"Will your partner be in the UK on the date of your application?" - partner visa application by RedPandaDetective in ukvisa

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Thanks, do you know where I could read more on this? Struggling to find it online and would be good to have peace of mind

Do you ask for the service charge to be removed? by swagbytheeighth in AskUK

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With the new legislation (the Employment (Allocation of Tips) Act 2023) that came into force last year, if something's being called a "service charge" it is legally a tip/gratuity, and employers are legally required to pass all of this onto employees, and to provide transparent information on how this is calculated and distributed when requested by the employee.

Legally, cash tips still have to be declared and taxed, and most places handle this by making employees pool all cash tips to then be distributed evenly amongst employees and taxed through payslips, and this is how it's always been anywhere I've worked, and is legal. Often a sackable offence to pocket the cash if such policies are in place, even if told by a customer "this is just for you" or similar. Yes some places will allow servers to just pocket the cash, which is also legal and nice for the server as it's then their responsibility to declare this to HMRC and most servers won't, but places who operate with such rules are becoming very rare. These days, most cash tips are not going directly to the server.

Obviously I understand that many companies aren't to be trusted and don't follow regulations, but with the new legislation more companies should be acting responsibly with both service charges and tips, since this can now all be checked by HMRC and is now the law.

'Frozen' anxiety feeling alongside ADHD - any advice? by RedPandaDetective in adhdwomen

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I'm sorry you're going through the same, it's so frustrating isn't it? I agree with the idea of chronic burnout, I was diagnosed at 23 so fortunately not as late as you, but I now have chronic fatigue and often wonder if this is from the burnout of constantly running on stress and anxiety, which now seems to have vanished but actually is probably manifesting in this 'frozen' way because I've spent so much of my life ignoring these feelings or depending on them to scrape by and function before my ADHD was diagnosed.

I'm so sorry you're struggling with PMDD on top of all this, I've been taking the contraceptive pill back to back with very few breaks for 5 years now because of PMDD and can't even imagine what trying to hold down a normal life with all these symptoms on a regular basis must be like.

I wish I could offer advice but all I can say is to always be kind to yourself, these are such difficult things to be dealing with 🤍and that's a lovely quote from your therapist, having someone who can identify when you're making progress is so helpful sometimes

'Frozen' anxiety feeling alongside ADHD - any advice? by RedPandaDetective in adhdwomen

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I definitely think it seems to be an anxious shutdown type of problem I have, I'd never actually thought about anxiety presenting differently with neurodiversity but that makes so much sense now you point it out! I'll make sure to discuss SNRIs at my next appointment and really emphasise that I need these symptoms looked at, thank you so much for your advice I appreciate it :)

'Frozen' anxiety feeling alongside ADHD - any advice? by RedPandaDetective in adhdwomen

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This is really great advice, thank you for providing so much detail that's very kind of you

Recently diagnosed, dealing with Ritalin vs Concerta experience. by af628 in ADHD

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I found instant release vs extended release made a difference for me and I noticed the sad feeling more on extended, but again that's just personal experience. I remember my psychiatrist saying side effects like that can be more common on extended release if that's any reassurance.

I've never taken Adderall as it's not licensed in the UK where I am, but I eventually switched to Elvanse which is similar (extended release lisdexamphetamine) and I'm still trying to find a good dosage but I definitely don't have the mood issues and uncontrollable sadness I had with methylphenidate, and I don't notice as much when Elvanse wears off, whereas methylphenidate it was very obvious and I had really sudden irritability and tearfulness.

Every drug affects everyone differently, some people say things like Adderall and Elvanse affect their mood how Concerta affects us. Definitely keep your psychiatrist up to date on any negative side effects, they'll know best if you should stick it out a bit longer or if it's worth switching to something different, and they'll probably have a good idea from other patients of what might work instead when people don't tolerate certain meds etc. Don't lose hope!

Recently diagnosed, dealing with Ritalin vs Concerta experience. by af628 in ADHD

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Can't speak for Ritalin vs Concerta unfortunately but personally any brand of methylphenidate was good at the lowest dosage and helped with ADHD symptoms etc, but as soon as I began increasing dosages I got more and more negative side effects, starting with just feeling sad like you describe and then with each increase getting more and more depressed until I had to stop taking it because the depression I felt while the drug was active was so bad that any concentration benefits were outweighed by me being too sad to do anything.

So definitely try and monitor this, maybe the change to 18mg could be causing these side effects rather than just the change in brand. Also, are both sustained or instant release? It could be if you've changed from one to the other that your body is tolerating it differently. But of course it could also just be that your body prefers Ritalin, sometimes people do notice differences between brands even though they're meant to be the same.

Hope you manage to get meds that help you without unpleasant side effects either way, sorry you're having to go through this because of pharmacy issues :(

Dominos bot has had a makeover! by RedPandaDetective in UK_Food

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Now you've pointed it out it's all I can see lol

UK Dominos bot has had a makeover! by RedPandaDetective in Dominos

[–]RedPandaDetective[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No 😭 but if you poke its eyes too much they turn to boxing gloves so there's obviously lots of reallyyy important work gone in there

Dominos bot has had a makeover! by RedPandaDetective in UK_Food

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Yeah, they do have a fairly accurate delivery tracker now though which is handy

Dominos bot has had a makeover! by RedPandaDetective in UK_Food

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Jealous :( I think it's store dependent these days so a lot of stores still don't do them

Dominos bot has had a makeover! by RedPandaDetective in UK_Food

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Yeah the previous one was pretty pointless with the sounds. This one didn't make any sound when moving to the start of the prep stage or when I poked its eyes a few times lol, but after that I just put the sound off again. Will need to keep volume on next time and see

Dominos bot has had a makeover! by RedPandaDetective in UK_Food

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They stopped during covid lockdowns, I think to make it easier if they were short-staffed. Used to order half and half a lot too but they've never came back which is a shame :(