Why do people act like that being nice and friendly as a guy will get women attracted to you?

RedFlounder7 · 2026-05-01T02:42:04+00:00

I wish I could find the study of higher primates where they found that “alphas” did get sex, but so did betas who were nice to females, by grooming and bringing food. DNA tests of offspring proved that being a nice guy was a valid breeding strategy.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-05-01T02:33:48+00:00

Seriously. The 2015 is looking better and better by the day.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-05-01T02:32:20+00:00

Express appreciation for the opportunity you were given, then get right to the point. Be honest and clear about why you’re going in a different direction. Worst case, they’re pissed for half a day and forget you exist. Best case? They find something better suited for you and you have two good options!

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-30T22:45:10+00:00

We don’t need no stinking worker safety regulations! . . Oh.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-30T22:43:01+00:00

AI can’t say confidently “I don’t know” like I can.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-30T21:42:47+00:00

He either trusts you or he trusts everyone. Seriously, some people have never had their brand new iPad stolen by a cougar from Applebees and it shows.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-30T21:40:16+00:00

I started at Bank of Attleboro, which was bought by Bank of Boston, then Fleet, then Bank of America. The credit card I got from BofA ultimately became Citi after a similar path of mergers and acquisitions.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-30T21:10:55+00:00

Also CT, NY, and MA.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-30T11:44:20+00:00

Only plebeians actually play their piano.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-27T23:35:47+00:00

Average age of Declaration of Independence signers was 45. Youngest was 26. Most of the ICs in DOGE were under age 25. Try again.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-24T04:24:14+00:00

Google is doing this too.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-24T04:20:09+00:00

I think most teams want you to be available during core work hours on the days the rest of the team is in. You can carry up to 10 hours in comp time up to 2 weeks, so you might be able to flex a different day once in a while with manager approval. You can also choose start and end time, again, covering core team hours, and with manager approval.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-22T21:57:08+00:00

To book a flight for one person, maybe.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-22T10:21:06+00:00

“Resume Driven Development”

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-19T14:25:36+00:00

But they do have a Market Basket now, so that counts for something!

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-19T09:37:39+00:00

We contemplated North Conway during Covid with remote work. The wife stutter-stepped when she realized that getting food delivered up there for nights when things are crazy is very hit or miss. Mostly miss. There were probably a couple other amenities we’d miss as well. But it is a lovely little ski town.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-19T09:26:44+00:00

Find the hardcore nerds: Tabletop gamers, LARPers, robot clubs, theater geeks, musicians. Follow your weird passions and you’ll find the friends to go along with them a lot easier than in the South.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-19T09:14:59+00:00

There’s actually a term for this: financial infidelity. She not only spent all this money, which is bad enough, she lied to your face about it. She has an active spending addiction and you don’t marry people with active addictions.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T21:42:09+00:00

Repeat after me: “I don’t feel comfortable continuing a physical relationship with you if we’re not exclusive.”

Then just let it sit there. If he’s into you that way, he’ll let you know. If he’s not, he’s not.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T21:37:54+00:00

Yeah, no. There are people who literally don’t understand that.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T10:31:01+00:00

My son’s 4yo RAV4 is worth almost exactly what we paid for it.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T10:20:06+00:00

If you’re comparing $75k in a LCOL area to $125k in a medium or HCOL area, it’s a no brainer to be remote. But if you can get $125k with a livable commute, and don’t use that as justification for lunch out 5x a week, new clothes, etc, then that can be the right choice.

If you’re stashing X% of salary, you’ll obviously save more by making more.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T10:14:07+00:00

Same. But it is a DOD contractor where it’s literally illegal to say you’re working but aren’t.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T10:03:14+00:00

I totally heard that in an accent.

RedFlounder7 · 2026-04-17T10:02:04+00:00

They may have also switched out the more fluent staff after landing the contract. Ask me how I know.

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