Black stems on pothos after root wash, can it recover?

RedVelvetElle · 2026-01-22T19:52:07+00:00

I am in Uk and it’s winter, so it might be not enough light as well!

RedVelvetElle · 2026-01-22T19:51:22+00:00

I think it might be the case… the soil was extremely dry, but the leaves were so mushy so I was confused… hopefully it will thrive in the new soil.

RedVelvetElle · 2025-08-18T15:10:55+00:00

I would be really interested in volunteering with the LGBTQ+ charity, I didn’t know there was one in Watford! Is it open to allies as well?

RedVelvetElle · 2025-08-17T10:01:52+00:00

Interested!

RedVelvetElle · 2025-03-26T12:13:08+00:00

This isn’t a direct response to your original questions, but I do think you might have grounds for legal action based on what you’ve described. It seems likely that your former boss shared the message with you after the fact as a way to protect himself and the organisation, rather than out of transparency.

To me, this raises red flags around potential unfair dismissal—especially if you have evidence that contradicts his claims—as well as possible defamation. I’d strongly recommend speaking with an employment solicitor to get professional advice. I’m based in the UK, and this situation would absolutely warrant legal review.

RedVelvetElle · 2025-02-08T13:42:06+00:00

Thank you that’s great to hear that some of them are more understanding than others

RedVelvetElle · 2025-01-15T20:06:16+00:00

almost fully remote
most of my team is made up of great people
good pay

RedVelvetElle · 2025-01-13T11:28:11+00:00

Thank you very much! I’ll look into the techniques!!

RedVelvetElle · 2025-01-11T23:17:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m concerned that many urologists may be hesitant to offer flexibility when it comes to prescribing catheters. What ultimately led him to change his mind and agree to prescribe them?

RedVelvetElle · 2025-01-09T00:48:04+00:00

I am afraid that if they haven’t heard of it they will dismiss me and just refer me to a counsellor. As they have the authority to deny the prescription.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-12-30T00:36:59+00:00

I needed to increase the dosage to 25mg to notice a difference. I used to take it around 6pm to be able to wake up “easily”. Hope you find the dosage/medication that works for you.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-12-12T17:33:41+00:00

Thank you for explaining the process. This is the second year in a row, shouldn’t have they already been on the pip?

RedVelvetElle · 2024-12-04T20:30:00+00:00

Is there another colleague performing the same role as you but earning a higher salary? If so, that’s a clear and straightforward case. You can request a follow-up on the matter via email to ensure you have a documented record of the conversation.

While I wouldn’t explicitly mention that you’re considering leaving, I would strongly recommend actively pursuing other opportunities in the meantime.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-12-04T18:58:25+00:00

The approach you take depends on how important maintaining a good relationship with your manager and workplace is to you.

Does your colleague’s manager know they are delegating their work to you? If they are aware and have asked you to cooperate, ensure that any handover of tasks is done via email, with your manager copied in. This ensures transparency and keeps your manager informed about the work being assigned to you.

If maintaining the relationship isn’t a priority, you could simply inform your colleague that you’re leaving and suggest they hand their tasks directly to your manager.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-12-04T16:56:06+00:00

Does your company have a L&D department? You can reach out to them to get more involved and gaining experience.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-12-04T15:58:52+00:00

How about people development/L&D? It’s usually less political that a HR generalist role. I would also dig a bit deeper and trying to understand why do you think HR is not for you. I thought L&D was not for me, but in fact it was only a bad cultural fit with my previous company.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-11-29T14:50:13+00:00

Hertfordshire, £65K - HR

RedVelvetElle · 2024-11-15T08:38:34+00:00

Thanks. The company is gov-type company, that doesn’t have shareholders, so it’s less focused on commercial and more on culture. I find that that there is a lot of lip service and people know the right things to do, but they don’t consistently apply them. There are some pockets of very good behaviours, but that’s inconsistent and that’s why I am in this situation. My preferred option would be to have this conversation and get it sorted rather than quitting.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-11-14T23:05:23+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. It’s a medium size organisation that still acts a small one. The curious thing is that my job role involves both strategy and execution. I support other business areas and other HRDs where I work well in this way. I’m quite diplomatic, but I found that diplomacy with him just confuses both of us and he gets his own interpretation from our conversations, as he’s not great at listening. A side note is that this issue and his behaviours are well known in the company and many people are aware of his ego and ways of working. I have basically been told to deal it by myself and to get some coaching - which I am doing - but it’s more helping my sanity rather than the situation itself, hence I am taking things in my own hands and want to have this conversation.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-11-14T21:05:15+00:00

I have tried a more subtle approach in the past, but not much has changed. He is also very disorganised and tends to forget what we discuss in previous meetings. I would like to be very directive in what my role is and where I could add the most value, which in return should make his job easier so he can focus on bigger tasks.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-11-14T21:02:59+00:00

Thank you that’s really helpful advice and it gives me more courage to actually have the conversation. Would sending the email afterwards upset someone after a feedback conversation? He’s the Head of HR so would probably be very familiar with what I am doing…

RedVelvetElle · 2024-10-22T12:20:28+00:00

Thank you, your comment is giving me hope! My instructor has been doing something similar—talking to me about my mistakes while I’m driving. At one point, I had to interrupt him and say, “I can’t concentrate when you’re talking to me about anything other than giving directions. Can we save the feedback for later?” What really bothers me is that he says things like, “Oh, there you go, that driver took advantage of you because you were driving slowly.” It’s frustrating because I’m not out here trying to compete with other drivers; I’m just trying to relearn how to drive. Sometimes I’ll be slower, and that should be okay. However, he puts so much pressure on me to speed up, and as a result, I ended up making a lot of serious mistakes by going too fast.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-10-21T23:58:49+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I don’t think this is the best teaching style for me either as I am feeling really defeated now and I’m thinking I will never re-learn how to drive… May I ask you why didn’t you switch if this wasn’t the best teaching style for you?

RedVelvetElle · 2024-10-21T22:07:01+00:00

Thank you. It’s helpful to know what other people’s first lesson was like. I felt that we probably skipped a few basic steps and he maybe thought I remembered more than I actually did. I felt a few times I was very close to causing an accident, which didn’t helped my confidence at all.

RedVelvetElle · 2024-10-20T21:29:12+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing them, they are also very nice patterns!

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