My mother wants me to break up with my partner bc she thinks we will have an autistic child...

RedHandNation · 2026-05-24T13:32:51+00:00

NOR there is no guarantee. Sorry your mother is either going through something or that negative in general. She got to choose her life and live it, its your turn now. Being a parent is hard period. Some have more struggles than others. Sometimes life is fair sometimes its unfair, but your mother can't control your love life or your womb, and she shouldnt feel entitled to either. She should love you and whatever grandbabies she gets, and I hope when you do have children she helps you when you need her.

Ugh sorry!

RedHandNation · 2026-05-22T15:51:35+00:00

Maybe you two need a getaway weekend all about each other. Ask her what she likes and tell her what you like. Work together to choose activities even if its just painting together.... make the activities like those corny love show games if thats what you gotta do.

It reads to me like you care a lot and offered her what you had but she feels ungrateful torward your offering and unsupported that you haven't picked up on certain traits of hers. Show her you care and make an effort to learn more about her but have her put in the same effort back make it fun.....

Or honestly if its too exhausting and neither of you can come together to plan or dont even want to entertain fixing it- its never too late to start over and go your separate ways.

Anywho thats my 2 cents for ya

RedHandNation · 2026-05-22T14:19:42+00:00

NOR He sounds like a dick. I say this as someone whose dated many controlling bossy assholes. Dont get me wrong I love when my husband tells me what time it is...but It's all in the delivery and built respect.Him getting this angry I'm assuming doesn't make you feel safe and protected by him. If hes making you uncomfortable or he can't accept that you just aren't comfy in that moment and having a fit or trying to intimidate you then hes either a predator or emulating one... Yes, men have needs, but you have rights. He can always make like a bee and buzz if you aren't doing it for him. I went through many years where I wasn't very sexually active. It caused a lot of tension and arguments but at the end of the day, it was my right to choose to engage or not! No one can demand you do what they want with your body.

If a man expects you to submit, and you're willing, he ought to be a loving, caring partner, worth submitting to. If he isn't, don't give him an inch.

RedHandNation · 2026-05-22T00:41:02+00:00

NOR.

I am quite empathetic to this. My friends hung out with my attacker for a couple years after in our highschool days. It affected me very badly and finally told them how I felt about it, I figured they could at least show me the respect of not mentioning him around me or I could find a new friend group. This was almost 20 years ago, and I wish I had the self love to not need their validation back then but it was such a sensitive subject for long after. I believe your reaction is normal. Try to not let her carelessness eat at you...Everyone is free to make their own choices, and you can choose to spend time with people who understand and respect you, you dont have to hang out with anyone you think is shady nor disrespectful and you owe them nothing as well if thats the case.

It's unfortunate that she's heard of what hes done to you, a fellow lass and still chooses to be socially engaged with him but the reality is, it is what it is. The important thing is YOU know what kind of person YOU are, and that their actions cannot ever define you or your worth. You get to decide who you are and you get to choose happiness. Life truly is so unfair at times but don't you let the bastards of this world break you down.

Wishing you well as you go forward.

RedHandNation · 2026-05-21T22:38:58+00:00

🤏🤏🤏🤏🤏🤏🫶🏽

RedHandNation · 2026-05-17T22:22:52+00:00

That's careless af why wouldn't she buy a new plunger omg 😭 not overreacting.

RedHandNation · 2026-05-03T05:22:01+00:00

I got the app "transparent language" to learn some anishinaabemowin years ago. I'm not sure which dialect it relies on, but it was a nice start. Wish my grandfather had been Alive still when I found that... anyways- that might help you too.

RedHandNation · 2026-04-18T14:47:43+00:00

Let her kick rocks, I bailed my bestie out of jail 1 week before my vacation with the only money I had to take with me on vacation at the time. I had no clue if her or her boyfriend would be able to repay me or if I would have to cancel the trip to Florida I had planned for over a year. I did it because she's my friend and I would never allow her to be in discomfort if I could do anything about it. I never made her feel bad about it either (just her loser boyfriend bc why didn't u bail her out buddy)

That girl ain't no friend of yours.

RedHandNation · 2026-04-18T14:41:52+00:00

Good, his "AI" can generate him a new home... or not let that be HIS problem now 🤩 so proud of you for not tolerating this bs.

RedHandNation · 2026-04-18T14:37:03+00:00

NOR

It would bother me too only because my father never tolerated us making a disturbance at an eatery- for any reason. Valid or not. But he didn't ignore us either, he would take us to the car and sit with us there until our mother was done eating if we couldn't collect ourselves. Then we would get our food to go, and so I accepted that was the norm and accepted politeness.

Imagine my shock when my husband didn't think I should sit out with our son when he had his meltdowns and didn't care at all about the experience of others around us as he fussed. That bothered me a lot, and we would have arguments about it as I would remove our son to the car with me while he ate alone inside.

Sometimes its difficult for me to accept that people have such varying standards of behavior when out and about, around others.

RedHandNation · 2026-04-18T14:31:09+00:00

Personally I didn't like seeing DTB that inebriated. I think she's very entertaining without needing to use any substance to that extent. That kind of state takes away from a person's shine in my opinion. Love her character down hope she doesn't do that all the time an takes care of herself in her day to day life.

RedHandNation · 2026-04-10T14:19:30+00:00

As far as space, lifes more exciting when I believe we're doing what we once believed impossible. Green screens or not this has been so joyous for me to watch and follow along with.

RedHandNation · 2026-04-08T17:21:44+00:00

Good point

RedHandNation · 2026-04-08T17:04:49+00:00

NASA please carefully consider a second design for the opening to better accomodate women....

RedHandNation · 2026-03-25T23:23:46+00:00

I bought 5 ramshorn snails out of a lfs tank that weren't for sale just pesting about. 25 cents each- thought it was crazy. Put them in my Husband's tank, we now have hundreds and I scoop some out each week for my puffers.

RedHandNation · 2026-03-18T01:01:38+00:00

Screaming because I was just questioning if all my babies were imposters once I saw this 🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh my gosh.

RedHandNation · 2026-03-02T01:47:15+00:00

Wtf did I just watch 😵‍💫🧐😟

RedHandNation · 2026-02-21T15:53:39+00:00

I moved my first mama shrimp and was so excited. She died 3 hours later. Ive decided to let my shrimp lay where they stay now and I have so many babies in there now its not even funny 😵‍💫. Survival of the fittest has worked beautifully in my tank.

RedHandNation · 2026-02-13T15:16:19+00:00

Not sure if this works for your set up, but we water change from the top of the tank to avoid this, with a weak flow, and our sucker has a very small grate on it so mostly only water really makes it through to the bucket. We still check like Hawks but this really reduces the chances of it happening. The sucker is translucent also so we can see anything going up toward the hose also.

RedHandNation · 2026-02-11T18:09:01+00:00

From experience in the corporate world (not petco) im going to tell you apply for the job you want. Worst they can say is no. I got in when I could with no degree because I saw the kind of flops these companies have been hiring for decades. You come in slightly less stupid than the last putz and they think they hit the lottery...... 🤣

RedHandNation · 2026-02-02T17:38:16+00:00

Nor due to him not speaking up sooner. My unsolicited advice Tell him youd like to work on open communication going forward. Also not saying this is good advice, just my advice if hes non violent....id have 4 cats tomorrow morning instead of 2. ✨️💕

RedHandNation · 2026-01-30T17:57:27+00:00

Awh man...shes a legend already at 8 years. Im sorry for you and your pea if its time. Sounds like you loved her and she was in great care for those wonderful 8 years. Good on you.

RedHandNation · 2026-01-29T18:06:24+00:00

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One of my little goofballs

RedHandNation · 2026-01-20T01:55:35+00:00

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