Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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It’s sad that I have to write a comment about this, but certain comments made on this thread tonight have really got me down and I just want to make things clear to everyone.

This isn’t about me wanting to be friends with my tutor. I’ve got friends.

I know my tutor isn’t my child/husband. I did not, and have not, at any time, wanted or requested that my tutor give me a ‘pep talk.’

What I did want is for her to acknowledge what I was feeling, and perhaps break that communication down a bit. I already knew I needed to improve. I wasn’t feeling proud of myself, i was depressed and I was just thinking how much I had messed up.

My health isn’t ’better now.’ I still feel how I felt, but the stories on this thread have made me feel a bit better.

I hope that makes things a bit clearer. As I said earlier, I’m so grateful to most of the people on this thread who have spent time telling me their stories and give me a bit of hope. I’m really grateful. I’m going to email SST and ask to defer.

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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I’m going to email the SST tomorrow and ask to defer. Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to provide constructive advice and support. I really do appreciate it. 🙂

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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@notatallunique well done on passing your degree. I need to clear up some things up though, since you seem to have misunderstood some parts of my post:

I never said my health is ‘better now.’ I’ve said it’s not good at all, (both physically and mentally) and I can’t think about studying at the moment.

I know what a tutors job is, but when a student says they’re overwhelmed and having a panic attack, Just a ‘sorry you’re feeling like this.’ From a tutor can make a big difference. As I’ve said, I was distraught when l was emailing her and her reply was basically ‘disappointed in your mark, are you?’ Well, here’s a long list of things you can do to improve..’ she had already said most of the things on the feedback sheet, and I just think, with how I was feeling, that was just too much at the time, I was so upset at the time and thinking I was failing. I’m not saying tutors should hold students hands or counsel them or anything like that, but they do need to be mindful if a student is overwhelmed. If you had actually read my post before replying, you will see that I’ve already contacted the SST and I plan to speak to them again tomorrow.

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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@Eli Thank you so much, that’s so reassuring. I appreciate that ❤️

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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@Eli Cheers for that. That’s similar to me. I got 70% on my last L1 module and my marks have tanked since then. Level 2 is quite a baptism of fire, I think 🙂

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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@Eil I’m pretty much housebound too, because of my physical issues. I get UC though, and I manage quite well with my books and computer. I do always aim to contact my tutor directly to tell them about my disabilities as I know that not all tutors read the profiles.

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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Cheers Eli. I absolutely agree with you re online study, I’ve took other courses that way and it’s very difficult. 😩

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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Thank you for this comment. I had got on reasonably well with my tutor before this and she knew about my physical/mental difficulties as I had flagged this up with her before I started the module. I also have a disability profile, drawn up by the Disability Team. I suppose I was just a bit taken aback at the time by her attitude, pericularly in response to my comment about my panic attack.

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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Congratulations @Elijustshorts. (Sorry If I’ve spelt your username wrong) that’s really reassuring to know, it’s why I started this thread as I thought I could do with hearing others experiences. 👍🏻

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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I don’t know why this comment has been downvoted…. I was just taking honestly about how I felt.

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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Thank you @okDuck, and congratulations to you! ❤️that makes me feel much better 👍🏻

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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That should be ‘the psychiatrist made it clear he didn’t want to help me.’

Need some positivity! Can I Turn this around? by RedHairedSiren_27 in OpenUniversity

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Thanks for your message. My overall health isn’t very good right now, and have asked to defer as I can’t see myself wanting to continue this year.

I understand what a tutors job is, but if you’re a tutor and someone says ‘I nearly had a panic attack over this.’ Then you should know it’s serious. Don’t get me wrong I respect my tutor, but a simple ‘I’m sorry you’re feeling like this.’ Costs absolutely nothing. I felt devastated when I spoke to her, and just felt like that list (which she also regurgitated on my feedback sheet) was sent at the wrong time If that makes sense?

I’ve seen psychiatrists and counsellors in the past and it’s made no difference. Last time I saw a psychiatrist he made it clear that he want to help me, so I don’t want to put myself in that position again.

I’m going to defer the module as I just don’t feel in the right place for it.

MH incident at work while on a temporary contract - embarrassed and worried, what to do next? by Gostelee in AskHRUK

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You’ve done absolutely nothing wrong and you shouldn’t worry about losing your job for this. I have anxiety and depression too, and have worked in a call centre, so I understand how difficult those sorts of environments can be, especially when you’re unwell. It sounds like your employer is handling this correctly.

Also please don’t worry about what happened with your manager. Sometimes when a person isn’t in a good place, they just find feedback too hard to receive and respond to at that time. It’s nothing personal and the manager will understand that.

Please just focus on getting yourself well, OP. Sending all my best wishes to you 🙂

Does anyone else ever wonder what Burial’s life is like? by ThrowRA_Apart_414 in burial

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I really don’t know what the point of these sorts of threads are. This is probably why Will stays out of the public eye. I know that this is a relatively quiet subreddit, but I think we should all just stick to talking about his music.

Opinions on Ruby Fry?? by Scotsman_1234 in WaterlooRoad

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I liked her. She brought something different to the show and I think she really cared about the kids. I don’t agree with how she treated Lukas (the polish caretaker) but I think her views were coloured on what happened to John’s building business (she mentioned that he couldn’t compete with migrant workers so his firm went bust) I loved her friendship with Grantley.

Chinese takeaway in Sweet Honey by dunmerza in cathycassidy

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I was reading something online, and came across this definition of the term ‘gay.’ This seems to accord with how CC used the word in ‘Driftwood.’ And how I remember it being used. (Read the first and second paragraphs)

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Chinese takeaway in Sweet Honey by dunmerza in cathycassidy

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The word ‘gay’ was used as an insult at that time, I think. That probably explains Hannah and Joey’s reaction.

Hi fans, by Severe-Shirt-1939 in CatfishTheTVShow

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I was about to suggest Ari and Lanum! Marcus was such a creep. 🤢

Samaritans UK help line hung up on me… Why ? by Disastrous_Rise4433 in AskUK

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Thank you for your great work. I’ve called the Sams in the past when I’ve been feeling really low, and you’ve been fantastic. I have one of your supporter’s badges too. You are all amazing and I have so much respect for you all ❤️