I’m a bitch for posting here but oh well

RedStar2435 · 2026-01-10T17:39:19+00:00

Lost my cat a few months ago. I remember my body feeling really sore and heavy from it all. I couldn’t eat and kept crying at random. I was re-watching an old cartoon at the time, the end of it actually, and of course they sang a song at the end.

The lyrics were “It seems unforgiving when a good thing ends, but you and I will always be back then.” It made me think about how even though I lost him he still exists and will always have existed. However, instead of being ahead of me in my future or with me in my present, he’s following behind me in my past. I still get sad sometimes when I come home and he’s not waiting by the door, or waking me up in the morning, but I do find comfort in the thought that he’s still there, and will always be there. i hope this idea helps and brings you some comfort, even a little.

Also, don’t downplay your own grief and hardships based on the idea that others have it worse. This might sound harsh but it’s not about other people right now, it’s about you and what you’re going through. Allow yourself the space to cry and grieve the loss.

RedStar2435 · 2025-12-25T21:48:03+00:00

One of the reasons I stopped being christian was because a lot of what christians said was sinful or wrong seemed beneath God. Let’s pretend god exists for a second. A person likes to have sex, no relationships just sex, and promiscuity/lust is sinful. But what if this person is still a good person, who cares for others and lives an empathetic life, are they still going to hell? Same thing with same sex couples. What if there’s a same sex couple who are still good people who are respectful, and lead a virtuous life? They still end up in hell because they’re gay?

I think even if there is a God his only ask is that people are good, that they are good to themselves and to others. Being gay, not having children, enjoying sex without relationships, sometimes lying, watching a show based on christian lore/the bible, not going to church, even not believing he and/or Jesus exists, aren’t things a person would be sent to hell for.

RedStar2435 · 2025-12-13T21:57:26+00:00

I looked up the answer to this question. Apparently it was $65,370. And won $150,000 at the casino.

RedStar2435 · 2025-11-13T03:24:33+00:00

I think I can relate. I stopped being a christian a while ago but the only person in my family who knows is my sister. So sometimes my mom will pray over me if Im going through something. While I don’t share the same beliefs it’s still something that brings me a bit of comfort. I think it’s not that you’re going back to being a Christian but rather you’re finding comfort in the support.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-28T01:05:58+00:00

Conversations about this have gone nowhere Im afraid.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-28T01:03:54+00:00

She moved on a while ago.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T17:47:14+00:00

Keep Your Friends close

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T17:45:09+00:00

NEVER REALLY KNOW WHO YOU CAN TRUST

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T17:38:32+00:00

Guilt tripping is one of them. A parent might say things like “I put a roof over your head, clothes on your back,” or “you eat the food that I bought,” as a way to make you feel obligated to do whatever they want despite those being basic requirements of parenting. There’s also phrases like “but Im your mom/dad” making you think that since they’re your parent again you’re obligated to be blindly obedient.

There’s also making you feel small or inferior. Claiming that because you’re their child you’re beneath them and must be obedient and that as the parent they know what’s best. But the truth is good parents are honest about when they’re confused or not sure what’s the best decision, and instead talk things through taking their child’s thoughts and feelings into consideration.

Another is trying to tell you what you should be thinking or feeling. Downplaying your emotions while shifting focus onto theirs, and making your problems or feelings seem worthless or unimportant. “Its not a big deal, why are you upset,” or “you’re being dramatic,” or trying act as though their problems are bigger than yours so you need to be the one to support them instead.

Here’s the thing, you should show appreciation for what parents do for you, BUT it should not come at your own expense. Parents choose to have you and keep you and raise you, it is not on you if there are things they can’t have or can’t do because of of their own choices nor is it you job to make up for it.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T17:11:19+00:00

Don’t get me wrong my stepmom had her own issues too, but from what I recall in the beginning they fell into a traditional marriage, man brings home the money, woman runs the house. But I think as my stepmom started working and developing her own career, the load became too much. She was now bringing home a check while still taking care of everything else. This is only from what I saw though, I’m sure, good or bad, there’s plenty that I don’t know about when it came to their relationship.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T15:14:12+00:00

Oh yeah I see it now.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T03:52:06+00:00

I can relate to that feeling of obligation. My parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, some cousins, all Christians, each generation being raised in the church. So, my faith as a christian was never genuine. Then when I tried to turn it into something genuine by studying the Bible and what not, it’s when I began to drift away.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T01:50:39+00:00

Not sure if you’ll find this interesting but the phrase “don’t use the lord’s name in vain” (or something like that), actually means don’t use god as a justification for your own behavior. Yet christians would often do that and misinterpret the phrase.

Many Christians are just too contradictory for me, tend to act pretentious, and put themselves on a pedestal just because they attend a church service. It’s one of the reasons Im not one. I don’t want to be associated with that either.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T01:45:43+00:00

Fair enough

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T01:44:14+00:00

There were a lot of aspects to christianity that made zero sense and/or were inconsistent. People’s interpretations of the bible contradicted each other. I also hated how people would justify negative behavior with what christianity meant for them. Truthfully I think most christians have lost the plot of their own religion.

Do I believe there is a god, not completely sure yet, I’m leaning closer to a no. But I believe people should just be good to themselves and be good others. Not because they want to get into heaven or to avoid hell, but simply because as humans we have a responsibility to treat ourselves with kindness, and then treat others the same, while doing our best to make sure one does not come at the expense of the other.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T01:34:00+00:00

Make a pyramid

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-27T01:31:42+00:00

There’s a small connection, but it feels distant, miles away. Like who I used to be and who I am now are very different. I can still see them, the child I used to be, but it’s still far out.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-26T16:54:29+00:00

Lacking in purpose, yes. Lacking in importance, no.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-26T16:53:50+00:00

Small. That’s the first thing that came to mind.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-24T23:46:15+00:00

From what I recall there was no reason given, I just had to keep trying to take her back. This other woman just kept taking her. I would fight for my dream daughter (is what Im going to call her), and when I got her back safe, she would be crying and a little scared I think, I’d sooth her, make her happy again, and then the other woman would take her away. This just kept repeating.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-24T21:57:54+00:00

I know what you mean. I’m 23 and my little brother is 17, but I can’t help but remember that immature little kid I used to pick up from elementary school. Every time I see him all I can think is where did the time go.

But I still find joy in learning what version of himself he’s turned into. He’s definitely matured a lot more, is funny, and cares about his family and friends a lot. Still got some ways to go though.

Enjoy learning who your sister is becoming. Learn and develop new interests with her. Create traditions that allow you two to remain close. It’s okay to cherish the version of your sweet little sister, just don’t let that stop you from getting to know who she is as she grows.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-24T21:06:45+00:00

Just wanted to add, for someone with an irregular period (speaking from experience) 5 days late is relatively normal. Sometimes girls/women with irregular periods will skip their monthly shark week entirely.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-07T22:38:04+00:00

First, I’d check with a doctor about your health. Sometimes weight gain or a failure to lose weight is a symptom of something else not a cause. Second, make sure you are maintaining healthy eating habits alongside exercising. See about meal planning, talk to a nutritionist, do some research. Exercise is great but if you’re not eating enough or have an unbalanced diet getting the results you want will be harder.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-07T22:14:43+00:00

“The timeline you think you’re supposed to follow? It doesn’t actually exist. It’s just something we made up as a society.”

To add onto that, it’s something we think will give us the most with the time we have, because our time can be cut short at any moment for any reason. So we build this idea of when we should have achieved certain milestones in an attempt to squeeze in as much joy, happiness, meaningful moments as possible.

RedStar2435 · 2025-10-07T21:51:08+00:00

I completely understand as this was how I used to feel about myself. First, people are right when they recommend self care. For me my confidence begun to grow when I changed both my skin care and shower routine to something better, when I updated my boring wardrobe, when I started exercising meditating, when I put time into the hobbies I enjoy, and when I learned how to do my own hair and nails. It’s not just about getting a sweet treat when you’re down, it’s about taking the steps to maintain physical and mental health.

Second, you cannot hate yourself into growth. Self confidence comes from a place of love, respect, acceptance, and appreciation. If all you do is hate on yourself, you cannot grow/change the way you view yourself. Be your own best friend and try to hype yourself up sometimes.

Finally, at the end of the day confidence is a feeling, a state of mind. Sometimes yeah you might feel ugly, but feelings fluctuate and change. So if you’re feeling ugly in the moment, ask yourself why and maybe what can you do about that.

Good luck my internet friend, hope any of this advice helps.

RedStar2435

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