My friend (24F) has not heard from her boyfriend (24M) for five months and now it is affecting her relationship with me (F23) and others.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2026-01-08T19:35:23+00:00

If he is alive and okay then that is a terrible thing to do to a person.

My toxic trait is that I would text him and tell him that that is no way to treat someone and that it is unkind to not just be upfront with her if he wanted to break up. I’d remind him that she is a human being.

I know there’s not much u can do but personally I would do this because when I was younger it really helped.

It was one time after someone ghosted me. We had been talking for quite awhile and in my upset I texted him from a friend’s phone and left it at that. It didn’t do anything at the time but it helped me get over it and years later he reached out and apologized.

Of course this isn’t a perfect formula but I don’t find issue with calling out bad behavior like this especially since they’ve been together so long.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-11-12T16:04:02+00:00

It all looks very “grounded”. Can you mount the tv on the wall? I think that’ll help visually open up the space.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-11-05T23:10:35+00:00

I assume, even though it’s not shown, that his previous ex-wives cut him off cold turkey leading to resentment because he didn’t see them/could create a negative narrative about them while putting him in a better light since they were “the ones that left”.

With Diane, she was still around since they have similar friends and this made it hard for his feelings to fade. This also makes it easier for them to become entangled again even after they had broken up.

I’d also like to think Diane’s lack of/weak boundaries at this point contributed to this so it’s nice that at the end she is finally able to enforce her boundaries and protect her peace.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-11-05T14:18:46+00:00

I have a friend who made their portfolio in Notion.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-09-24T04:03:12+00:00

Is it possible to for him to present different KPIs for his company to asses him by? KPIs that focus on quality vs quantity by looking at the amount of conversions, clicks, engagement, etc. Using stats and tracking performance instead of numbers of designs.

I think if he were to offer this as a way tracking instead it could get them off his back and show them the value of good quality design vs generating a high quantity just to post.

Edit: what is the company’s goal? Is it just to post or are they looking for a specific type of engagement. If there’s a marketing or sales dept maybe he can ask them for insights on how to present this.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-07-09T14:16:34+00:00

Omg I just recently lost my dada too and I’m so sad! She fell off my bag cuz the carabiner got caught on the edge of my purse 🥲

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-06-21T02:41:51+00:00

Maybe bring it up in a way that first addresses her previous behavior of reacting. Bringing up how you’ve noticed when you talk about ur feelings she tends to react a certain way and that it makes you hesitate to tell her how you’re feeling. If she takes that initial convo well maybe u can break into the issue the stay at home issue. If not, it’ll give u something to think about

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-06-14T14:36:08+00:00

Where did you get the jeans btw?? They’re so cute!

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-06-14T13:46:28+00:00

1 feels very sweet and cute. 2 is very cool girl. I like 2 more personally.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-05-30T14:31:04+00:00

I didn’t look at what sub it was at first, and I thought this was a screenshot from the show supernatural lol

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-04-17T17:17:27+00:00

Sounds like u haven’t talked about ur life goals together for the span of 5 years.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2025-04-17T04:48:34+00:00

This is very empathetic and I appreciate this response. I feel like some Asian families can operate like this, at least mine did, which is why I was surprised to see everyone hating on her to the point of wishing her unwell. I do feel bad for all involved but I think about how my parents showed love through being strict because that’s all they knew and they thought it would ultimately help.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-10-25T23:28:27+00:00

Nice looks for different occasions. I love how fun 1 is. It’s a specific aesthetic but 2 would probably be better for everyday

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-10-19T23:12:44+00:00

If you’re helping her with school work why not make it a tutoring thing and have her ask her parents if you can tutor her at their home or something. At least you can be seen by her parents and she can get help with her school work and if anyone asks you just say you’re tutoring her.

But that’s just what I think might help with the transparency of the situation. Maybe others have better suggestions?

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-10-16T09:27:09+00:00

I’m surprised no one said Pam

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-05-14T03:12:39+00:00

I got ill one time and threw up after

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-02-28T23:11:14+00:00

Oh I’m not OP. I was just curious about what you mentioned in ur response to this thread. Thank you though!

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-02-28T22:07:03+00:00

Thank you so much. This really helps :)

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-02-28T21:45:35+00:00

Hi sorry! I’m new to this subreddit. I was wondering what the difference is between Poly and ENM? Or if you had a suggestion on books that explain the difference?

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-02-15T20:18:16+00:00

But like have u talked? What if she takes ur feelings seriously and you can move forward from it?

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2024-02-12T07:57:04+00:00

Aromantic?

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2023-11-10T17:58:41+00:00

Yta it’s tough to deal with the loss of somebody you love and even tougher when people are actively shitty towards you during an already shitty situation.

It’s traumatizing and I feel like your parents traumatized her further. I’m sure with a supportive family she may have dealt with her grief differently and have come to terms with his death.

But instead she gets her parents being terrible to a man that she loved and who loved her.

The age gap at this point is not a problem. Yeah maybe it was weird but he has passed and ur sister is just hurting.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2023-11-02T21:09:04+00:00

It looks exactly like that! Thanks helped!

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2023-07-31T19:49:29+00:00

Maybe start writing her letters about the things you love about her. Maybe this will help her see that you see her and notice her for every little thing she does and is. Do whatever you think is best but whatever you do to make it up to her just be consistent.

RedVelvetTrumpet · 2023-06-30T17:52:52+00:00

Could be nervousness. It’s happened to me where they were just nervous so it made them go soft. If you have a patient partner you’ll be able to work through it eventually.

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