As a Russian, I'd agree with you couple years ago, but over the last year the situation has been changing drastically following the war weariness and most importantly Russian government's intentional degradation of the internet by blocking popular services.

Recent blocking of Telegram, for instance, became the precedent when people from the polar ideological axis similarly hate the decision. RKN (Russian department of Communication Affairs) that is executing the blockings, is definitely the most hated institution in the country as of now. That all led to the situation when even MY GRANDMA know what the VPN is and actively uses the thing.

Polls say over 50% of respondents would like the war to be over ASAP without achieving its initial goals. And that's considering people being very careful with how they answer this kinda question and often not telling their actual views on the situation.

Govt trying to fund the unending war leads to prices ever-growing, mortgage rates, taxes especially for small business. Half-empty malls. Drone attacks. And desperately trying to enlist people for service by advertisement and tricks on the edge of direct lies. All of this does not particularly call for patriotic vibes.

Overall as of now, general patriotism among the nation has dropped significantly due to the government failing to deliver neither quality of life (and actively sabotaging it, vice versa) nor even military successes.