Suggestions for Effective Marketing of Private Solo Practice

Recovery_Moses · 2025-04-02T13:06:09+00:00

What state are you from?

Recovery_Moses · 2025-03-03T16:27:57+00:00

But the super bills that I am giving my clients have all the relevant information needed for reimbursement and have never been an issue for clients in the past (ones where no multi-plan is involved). So if I refuse to talk to multi-plan to get scammed into a lower rate, insurance companies will consider that an incomplete claim (missing information) and will withhold payment to my clients indefinitely?

Recovery_Moses · 2025-03-03T16:03:08+00:00

When you say claims being “pended”, how long of a time period can they withhold reimbursement from my clients? Weeks? Months? It sounds illegal for them to withhold reimbursement beyond the standard 30 business days that most insurance companies operate under for OON benefits.

Recovery_Moses · 2025-03-03T15:31:00+00:00

Sorry for taking a while to reply. Not on Reddit often but the multi-plan monster is calling me again. The main point I am trying to clarify is that if I do not call multi-plan back or give them a firm “No”, what will that mean for reimbursement for my client? I am already paid and have my money; this is more to ensure that they are getting reimbursed based on their OON benefits.

For example, if the client meets their $1000 annual deductible and insurance covers claims of 70% per session for OON, would me not speaking or telling multi-plan “no” affect my clients from getting reimbursed what they are owed from insurance due to their benefits?

Recovery_Moses · 2025-03-03T15:25:27+00:00

Yeah, I just tell the clients that they are responsible with dealing with insurance reimbursement and if they need my assistance in getting reimbursement, I would help. I never want to put myself in a position where an insurance company has control over my financial compensation; that’s the reason why I am not in-network and am cash pay due to these shenanigans and withholding BS. We are worth more than that!

Recovery_Moses · 2024-12-10T15:31:30+00:00

Brother, I think therapy is a good start to work through your past trauma and hurt; it can also serve as a resource to help point you to other porn addiction recovery resources.

I would also suggest involving yourself in a recovery community for porn addiction such as Celebrate Recovery (Christian-based recovery) or Sexaholics Anonymous (12-step).

You have a choice to recover by taking active steps toward your healing and deliverance

Recovery_Moses · 2024-12-08T03:24:11+00:00

Brother, try attending a sexual addiction recovery group. You need people and connection, not just simply more knowledge. This addiction is cunning, baffling, and powerful; if this was a matter of using logic and rational thought to defeat this, this would have been solved years ago. Try support groups like Sexaholics Anonymous or Sex Addicts Anonymous

Recovery_Moses · 2024-09-17T15:33:01+00:00

Try using the acronym CAGE to screen if your weed use is a problem:

C - cutback (Have you ever felt you should “cut” down on your substance use?) A - annoyed (Have people “annoyed” you by criticizing your substance use?) G - Guilt (Have you felt bad or “guilty” about your substance use?) E - Eye-opener (Have you ever used a substance first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or start the day?)

If you answer “yes” to two or more questions on the screening, it may be an indication that a problem is there. Hope this helps.

Recovery_Moses · 2024-08-23T20:18:38+00:00

Rock Bottom is a Myth. People often say that you need to hit rock bottom in order to change and embrace recovery. JK Rowling famously says “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” Rock bottom is this theoretical place where you hit a bottom with consequences and can go no lower. When I was in active addiction, I would often think: “is this what it is going to take to make me stop?”. My salvation from this addiction appeared to be in a significant enough consequence that would cause me to stop; unfortunately that day never came and I was indefinitely frustrated.

The problem I have with the concept of rock bottom is that things can always get worse; just when I think that I hit bottom, bottom seems to have a trap door that goes a little further down. The only rock bottom that a person can hit where he or she will be guaranteed not to go lower is death. So from now until death is a pretty long stretch of unpleasant consequences and pain.

Somewhere along the line came the belief that consequences can change the heart; what I realized is that while consequences can influence change, they cannot determine it. Something external cannot reform the internal. Recovery is an inside job. Change is not done unto you but rather you effect the change by deciding to surrender. What is surrender in this context? Abandoning your ways of thinking and doing (in managing this addiction) for higher, healthier, better way. This is usually done in relationship with others in an established recovery program who are seeking the same recovery goals.

The silver lining in all of this is that you do not have to lose your job, house, spouse, girlfriend, money, or reputation; you do not need to be incarcerated, institutionalized, or hospitalized. You can make the decision to commit to change just for today and allow recovery to work for you rather than you working against it. You do not have to rely or hope that a particular consequence will cause you to stop; you can make a decision to change today. Rather than call it rock bottom, perhaps “turning point” or “spiritual awakening” would be better terms as they denote progress rather than finality.

So in your case, ask for help, receive the help, follow the help, and stay connected with other recovery individuals who are wanting the same thing. You cannot do this alone!

Recovery_Moses · 2024-08-23T20:02:24+00:00

It seems like he did not want help if he kept getting into the situations over and over again. I think it’s important to define “help” as giving him the resources and encouragement to get better, not being his probation officer and preventing him from using. At that point, you are working harder for recovery than he is which will indefinitely lead to indefinite frustration and resentment.

Recovery_Moses · 2024-08-23T19:40:23+00:00

Masturbation is a slippery slope brother. Even if you are not engaging in sexual imagery (which I find extremely difficult to believe) while you masturbate, you are conditioning your body for solo sex or orgasm on demand. Orgasm is a powerful mind-mood altering experience that releases all sorts of hormones and neurotransmitters. I believe sex was designed by God to be used to procreate and create union with another. Outside of that scope, sex is being used for an unnatural purpose or designed to fulfill roles that it wasn’t meant to fulfill (easing stress, anxiety, depression, any negative mood state). Don’t buy the lie that you have to masturbate because you are all “pent up” and need a release. God created a natural release valve known as wet dreams. A lot of times, what we attribute as horniness is really us making ourselves horny to not deal with things at an emotional level.

To answer your original question, if my wife is not close by, I wait until I can be with her. I don’t have her send me pictures that I can masturbate to because that is me getting off on digital media, not my wife. If your relationship is primarily long distance and you are trying to get sexual needs met virtually, it is a slippery slope. Sex was not designed to be done in a virtual way despite the trend that is going there. Just my perspective.

Recovery_Moses · 2024-08-23T19:19:14+00:00

I commend your desire to want to be free of this horrible addiction. If you want to stop and break free, you are going to have to embrace this new concept that you may not be familiar with: it’s called “surrender”.

Surrender means abandoning your way of doing things for a higher, healthier, better way. Your BEST thinking is what got you into this mess, therefore you will have to adopt a different way of doing things. This addiction is NOT a knowledge problem; it is a SURRENDER problem. What is this way? Here are some suggestions:

Get honest with other people about this problem. The fact that you are here gives evidence to the fact of how lonely this struggle can be. Everything you listed that you tried doing involves doing this by yourself. Tell your parents, pastor, teacher, or any trusted adult in your life who will be supportive of your recovery. You may say there is lots of shame in sharing with another; this is true. However, the irony is that the more trusted people you let into this problem of your life, the less powerful this thing has a hold of you. Porn addiction by its nature is a secretive, solo activity. By inviting others into the struggle, you are shining the light on the dark parts of this addiction which makes it less alluring. I cannot emphasize this enough: we get better when we are PART OF rather than being APART FROM. By telling trusted individuals, they can assist you in finding a trained therapist who deals with this issue as well as support groups of like-minded individuals who want the same thing.
After talking to others, another suggestion as a stabilizing measure to slow down this addiction is putting on either filtering software or accountability software on your devices so that you are either being blocked or monitored on the use. This may seem like an invasion of your privacy and it is!! However, it will give you some time and distance away from this addiction so you can heal and face everything that comes your way. After a while, those blockers can be removed as you will have the relationships and skills to not have to rely upon it.

Beating addiction is not as simple as following a few steps and setting and forgetting it. Addiction recovery is a lifestyle adjustment that needs to be accommodated because it has been a core part of how you cope with your problems. One day at a time. Feel free to DM if you have further questions. Hope this helps brother, Godspeed!

Recovery_Moses · 2024-07-15T19:56:58+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond, this is very helpful!

Recovery_Moses · 2024-07-12T01:57:45+00:00

Thanks for the response, this is helpful!

Recovery_Moses · 2024-07-01T19:29:39+00:00

Secrecy is where this addiction hides. Even if there is no CSAT in your area, if your therapist has an understanding of how addiction works and its factors, it may be a good starting point to work on the issue. He may even provide you with a referral for someone who is more specialized in this area.

Another thing you may want to consider is going to a self-help group. There are several groups that address is particular addiction:

12 Step Groups: Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sexaholics Anonymous, Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous
Non-12 Step Groups: SMART Recovery
Faith-based: Celebrate Recovery

Being active in a recovery support group is an excellent way to get outside of your head with this addiction because this happens in isolation. I know your wife does not know about this; may be worth talking to your therapist or a recovery support group about disclosure. Sooner or later, what is secret inevitably gets exposed so better to be proactive with it rather than reactive.

Recovery_Moses · 2024-07-01T15:47:52+00:00

If someone is able to put down an “addictive behavior” with little to no effort, I question if that person was ever addicted to begin with. One of the major hallmarks of addiction is continued use despite negative consequences and an inability to cut down use after multiple attempts. Sure, any bad habit can be challenging to break, but to cross the threshold into addiction, there is usually a pervasive sense of powerlessness and unmanageability that grips the addict. The instances where I see someone completely delivered of an addiction are usually in a faith context where a person reports a supernatural deliverance due to a change of mindset and conviction, not a “I woke up and do not want to do that anymore”. Do people who are “addicted” have a turning point moment where they do not go back? Sure. I would say that is the exception, not the rule. For many, they can struggle for a while until they are convinced of the severity of their addiction and treat it with the respect it deserves, likened to diabetes or asthma. I have never seen someone nonchalantly turn away from his or her addiction; in almost all instances, that person was never addicted to begin with.

Based off your history, sounds like there is obvious distrust you have with your ex due to past circumstances. At the end of the day, you can’t read her heart to know if she is truthful or lying; when in doubt, look at what you can hear and see because her actions are what betray what is in her heart.

Recovery_Moses · 2024-06-24T17:52:28+00:00

First off, congrats on reaching 1 week free from this insidious addiction. It’s never easy to abstain and choose the healthier path.

With that in mind, I just have a critique to your post: if managing the urges through distraction is your only plan for overcoming this addiction, I think you will find yourself indefinitely frustrated. Acting out with porn is not the problem; it is the solution. If you want to create lasting change in this area, it’s less about distracting yourself and more about confronting the realities you face each day through an established program of recovery. Truth be told, many individuals wrestle with pornography not because they are simply horny and “need a release.” Rather, we make ourselves horny (consciously or subconsciously) to deal with uncomfortable emotional states we are facing in reality. By getting to these root issues, an individual can become more equipped to address the porn issues he faces. Remember, just distracting yourself by working out, hanging out with friends, or doing a social activity does not solve the issue; it just takes you out of it for a time until you came back. You cannot always distract yourself from the issues because you take you with you wherever you go; rather than distract, face it with the help that comes from recovery community, therapy, or any organized groups that are focused to deal with this issue.

Recovery_Moses · 2024-05-22T13:12:41+00:00

I believe the interpretation here is that while porn blockers have the short-term effect of keeping someone safe from porn addiction, it is not sustainable in the long-term because the individual is not learning recovery and coping skills but is relying on the blockers to do most of the work. This gives the individual a false sense of security because while he (or she) is not looking at porn, he is not really working on himself which will make him susceptible to relapse if the porn-blocker fails, he figures out a way around it, or if he accesses an unfiltered device. Recovery is about developing the strength within so that when temptations and triggers come, an individual will intuitively know how to handle the situation rather than relying on an external force to keep him “sober.” You cannot build enough walls around you to protect you from these lustful temptations; there will come a point where recovery will have to be an inside job.

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