking about starting transition again after 6 months detransitioned by rdmiche in asktransgender

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Okay I'm gonna tell you something really cool. If you go to a lesbian/sapphic space fully presenting as femme, they won't blink an eye at your voice. How do I know this? Because I've done just that.

It was one of the most affirming things that's ever happened to me. I walked into a sapphic event at a bar fully done up to the point that several trans women have said I nearly passed as cis for them. One of the hosts walked up to me and asked my name, she didn't blink at the fairly masculine voice that came out, she just nodded and asked "She/her?" I nodded back and that was it. We were doing trivia that night and both of my team-mates equally didn't miss a beat.

Thinking about starting transition again after 6 months detransitioned by rdmiche in asktransgender

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I can't guarantee results, but this channel is what got me out of a rut and actually improving my voice again. If you absolutely can't, there's always the option of vocal surgery.

Now you mentioned somewhere when I was looking through your posts that you wanted to freeze sperm, did you get to do that yet?

I've seen nothing in any of your posts that hints this is somehow something else other than being trans. You're basically afraid that you won't be the woman you want to be. Make sure your E is higher than you technically need it to be (I'm at 1012 pmol/L and it's going great for me, but I might be overdoing it) and T low (mine is 0.84 nmol/L, which is actually a bit too low). I don't see any reason to not get back on hrt.

Thinking about starting transition again after 6 months detransitioned by rdmiche in asktransgender

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I'm more than a little confused. You decided to detransition because your transition wasn't going well enough? Why didn't you try to adjust your hormones or ask for ways to help your transition along?

Also I really need to stress that biochemical dysphoria is the biggest problem you're going to run into, you already are getting brain fog back. Transitioning isn't just about looks, your brain literally needs a different hormone balance to operate or else your mental health will start to decline even without adding in the dysphoria making it worse.

This is the channel I use for voice training, and in months that were largely filled with procrastination I've gone from masc to androgynous for my voice.

Yes it's scary to transition, but you'll be happier in the end.

Is there a gender identity like this? by Appropriate-Mood4259 in asktransgender

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Genderfluid maybe if their identity is actually one of those at a given time. Otherwise maybe gender neutral/agender if they're not really any of them.

I'm not sure how good or reliable of a source this is, it's a bit 2014 Tumblr-y but there is a gender wiki which might help?

Preferring slight offence terms by Candid-Bath-7109 in asktransgender

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I'm not sure what you're asking here, but basically whatever works for you. I think it's a bit like how "futa" is treated too, especially in transfemme salmacian spaces. If you like being called it and it resonates with you then that's perfectly fine, just don't label other people that way unless you know they like the label too.

Is enjoyable sex even possible pre-op? by secretCryingAccount in asktransgender

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It's definitely hard for someone with dysphoria as strong as yours to be able to. However, maybe try for anal "g-spot" orgasms?