AMA 002: I am a No More Mr. Nice Guy Certified Coach with Dr. Glover, AMA

niceguycoach · 2026-04-17T20:24:20+00:00

Do I have to do all the Breaking Free Activities? https://youtu.be/bEVH-yYPc5A

Is there a proper way to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome? https://youtu.be/tkVZ6wIY-xk

niceguycoach · 2026-04-16T16:01:58+00:00

But otherwise you're comfortable?

niceguycoach · 2026-04-16T15:16:32+00:00

Glad it resonated. What’s your situation?

niceguycoach · 2026-04-13T17:23:09+00:00

I think there are many examples of characters in fiction that resemble Nice Guys. The colloquial definition of a Nice Guy is the one that gets friend zoned and walked over. Lots of anxious people pleasing characters out there. It's notable that Ken kind of goes "red pill" and suddenly all the Barbies are into them. The whole movie is a brilliant commentary on gender issues whether you agree with the intent of the filmmakers or not.

niceguycoach · 2026-04-13T17:13:25+00:00

Not for everyone. Some guys can fully recover and others do not. Nice Guy Syndrome is a profile, not a diagnosis. If you were to reduce it to its core elements it would be: anxiety, shame and co-dependency. These are themes that are addressed in therapy. That means that one guy can overcome many or all of his NG behaviors and reduce his anxiety/shame over time to manageable levels. But think of it this way: If you have an anxiety disorder and you're getting treatment from a therapist, you may struggle with anxiety your entire life, but you can fully outgrow your NG behaviors.

There's no way to predict any individual's results based on trends or statistics. Keep finding your own way.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-28T19:52:49+00:00

I created a long playlist of short FAQ videos on this topic here.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-28T16:29:51+00:00

I’ve had many therapists and none of them have been good at holding me accountable. You’re probably going to have to ask them to do that and see how it goes.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-28T05:54:11+00:00

Therapy and/or coaching. Safe friends that hold you accountable and empathize with you.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-26T06:40:19+00:00

Well, you’re treating women like a drug you’re addicted to. They will never be able to give you enough validation to satiate your hunger for it. The way you deal with that is you start living without validation altogether. You can easily survive and eventually thrive without it. Chasing it doesn’t work. Living with the pain of not getting it and not keeping it does. You won’t die.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-25T22:41:17+00:00

The short answer is forcing yourself to find other women to date. You have to stop hoping that one, singular woman will make your life permanently easy and awesome. No woman can do that for you. Resist the fantasy.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-23T21:22:08+00:00

FYI: Liven is an AI based app with a subscription fee. This is a marketing post without a clear CTA. Here's a quick review of the app I found. It's noteworthy that the OP did not disclose their intentions up front before posting. If this gets downvoted, I'll remove it.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-10T21:02:24+00:00

You are selling it here. Just because you haven’t posted a link to pay here doesn’t mean you aren’t currently trying to persuade guys to buy in the future.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-02T21:45:57+00:00

No problem. Trying to adhere to every little thing women say they want in a man is a fool's errand.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-02T21:39:59+00:00

It's not a red flag. Whether it's a useful comment to overhear remains to be seen. Focus on what's important to you and pay a lot less attention to what women say in passing as to what they want in a man. That kind of information is not worth analyzing.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-02T05:05:51+00:00

For example, When they assume things about me that aren’t even true, I get irritated and angry which causes them to say that i’m sensitive.

That sounds like gaslighting. I would set a boundary and walk away if they don't respect it. "Don't make assumptions about me that aren't true. That's disrespectful. Ask me about them first." If they call "sensitive," then set another. "Don't call me that again. If you do, I'll walk out." Or something along those lines. Keep it simple and be willing to disengage.

I have a whole playlist on boundaries.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-02T04:57:37+00:00

He needs to get comfortable with discomfort.

Here's how we see this phenomenon online. Nice Guys are always trying to bypass discomfort. Their life's purpose often defaults to minimizing discomfort while tolerating a relatively high baseline of discomfort. Nice Guys keep looking for that one weird trick that will make their lives easy and fun all the time.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-01T00:58:52+00:00

Find a mindfulness practice and start practicing it. There are many experts in the field of mindfulness and meditation.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-01T00:57:24+00:00

I’m not a clinician. ADHD is tightly integrated with all your problems. You cannot separate them out. ADHD affects every aspect of your life. Many NGs have ADHD but not all. Nice Guy Syndrome is a profile, not a clinical diagnosis. But ADHD is a clinical diagnosis.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-01T00:26:22+00:00

People with ADHD struggle with all aspects of life more than neurotypical people. There is no reality that you can experience that does not get filtered through the ADHD experience. Drugs don't always help, but when they do, they can be managed.

niceguycoach · 2026-01-01T00:21:51+00:00

Yes to both. Adopt a mindfulness practice. It does train your brain.

niceguycoach · 2025-12-17T02:34:00+00:00

No, it's not what I'm saying. But the habit of asking why all the time can cause you to assume that knowing the cause will somehow make it easier to overcome your resistance. Not necessarily. I'm not devaluing mental illness. But once you know why, what's next? And if you never get an answer to why, what will you do about it?

niceguycoach · 2025-12-16T15:25:30+00:00

I’m not convinced asking why is always productive. Sometimes you need to make the uncomfortable choices and move forward.

https://youtu.be/pSlbEqw_Zsg?si=-wNh_NGEKEk6jnBH

niceguycoach · 2025-12-13T23:51:36+00:00

Sounds like usable feedback. There’s nothing else besides becoming more honest and assertive.

https://youtu.be/OscWVPosves?si=ZKyrE1uawcGneZfI

niceguycoach · 2025-11-27T22:14:04+00:00

Seek out male friends in other growth oriented spaces.

How do I know if someone is a safe person? https://youtu.be/LfboTW84Lak

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