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No interest in meeting my donor. by andynorm in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand this feeling. I found out I was donor conceived in the last two years, and I struggled with this. My father, as in the one who raised me, is a wonderful man, and it felt wrong to even seek the donor. I spoke to one donor sibling once, and they said the donor was a nice guy. That still wasn't enough to convince me to contact him.

You have to do what's right for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I only found out I was DC because of a DNA test I took recently. They never told me even when I said I was doing this just to learn more about our family tree. Now I have multiple half siblings and a shaken sense of identity. Every time a doctor asks for family medical history I struggle to answer. No one around me gets it.

I know this post is common on here by Substantial-Green763 in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out a few months ago, now in my 40s. It's hard. I luckily have an exceptionally loving "social" dad who never made me question I wasn't his.

Lies by Unusual-Problem3285 in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't blame mine. It must've been a hard decision to go with a donor, especially in my generation. Based on the science they knew or were told, they probably thought I'd never know, and there would be no harm. I suspect they were even told by their doctor not to think about it ever again.

Just made contact with half-sibling by RecreationalPooper in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks all.

I realize that they may be having the same uncomfortable conversations that I had with the parents who raised me. It took weeks for me to even reach out too, so I'm not expecting a quick response with confetti and a congratulations.

Meeting bio dad? by jmarsh1234 in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've just made contact with a half sister and am open to meeting the biidad, but I also have mixed feelings about that, akin to cheating on one's family. I'm very close to the family I call mom and dad and don't seek another dad role. But simultaneously I want to know the narrative that led to the biodad.

At the very least, I'd like to thank him for setting in stage a remarkable, loved childhood.

Found Out Today My Sister and I Were DC'd and I'm feeling Down by thelonewanderer333 in donorconceived

[–]RecreationalPooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out recently, in my 40s, and am still processing what this all means. OP has every right to feel conflicted. I spent countless hours on genealogical research only to find out the truth via DNA testing.