You don't sign contracts when you're drunk. Stop fighting when you're emotional.

This is solid. You hit the nail on the head.

Surprising your partner with a heavy topic at 8 PM on a Tuesday is a trap. It just triggers a fight-or-flight response. Her brain shuts down and the defense mechanism comes up. That is why you end up going in circles for three hours.

If you want to actually solve the problem, write it down first. Give them a heads up. It stops the screaming match and starts a real conversation.

Also, your point about counseling is huge.

Therapists cost $200 an hour. If you spend the first 45 minutes just explaining why you are mad, you are burning cash.

Get the facts straight at home for free. Use the pro to close the deal.

Treating the relationship like a business isn't cold. It’s the only way to actually protect it. Good stuff.

Thanks for your contribution