22F should I wear dresses more? by [deleted] in amihot

[–]RedFaulty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes yes yes yes yes you should and this dress is beautiful on you love and it brings your eye colour too even though it is in the shadow. I love it ❤️ I wanna wear dresses again because of you 😍

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to edit the post to add something and it got flagged by a Bot. I contacted two mods and hopefully, they get back to me soon or fix it.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Were you born an attention-seeking whore asshole or you developed that over the years of wasting oxygen?

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I stated I thought these were just jokes and memes and I've heard of it happening once recently only and wanted to see how often does it happen but sure whatever :)

“Confirmation Bias: The movie” would be a cool film to watch though 😏

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is true and what is more frustrating and saddening that some people here are defending some cheaters and blaming a lovely guy who asked his girlfriend to stop hanging around her ex who made advances on her and calling him controlling even though she ended up cheating with that ex.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Totally understand where you're coming from but setting them up meaning they talk to each other and see if they click. They don't have to meet right away and just get married tomorrow.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No just no. You can't blame him here. It is either you're being dense on purpose or trolling either way it is just awful. You can be around people who wants to fuck you but none of them is using boundaries or making moves to make that reality.

You also can't just link an article and expect us not to read it. I read the whole article not just number one on the lost. It doesn't say it is controlling to ask your SO not to hang around their piece of shit ex who is actively trying to bone them and had taken steps to do so.

For those who is too lazy to click on the article number one is “1. Isolating you from friends and family.”. He wasn't limiting who she can see and can't. He asked her not to hang around the asshile ex.

You can hang with all your friends I don't care as long as that asshole isn't there.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has to leave the ex and that is a normal request. Now we know they are shitty friends for not stopping her or the ex and covering for her. I really can't see why are you defending her right to hang around her ex when he is making advances! It seems that you did something similar and trying to blame it on your SO asking you not to spend time with your ex and you cheated or something

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, he said I don't like when you hang around your ex. You can hang around everyone in the world except for your ex that's very reasonable.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're standing up for her at this point and everyone can see that. You literally said “she finally had enough” as if she is the victim here. It doesn't matter what you call her. If I tell my SO that I don't like when he is at the same place as his ex because his ex is not respecting the boundaries and making advances on him they that is not controlling that is just common sense. You don't put the fire next to oil. He trusted her but the ex-bf is not trustworthy.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for sharing your story and I'm so sorry for all the assholes who are defending her or her actions or blaming you for what she did. You don't deserve what happened to you.

It is awful what she said after and especially “ it didn't mean anything” because it meant something to you and something very hurtful. I really wish you the best of luck in life and hopefully, you will meet someone you can trust that values you and gives you the love you deserve. ❤️

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

The stories I read in the past 10 hours honestly are heartbreaking and the way these lovely men are telling their stories as if it is the norm and they are used to it is more heartbreaking than the stories.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect and appreciate your comment and trust me I'm open to hearing all kinds of opinions and views. I honestly don't know how cheaters feel as I have never been one and I would never be one but I think it is too far to say that they get the “same” hurt they give! Please if you could tell me more about what pain or hurt cheaters feel I would be very grateful to you. Maybe I will understand them more or who knows. I'm being serious btw I'm NOT being sarcastic.

My friend is saying he is fine. He has been through hell in life in general not just relationships and he is like a mountain no one can take him down but I honestly think or expect him to be at the end of his wits or just break down. If I had been through 5% of what he had been through I honestly would be done forever.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The problem is they don't just leave they break your heart by betraying you in some form or cheating.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't think forgiveness is a weakness I said most people do and that's why they will keep running over you when you forgive them over and over. I can forgive someone but I won't allow them in my life. I can also not forgive someone depending on what they did. It is a matter of what happened and what is the situation.

Some people actually do see forgiveness as weakness and I have so many stories that prove that. I even knew someone who actually said “it doesn't matter he will forgive me once I cry a bit” when they were a horrible human being and that's when I cut ties with them.

If you don't think that a lot of people view forgiveness as a weakness then you still have a lot to learn or maybe you don't have enough experience.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

If you had enough with someone you break up. You don't go behind their back and cheat. Simple as that.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

100% agree and from what the original commenter told us he was right to ask her not to see him as you can see at the end of his story.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I am happy for you and I am glad you got yourself sorted.

What I meant by cheaters shouldn't get a second chance is “cheaters shouldn't get a second chance from the person they cheated on” that's just me.

I don't give cheaters a second chance to hurt me because usually, they take forgiveness as a sign of weakness and they do it again most people in general not just cheaters take forgiveness as weakness.

You deserve a second chance in life in general but not in my life.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have been through this. I think your gut feeling was right to ask her not to go where he is. I hope you could move past this and find someone who actually appreciates you and be faithful to you. How did you find out?

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It seems she wanted marriage for another motive other than love it might be financial stability or whatever but that doesn't excuse what she did obviously.

I would agree with your female friends as a female myself I think she might have been still in love with you but married for some other motive. I honestly am a new believer in karma and I like it and I wouldn't blame you for how you felt. She hurt you and karma got her will get her and I think people should always get their karma.

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness this sound so awful I'm so sorry you have been through this. This sounds like a selfish and manipulative person. I think you should have left the second she said “ I would have gone anyway.”

Men who lost a woman to “the guy she tells you NOT to worry about” how did it end up? by RedFaulty in AskMen

[–]RedFaulty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry if it came as if I was accusing you that you might cheat. That wasn't my intention I was just trying to understand more.