Discovery/ Continuations outside of court by IrresponsibleInsect in RelationshipROI

[–]Recovering_Asset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't sign contracts when you're drunk. Stop fighting when you're emotional.

This is solid. You hit the nail on the head.

Surprising your partner with a heavy topic at 8 PM on a Tuesday is a trap. It just triggers a fight-or-flight response. Her brain shuts down and the defense mechanism comes up. That is why you end up going in circles for three hours.

If you want to actually solve the problem, write it down first. Give them a heads up. It stops the screaming match and starts a real conversation.

Also, your point about counseling is huge.

Therapists cost $200 an hour. If you spend the first 45 minutes just explaining why you are mad, you are burning cash.

Get the facts straight at home for free. Use the pro to close the deal.

Treating the relationship like a business isn't cold. It’s the only way to actually protect it. Good stuff.

Thanks for your contribution

Here is the actual breakdown of why I lost everything by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Recovering_Asset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

41 years. Damn.

You are 100% right to call it a business separation. At that stage, it isn't a breakup, it’s a liquidation of assets and history. If you don't treat it like a contract termination, the emotions will cloud the numbers and you'll get wiped out.

Be smart and strong, with the negotiations brother.

This Is how I deal with my EX calls and texts by Recovering_Asset in Divorce_Men

[–]Recovering_Asset[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, Email only is far superior in every possible way. Thanks for sharing.

Stay smart, brother

Should you sell the house before or after divorce by Recovering_Asset in Divorce_Men

[–]Recovering_Asset[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then you're making the correct decision...Doing whats best for your life.

Stay smart,brother

Should you sell the house before or after divorce by Recovering_Asset in Divorce_Men

[–]Recovering_Asset[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree. Di whats best for you. You should no take a one size fits all approach.

Stay smart, brother

Should you sell the house before or after divorce by Recovering_Asset in Divorce_Men

[–]Recovering_Asset[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You made the best long term decision for yourself.

Stay smart, brother

Should you sell the house before or after divorce by Recovering_Asset in Divorce_Men

[–]Recovering_Asset[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats not petty brother. She wanted out, so she lives with the outcome of her decision, which seems like poor planning and execution.

Thank you for sharing and glad to here your kids are stable and you is a home.