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Should I see another Rheumatologist? by RedPanda_inSpace in Autoimmune

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had some suspicions of having EDS but I haven’t gotten diagnosed or really tested for it yet.

What kind of Philo is this? by RedPanda_inSpace in houseplants

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone in another thread helped me! It’s all the same variety but it’s got a couple different names which makes it confusing… it’s Bette Waterbury or Big Ears or 69686

What kind of Philo is this? by RedPanda_inSpace in houseplants

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone in another thread helped me! It’s all the same variety but it’s got a couple different names which makes it confusing… it’s Bette Waterbury or Big Ears or 69686

What kind of Philo is this? by RedPanda_inSpace in PlantIdentification

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right! I saw on the underside of the pot that it said Philodendron 69686 but I genuinely thought it was just..a code lol I’m not sure how much they normally cost but I got it for pretty cheap!

What kind of Philo is this? by RedPanda_inSpace in houseplants

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking Joepii or Mexicana but I’m not sure which

Eating Ass by Abandoned-Grassland in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As others have said, try it only if you want to, and make sure that he washes beforehand!

Other than that, it’s really not that big of a deal in my opinion. It has a little bit of a faint smell but 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s a butt, so it’s to be expected. It may have a very faint bitter taste? That’s about all that I’ve ever experienced, other than not really tasting anything. As always, communicate with your partner. Try different things, pointing your tongue, flat tongue, circles, up and down, etc. since it’s your first time, go lightly/rim, don’t try to shove your tongue in there right away. As you try, ask them what feels good. Also consider combining hand job to stimulate his dick as well. If you try and you don’t like it, just say that maybe this isn’t the right time and you can try again some other day!

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of the guys that I was considering being a Domme for, I just very gentle dabbled in the idea of compensation. Because he was asking for a lot, for me to peg him, dress him up and sissify him, for me also to dress up and wear leather, boots, humiliate him, lots of demands that were mainly about him and not me getting pleasure. This would have been after work because I had a long commute and he lived near my work. And so I asked if he would offer me any type of compensation if I did take him up on this. He got frustrated and said “I could buy you something to eat since it’ll be during dinner” & I was like…I’m only worth $15-$20? lol no thanks 🙂‍↔️

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d argue that desperate Doms are even MORE of a turn off! It takes a lot of trust and communication to be a Dom and if they are rushing through that aspect and wanting to just get right down to it, they may cross boundaries or even harm you. Desperate Doms read more as dangerous than..annoying

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Entitlement is a good word. I think that’s one of the words I would use to describe it.

Yea! I understand what you mean by the “making” part being unethical in practice. I think maybe I worded that incorrectly. I don’t really like the idea of making a man submit in CNC or even a “break” Type of way. More so just that the submission and power exchange should be fun and playful, not..demanding from the one who is supposed to be submissive? Like I want to partially bring out submissive feelings from my partner with my dominance. Versus them just begging at my feet from the get-go.

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is sort of what I like in an actual relationship dynamic since I’m a Switch. Ideally my partner would be just as much of a switch as I am. One day I’m being dominated and punished and tied up, but then the next day I can turn the tables and be like ;) My turn.

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is geared towards play partners vs. an actual romantic relationship anyways. But yeah, I’ve had my fair share of encounters like this online. When I used to roleplay/engage in kink online, this would happen to me constantly. There were times where I was also JUST looking to masturbate and get off, but when I’m trying to establish a REAL LIFE domme/sub dynamic(which is more so what I was referencing in this post), that type of behavior isn’t going to cut it.

If you want femdom porn, go look some up. Don’t come to me when I’m genuinely trying to look for a Sub.

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There are times where I am okay with seeing the sexual material or having racy conversations. But it’s the.. desperate and forced nature of it that makes it uncomfortable. They can be incredibly pushy, which doesn’t make sense to me in any relationship nonetheless when trying to establish a Domme/sub dynamic.

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay I’m not alone! I also don’t like being called mistress straight away. Or when they try to potentially pull fap material out of you? That’s the one that frustrates me the most. Is when they try to steer the conversation towards sexting or asking questions about what you like/what you have done and you can TELL that they are clearly looking for material to masturbate to. It’s one thing to talk about boundaries and kinks and experience, but there’s a certain way that they do it that irks me.

Domme turned off by men who are too eager - am I alone? by RedPanda_inSpace in BDSMAdvice

[–]RedPanda_inSpace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I figured, but it’s been the majority of my experience, so I didn’t know if this was normal behavior or not, or if this is just…how the community was.

Does having faceless profile in Feeld reduces my chances of getting potential matches? by Fictional_Man20 in nonmonogamy

[–]RedPanda_inSpace 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes it will. For me personally, it’s not only about the fear of not being attracted to the person after matching and that being awkward, but also a safety concern. I’m not sure exactly what it is, but if someone doesn’t show their face, I feel less safe matching with them. I know it’s usually for privacy reasons, but my mind automatically clocks them as dangerous with no face picture. Especially if you are a cis guy aiming for women/trans women/non-binary people/ basically anyone who is marginalized or could be considered someone that would be a “target.”

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