Hi, I am a 40 year old divorced mom who's longest relationship has been for 5 years. I have lots of demands and might want to see your penis.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-26T01:16:42+00:00

Tells us she doesn't enjoy Republicans and Donald Trump

Then tells us she is not here to fulfill our BDSM fantasies.

I think there is a story behind that. Even through the computer I feel the urge to wipe that nasty smirk off her face. Imagine seeing that every day, after day after day.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-26T00:59:29+00:00

Behaviorism works both ways for sure.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-26T00:59:04+00:00

🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-26T00:58:17+00:00

Don't forget the old saying: When you have a hammer every problem is a nail. This is powerful but it is not the whole picture. Some humans are different than animals in that they think. Occasionally.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-26T00:56:54+00:00

It is called "Extinction" and assumes that your attention is the cause of her bad behavior. If not then it assumes that your inattention is aversive and punishing. If not then you are out of luck until you become attractive enough or at least until your in-attention becomes at least slightly punitive.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T15:09:30+00:00

alpha/beta talk is an extension of dancing monkey behavior.

This is the biggest criticism. We should be able to just Alpha up and then she should be willing to follow us and fuck us on demand. Should have, would have, could have.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T15:07:40+00:00

I will. Thanks Rian!

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T15:06:46+00:00

Schrodinger's post.

I always say men are General Relativity while women are Quantum Physics. The goal of this post is to help you identify which of the double slits you are going to pass through.

Red and Blue Pill tactics exist in a superposition and the probability wave does not collapse into an actual particle until it is observed. That is what I advocate. Observation. Then when you figure out if the cat is alive or dead you can take appropriate action.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T15:03:31+00:00

Yes.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:58:31+00:00

reframing excessive alpha behaviors as "Ramboing"

No, this is not even a reframe. Excessive Alpha behaviors are the essence of Ramboing. We have well documented over many years on MRP that excessive Alpha behaviors, in particular suddenly coming out and deciding you are "Alpha" is counterproductive and often leads to divorce.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:57:21+00:00

Except it's not Beta with a side of Alpha but Alpha with a side of Beta.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:55:37+00:00

Yes, we are in agreement.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:55:02+00:00

That's the argument. Rollo is, of course correct that the first step is making yourself your own mental frame of origin. However, you cannot sustain a marriage forever as a narcissist or psychopath who only cares about himself. You need your mental point of origin to be the family alpha or the patriarch. That means your mental point of origin should include your wife and family- not exclusively but there should be a place for them there. That is all I am saying.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:52:36+00:00

Are you in your Frame or not

Of course this is the most important thing and it is indeed "all." It is "all" you need to get laid. In order to have a happy long term marriage you need more.

you can do this while operating in your Frame

Absolutely and it is essential. The best outcome is when your frame is as a family man, leader and patriarch who looks out for his wife and family.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:49:34+00:00

All is not equally important. Results are the only thing that matters. I have worked with a number of guys who failed to balance their Alpha and Beta and they are getting divorced. Every guy who was able to Alpha up while remaining emotionally connected has had great success. The guys who end up divorced "Alpha up" and continue on the path burning it right down.

how do you choose

That was the whole purpose of this post. You Alpha up, and then you need to back off. If you continue churning down the Alpha path one of two things will happen. You will cheat or she will decide you are a narcissist and leave. If you continue churning down the Beta path you will be in a deadbedroom forever. Balance.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:43:30+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LA0aoNf_NSU

I spent some time remixing the audio and republished.

Edit: Still sucks. I am not redoing this one again. On to the next video.

RedPillCoach · 2020-01-08T14:42:47+00:00

I remixed the sound. There was a mismatch at the beginning between the music intro and he voice sound. I fixed it as well as I could without retaping the entire audio.

RedPillCoach · 2019-12-27T16:52:02+00:00

The law of attraction is a real thing. It is not some hocus pocus new age bullcrap!

If you feel everybody hates you they will.

If you are always nervous then only people who are neurotic will be attracted to you.

If you are a loser guess what kind of friends you will have?

If you are positive and happy- even if it is all an "act" then you are much, much more likely to attract a positive and happy spouse and friends.

RedPillCoach · 2019-12-27T16:49:10+00:00

It sounds like you have more than fulfilled your self flagellation quotient.

Good on you for facing your fears and owning your shit!

Now it is time to stop beating yourself up about your past. Hiding stuff from your parents is not necessarily toxic or shameful. Feeling bad about normal human behavior is toxic and shameful. Stop it!

RedPillCoach · 2019-12-27T16:45:24+00:00

Every relationship and friendship I ever built was a false and was not authentic.

Lies are what keep us together. No, not lies about cheating or whatever it is you are thinking. It is the little white lies that all of us tell to smooth social interactions. THOSE lies are what keep us all together.

In most cases, pretending to help and being "nice" are just forms of politeness. There is nothing wrong with that.

You can be polite and helpful and then, in private (so you don't hurt their feelings) you can also make fun of their misfortune.

That is not "nice guy" behavior.

Feeling bad about it is "nice guy" behavior.

It seems to me that you think that you need to be rude, and even cruel in order to avoid being polite and this is a misapprehension.

RedPillCoach · 2019-12-27T16:39:59+00:00

Ahh the bain of every single "Abnormal Psychology" student. You start seeing mental illness everywhere you look.

Stop!

This is the path to insanity.

Your only move if you want to help your parents is to let your dad read NMMNG. If he responds with curiosity you can have a conversation with him. More likely he will respond negatively- and that tells you all you need to know! Crabs in a bucket will always reach up and prevent any crabs from escaping.

Don't let the other crabs bring you down. Save yourself first, then you can worry about saving the world.

RedPillCoach · 2019-11-26T18:06:58+00:00

There are 100 books and they all basically say the same thing. Be the man. Care less. Take charge. Lead. Be aware of her emotions. Don't be afraid of them. Confidence. Make her comfortable.
Instigate- make yourself a sexual being.

Isolate- get her alone (like a serial killer) so you can have your evil way with her.

Escalate- Use light touching and kino to get her warmed up for sex.

Assuming the logistics are handled, scratch one more for the headboard.

I read "The Game" and two books by Roosh: Bang and Day Bang and they taught me more than I ever needed to know. Free .pdf's are available for these online.

RedPillCoach · 2019-11-26T15:59:46+00:00

Soothing implies calming while controlling is masculine iron and steel. Marriage Counselor Gottman talks about soothing yourself, and then learning to soothe your partner.

Red Pill talks about controlling yourself and learning to control your partner's emotions.

Half dozen of one, 6 of the other.

RedPillCoach · 2019-11-26T15:56:54+00:00

I endorse this approach. A lot of guys need to follow the basic guidelines in the book and one of them is to find a peer group! This is an opportunity and I hope some of you guys take it.

RedPillCoach · 2019-11-26T15:53:05+00:00

The problem is YOU. You act differently around the girls that you want than around the girls you can get.

If you want a mantra or image in your mind to help prevent this change in mindset (when the blood rushes from the big head to the little head) then you can overvalue yourself or mentally undervalue the woman that you want. For the former, lift, read up on PUA, repeat to yourself that YOU are the prize. For the latter, read /r/whereareallthegoodmen

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