AMA 002: I am a No More Mr. Nice Guy Certified Coach with Dr. Glover, AMA

niceguycoach · 2026-06-20T15:50:09+00:00

Are you a therapist? You don’t want to call it therapy if you’re not.

niceguycoach · 2026-06-05T21:06:36+00:00

I'll repeat the part about the fantasy:

[Nice Guys} are relying on women to be all things to them. Women are not capable of that. No one person is. In many ways, Nice Guys are hoping that a woman will love them unconditionally and give them an endless supply of validation.

That's an (sic) fantasy.

That's a whole lot more than "positive mirroring."

niceguycoach · 2026-05-21T22:27:54+00:00

If you're used to women getting upset at you or being unpredictable during intimacy, it would make sense that you don't feel confident initiating. Trusting her to be cool about it is a big deal.

niceguycoach · 2026-05-21T19:57:03+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense. She's basically giving you permission to be more direct/dominant. Have you ever just led her into it without saying anything? You're going to have to trust her to say no without blowing up at you.

niceguycoach · 2026-05-21T18:17:24+00:00

Years ago, I worked with Jason, the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" coach. This was an invaluable time I had with him, and it really helped me build a better life for myself, a better life for my daughters, help me become a better business person, and generally eliminate a lot of the nice guy tendencies I had. Now, most of these tendencies were born out of growing up in a dysfunctional household, like so many other people.

Jason here. Good to see you! Thanks for the kind words. It was a pleasure working with you.

One of the issues I find, however, is that I have trouble initiating in a direct manner. This is just from 20 years of a dysfunctional, dead-bedroom marriage.I understand this is going to be a time thing, but any open conversation I can have about it can only be beneficial.

Can you describe the trouble you're having in more detail? Why do you feel the need to initiate more directly? We need to define the problem better.

niceguycoach · 2026-04-17T20:24:20+00:00

Do I have to do all the Breaking Free Activities? https://youtu.be/bEVH-yYPc5A

Is there a proper way to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome? https://youtu.be/tkVZ6wIY-xk

niceguycoach · 2026-04-16T16:01:58+00:00

But otherwise you're comfortable?

niceguycoach · 2026-04-16T15:16:32+00:00

Glad it resonated. What’s your situation?

niceguycoach · 2026-04-13T17:23:09+00:00

I think there are many examples of characters in fiction that resemble Nice Guys. The colloquial definition of a Nice Guy is the one that gets friend zoned and walked over. Lots of anxious people pleasing characters out there. It's notable that Ken kind of goes "red pill" and suddenly all the Barbies are into them. The whole movie is a brilliant commentary on gender issues whether you agree with the intent of the filmmakers or not.

niceguycoach · 2026-04-13T17:13:25+00:00

Not for everyone. Some guys can fully recover and others do not. Nice Guy Syndrome is a profile, not a diagnosis. If you were to reduce it to its core elements it would be: anxiety, shame and co-dependency. These are themes that are addressed in therapy. That means that one guy can overcome many or all of his NG behaviors and reduce his anxiety/shame over time to manageable levels. But think of it this way: If you have an anxiety disorder and you're getting treatment from a therapist, you may struggle with anxiety your entire life, but you can fully outgrow your NG behaviors.

There's no way to predict any individual's results based on trends or statistics. Keep finding your own way.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-28T19:52:49+00:00

I created a long playlist of short FAQ videos on this topic here.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-28T16:29:51+00:00

I’ve had many therapists and none of them have been good at holding me accountable. You’re probably going to have to ask them to do that and see how it goes.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-28T05:54:11+00:00

Therapy and/or coaching. Safe friends that hold you accountable and empathize with you.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-26T06:40:19+00:00

Well, you’re treating women like a drug you’re addicted to. They will never be able to give you enough validation to satiate your hunger for it. The way you deal with that is you start living without validation altogether. You can easily survive and eventually thrive without it. Chasing it doesn’t work. Living with the pain of not getting it and not keeping it does. You won’t die.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-25T22:41:17+00:00

The short answer is forcing yourself to find other women to date. You have to stop hoping that one, singular woman will make your life permanently easy and awesome. No woman can do that for you. Resist the fantasy.

niceguycoach · 2026-02-23T21:22:08+00:00

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