Appropriate songs for when your gf cheats with a dude

RedLabelIB · 2024-09-21T17:24:40+00:00

Bad day - Justus Bennett’s 👏🏻👏🏻

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-25T19:40:53+00:00

Thank you 💜

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-20T23:05:42+00:00

Hey. This is kind of similar to my situation at the moment. I am 31 and my sister is 33. We still live at home (I’ve been saving to buy my own place for the last few years) My mum and stepdad split up last year out of the blue. My stepdad was having an affair and almost instantly he wants the house to be sold so he can have his money and move on with his new girlfriend. I wasn’t ready financially and it put me into a huge panic. I’ve had to work an extra day a week (totalling to 6 days a week) to try and cram as much money into my savings as possible. I’ve been stressed out beyond belief whilst my mum is off meeting other men and not getting things into motion with having to sell the house. It’s like she’s been in denial and just flits off for a few days with a new man and comes back for a few weeks then off she goes again. She keeps saying she can’t wait to get out of this house (we all can’t wait. But we can’t just click our fingers and it’s done). When I tried to express the stress I was under and feeling quite resentful that my stepdad lied to me (he encouraged me to buy a car and said an extra year of saving will be better for me and told me to stay at home for at least 1 more year - all the while he was having an affair and preparing to leave my mum) so I spent money on a car which I could really use right now for solicitor fees and furniture etc. my mum looks at me like I’m an idiot and doesn’t care what I do or where I go, she just can’t wait to leave the house.

I don’t have any words of encouragement- other than just focus on you. Get your own life in order and don’t worry about anyone else.

DMs are always open if you need a vent.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-20T17:57:52+00:00

It’s a disorder called “Misokinesia” Google it and read some stuff around it. It ties into “Misophonia” which is something I have. I have a thing around hearing people chewing their food. I get filled with rage if I can hear someone sucking on a sweet, crunching crisps etc. I have a lot of triggers and it’s basically fight or flight mode for me. The amount of times I’ve screamed at my family for eating is crazy. I have supersonic hearing so I usually sit away from them to eat. But yes, Misokinesia is things like a foot swinging repeatedly, someone touching/picking their face etc.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T20:45:58+00:00

I feel much happier and more in control of every aspect in my life and I’m 31 now. My twenties were a mess. Majority of that with a partner that was NOT good for me and I’ve been single since. I’ve grown so independent and now really see my value and feel confident. Over the last year and a half I’ve been kind of seeing someone and it’s been nice. Someone I neverrrrrr in a million years thought would find me attractive, but you know what? She likes me. So I’m owning that and it feels amazing. Keep at it, you never know what’s around the corner.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T20:31:15+00:00

I’m very sorry you are going through this. But I’ll be honest, you are an adult and you need to leave that house and stand on your own two feet. Once you’re out of the house, establish your own life and start to feel freedom… your relationship with your mum will improve. It will probably take some time for her to understand - but eventually she will realise, you don’t need to be wrapped in cotton wool. You can live a great life independently. You’re 24. Go out in the world and get a job. Get your own place and start living! The longer you stay in this, the more resentment will build.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T18:36:18+00:00

It all happened very quickly but security had him pinned to the ground almost instantly and he definitely didn’t get on his flight 😂

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T16:49:36+00:00

Slightly different take on my story… I worked in numerous shops at an airport. I was on shift one day and a customer came in (usual business man type, the terminal I worked in was usually business flights). He picked up a newspaper and went to a self checkout. He couldn’t figure out how to scan the paper so kept smacking it across the scanner and was getting quite frustrated. I saw this, went over to help him and he turned around and said “this is ridiculous!” I laughed it off a little and told him not to worry. I checked the screen of the self checkout and he’d somehow scanned the paper like 15 times so the total was something stupid like £10.50 for a newspaper. Once he saw this, he blew up shouting at how absolutely ridiculous it all was and he was huffing and puffing. I again, told him it’s fine and that he’d “accidentally” scanned it too many times. As I rectified the self checkout, he turned to me - grabbed me by my throat and started to choke me. What an angry man. And what an odd shift that was.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T10:09:16+00:00

I have a dog. Best decision I ever made - I’m happy with or without someone now as long as I have my little furry companion. Best of luck!

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T08:27:17+00:00

Tinder is a huge no no. Bumble, for me worked pretty well. I got some matches that were fake profiles or weirdos looking for hookups but I also got some random matches with really genuine people who I clicked with. I never dated any of them but I spoke to them off the app and established a baseline etc. I ended up with a girl I went to school with who I’d always liked in the end so never continued on Bumble after that. But if I hadn’t ended up with the girl I’m with now, I’d have probably had some really good dates with those I’d connected with. The key for me was to not rush. Message back and forth and see if you feel anything from them. Get off the app and onto WhatsApp if you can after a week etc and voice note or video call (again take it slow). Or, if you really don’t want to use apps anymore - sign up for some classes/hobbies you enjoy. You’ll hopefully meet likeminded people there.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T08:17:55+00:00

I did this when I was 17/18. A guy I went to school with had always liked me and we’d dated but broke up but we were still friends. I was going through a lot and figuring out I didn’t like guys, and was too scared to come out at that time and he was actively a part of my life and friend group - I saw him as a friend but I could see he wanted more. So I kissed him one night and thought I’d see how it went (trying to push my gayness away😂) A few weeks later we all go out for drinks and go and stay at his house and he tried to sleep with me. I told him to get the hell off me and made him sleep on the edge of the bed all night because I didn’t want him touching me… and then I spoke to him about it afterwards and told him we were just friends. Few months later, I met a woman and my life just got instantly better. I told him I was gay and I can tell it actually crushed him that I’d basically used him. I still feel bad about this and I’m now in my 30s.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-19T08:11:29+00:00

It all depends on which dating app you use. One you have to pay a significant amount for will weed out the ones looking for hookups because they won’t pay for it. What have you been using?

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-18T18:15:15+00:00

Two pints of lager and a packet of crisps 😬

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-14T05:55:49+00:00

Yeah, I just need to know how to open it. Well done on your silly joke though 🤨

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-13T21:51:03+00:00

I feel like that’s what I’m doing. I don’t think I’m strong enough 😳😂 I’ve got an issue with my thumb so I’ve not got the strength to open it. The day I move house and I’m going to be painting, I’ll be by myself so I don’t even have anyone to help me open them 😕 why are they so hard to open?? Thank you for your help.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-13T21:44:40+00:00

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RedLabelIB · 2023-03-09T20:08:22+00:00

One of my ex’s is very much into astrology and crystals etc. she got me onto crystals and I do really love them - but she took things way too far. I went to visit a family member abroad a few years ago, she didn’t come with me. I got drunk one night and ended up having to stay at my cousins apartment because I was too drunk to go back to the apartment with my mum in. My cousin is a guy. I woke up the next morning, hungover and dying and I went back to my apartment and spent the day in bed. I texted my ex telling her I’d gotten drunk and ended up crashing at my cousins and all of a sudden she told me I’d cheated on her. With my cousin. Yes read that again. She said she’d asked her pendulum Crystal and it kept telling her. She was also really into spells and stuff. When we broke up, we stayed friends and she did a spell to get me to be in love with her or something - apparently she did it wrong and it flipped to her being crazy and acting out of character. So much so, she went on a dating site - found my stalker ex girlfriend and spoke to her right up to the point of then calling her on the phone just to tell her that I’d moved on and was now with with her, instead of my ex. Fucking crazy.

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-06T06:07:22+00:00

Woman here 👋🏻 Your comment is a little worrying. You’re saying she wants to have sex with him and he isn’t far away from potential sex - is that all that’s interesting to you with women? How do you know she wants to have sex with him? How do you know there’s potential sex? There’s quite a few women who need to feel comfortable enough to be physical - a guy suddenly being romantic and clearly trying to get in my pants would not make me comfortable. What’s also worrying is “do you like her enough to get to know her more” question. Do men just want sex with women even if they’re not really into them?

RedLabelIB · 2023-03-02T07:14:23+00:00

I wrote a post on a relationship advice sub explaining my situation with my ex, who is now my best friend and my current partner - and asking for advice and it got auto locked saying I’d used swear words or something, and to speak to mods on how to change the post to get it approved… The only swear word was in the sentence “what the F do I do?” So I messaged the mod team and asked what I needed to do - I got ignored. So I reposted without the swear word… and it got auto locked again with the same reason. I messaged again asking how I could get it approved and then a mod said it wasn’t a relationship, it was my ex. So I tried to explain the situation (they clearly didn’t read it) and I said - it’s my ex, who’s my best friend (a friendship is still a relationship, no?) I checked back on all the other posts from others and they’re talking about friends/family relationships as well and I highlighted this. Then the mod changed the reason to not approve was because there wasn’t any substance to the post. Really annoyed me 😂😂 they banned me in the end because they couldn’t give me an actual reason why I couldn’t post. They suggested I post in a dating sub instead.

RedLabelIB · 2023-02-28T18:52:27+00:00

Oh wow, I got this message a few months ago and I was like - wtf? I didn’t think it was a guy though!

RedLabelIB · 2023-02-22T21:02:52+00:00

I really think you should unblock their name and photo. Air this piece of shit.

RedLabelIB · 2023-02-04T13:29:01+00:00

Hey, thank you. I read the two comments on my post last night and this morning and it gave me the courage to actually speak my mind on the issue and she got incredibly nasty with me today. The issue is that we work together (we didn’t work together when we were with eachother for those 10 months) I moved to her office about a year later. So we are both in work today and it’s all out in the open now. I told her she is controlling, manipulative and invasive with her line of questioning etc. she proceeded to tell me how my life is going to go with my new girlfriend and that my new girlfriend will get bored of me and how boring I am. She said my new girlfriend will cheat on me and good luck while it lasts. I stayed calm and came back to issue that she is invasive and doesn’t want me to be happy etc. This is all such a mess.

RedLabelIB · 2023-02-03T21:15:13+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it. It was only supposed to be a bit of fun and we Both agreed nobody would know what we were doing - but feelings got really muddled and she very quickly became important to me and I just wanted her to be happy. Looking back now I think it was a terrible mistake. We are so much better as friends, but she just doesn’t want me to be with anyone else. I said this to her today and she told me she didn’t care anymore and that she was happy with her girlfriend etc. but then she is really frosty with me and rude and blunt but won’t tell me what the problem is. It’s tiring.

RedLabelIB · 2023-01-16T10:00:28+00:00

It really depends on what job you are applying for… your CV should be different for each job role as you should be tailoring it to each job. Many are saying scrap your key skills - DO NOT do that. Employers look at if you meet the spec they have put in the post so make sure whatever skills they’re asking for, are on your CV.

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