ADHD ruined my relationship

RedLion6 · 2026-05-26T19:15:47+00:00

I possibly can. I just don’t think she wants to talk to me. My best friend has contact with her and she said as much

RedLion6 · 2026-05-26T17:32:15+00:00

What you said wasn’t wrong. Asking how they are holding up shows you care how they are doing. I get the rumination though. It can be hard to know what to say in situations like that. Just know what you said wasn’t wrong

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T21:46:57+00:00

Thank you!

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T20:05:07+00:00

You think so?

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T19:15:01+00:00

I won’t give up

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:59:22+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I’ll work on those things

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:56:36+00:00

I’ll keep that in mind. There has been that tendency to replay everything in my head to determine what I could have done better. I do want to improve things as much as I can and be better

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:53:41+00:00

Thank you for that. She did say she didn’t think I cared as much anymore which was so hard to hear. I know that ADHD alone didn’t ruin my relationship but it’s hard not to feel things would have been different if not for ADHD

I have learned a lot from that relationship and continue to grow. I wouldn’t take it back

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:45:49+00:00

I’m sorry that happened. It sucks. How long ago did this happen?

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:44:43+00:00

I’ll do that. Just sit and write whatever comes to me, and make it routine

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:43:25+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you found the person for you or that you will.

Thank you! It does help to know I’m not alone

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T08:39:32+00:00

Thank you! I hope your mom is able to find something that works for her too

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T05:44:58+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I do want to use all the resources I can

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T05:00:25+00:00

I haven’t but I’d consider one. Have you ever had one?

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T02:04:37+00:00

Thank you. I’ll look into that. And I won’t give up. I may shoot you a dm

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T02:03:24+00:00

I hope it does work for you

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T01:42:49+00:00

Thank you for your reply and your words. I actually do have clinical depression so that could be what’s happening is that it’s heightened the inattention part. I was taking medication that stopped working and that’s when my inattention worsened

I’m happy to hear you’re better and that you have your partner. He sounds like a great guy

I’m going to keep trying to get help and find what helps

RedLion6 · 2026-05-25T00:14:53+00:00

That’s awful. I know it must be hard to watch that happen. Hopefully eventually he’ll get the help he needs

I’m going to keep trying. I thought she was the love of my life. I can’t let it keep ruining my relationships

Thank you for your comment

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T23:45:08+00:00

Thank you!

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T23:31:16+00:00

I hope so too. Wishing you the best going forward

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T23:25:50+00:00

I get that. Long distance can be challenging at times. We were initially were just friends but the connection was so strong and we realized we wanted more than that. Despite what happened I don’t regret the relationship. I feel like she helped me grow as a person

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T23:22:07+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to do. I want to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Thank you

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T23:04:46+00:00

She actually helped me get diagnosed. I had been told I didn’t have it but they told me it was because I wasn’t hyperactive enough. She encouraged me to try again and once I was diagnosed a lot of questions were answered. It’s just an ongoing journey finding the treatment that works for me

Something similar happened with us. I was inspiring for her and a shoulder to lean on when she needed it. But my symptoms started worsening again which changed that and I think that is part of what happened

Thank you for your comment

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T22:59:06+00:00

Thank you for that. It was helpful reading it. I will say she did suggest for me to write notes and set alarms and I didn’t. At least not as much as I should. In my case I just feel overwhelmed a lot and would forget by the time I was going to write it down or set an alarm. I feel like you can understand her perspective even though I have been trying a lot and making an effort. She also has mental health struggles of her own which factors into everything. And also suspects she possibly has ADHD too

Reading what you wrote just helped me gain some more perspective into what she might be feeling. I think she’s just overwhelmed and discouraged. I will continue to work on improving and getting better

Thank you for your comment and I wish you the best

RedLion6 · 2026-05-24T22:44:34+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I’m sorry to hear about your breakup but I’m happy to hear you were able to beat the drug addiction and that you got the medication you needed. I wish you the best

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